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Anger Management

Are you looking for a good fight? Do your relationships become about power and control more than about relating? If you are in situations where there is violent behaviour, anger management counselling can help you. Behaviour is learned; safety plans can be put into place. You can learn proper and balanced use of personal power that builds mutual respect, and capacity to love.

In crisis intervention, families, probation officers, social workers, sometimes employers ask for anger management skill development. Part of damage control is to upskill, move away from power and control dramas, violence, and intimidation, especially in the face of danger or destruction. Counselling can empower you, help you to communicate better, so you can function at a higher level. 

Emotional literacy and self- regulationskills allow you to have peace and dignity for yourself and others and to build relationships, hold down jobs better. Balanced and proper control helps you to get your needs met, get the jobs done, and help you enjoy your life more.

Healthy use of Personal Power

Managing Anger: Safety plans need to include areas Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual needs for yourself, and others. Bring down the intensity, volume and danger down to a calm level. 

Boundaries: You get to put into place "RULES", to help you and others feel safe in all areas of your life. By talking and listening, and focusing on what needs to happen to meet your goals, you can negotiate win/win solutions to your situations. Ask for what you want, create what you need, but in a healthy, balanced way. Feel good about yourself anbd others.

What is underneath the anger? What needs to happen? What is the unmet need or fear?

In our jobs, our social situations, and in our relationships we experience projection, transference, co-dependency and bully patterns. Observing the anger patterns playing out in your life, opens up the possibilities and choices of new behaviours that could fit better

Is it Fear underneath the Anger? 

Fear responses include jeolousy, fear of  harm, humiliation, shame, loss, and guilt. 

High levels of  "Stoked" or Suppressed anger can register in your body and become sickness. Trauma that has not been dealt with can result in mental illness. Narcissistic rage can be part of family patterns and passed to family members, creating instability, craziness and drama trauma. Often narcisstic rage is part of addiction patterns. 

Reflecting on your behavior, emotional responses, triggers, and in owning your reactions; allows you to observe, to process emotion, and integrate your experiences. You can choose different outcomes, roles, expectations, responsibilities and make new choices. Regain safety, respect, self control and dignity, for yourself and others.

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