Duffy, Fr. Stephen

Manhattan College Alumni - Class of 1962 

Fr. Stephen Duffy
Manhattan College Alumni - Class of

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Fr. Stephen Duffy

DUFFY Fr. Stephen Duffy Pastor and assistant pastor, 72 Dr. Stephen Duffy, 72, of Long Branch and Green Acres, Fla., died Sunday, Sept. 9, 2007, at Care One at King James Nursing and Rehab Center, Middletown. Family and friends are invited to call at St. Agnes Church, 103 Center Ave., Atlantic Highlands, N.J. 07716, on Thursday from 4 until 7 p.m. A Vigil Mass will be celebrated at St. Agnes Church Thursday evening at 7:30 p.m. The Funeral Mass will be celebrated Friday morning at 10 a.m. from the church. The burial will follow the Mass at Maryrest Cemetery, Mahwah. The Condon Funeral Home, Leonardo, is in charge of arrangements.

Born in Queens, Mr. Duffy lived in many areas of New Jersey that his priesthood took him to. After graduating both Manhattan College and Seton Hall University, he was ordained into the priesthood in 1965. Fr. Duffys first Mass was celebrated at St. Anastasia in Teaneck. He was pastor/assistant pastor and/or taught at St. Augustine in Union City and St. Josephs, Jersey City. He also taught at Mater Dei High School in New Monmouth and St. Teresas in Summit and was a member of the faculty at Straight and Narrow Facility in Paterson, Christian Brothers Academy in Lincroft, Roselle Catholic High School in Roselle, St. Pauls in Jersey City and Oratory in Summit and was retired from and served the Parishes of St. Agnes in Atlantic Highlands, Our Lady of Perpetual Help in Highland and Holy Cross of Rumson.

Fr. Duffy was a member of St. Agnes Holy Name Society, the Serra Club and Knights of Columbus. He was predeceased by his parents, Stephen and Anita Duffy, and a brother, John Duffy. He is survived by sister and brother-in-law, Barbara and Joseph Manis, N.J.; brother and sister-in-law, Peter and Ellen Duffy, Pa.; niece, Suzanne Duffy, and nephews, Thomas and Michael Duffy. In lieu of flowers, donations should be made to the Priest Care and Retirement Endowment, Archdiocese of Newark, 171 Clifton Ave., P.O. Box 9500, Newark, N.J. 07104.

Published in the Star-Ledger on 9/11/2007.

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Remembrances

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September 15, 2007

    I have known Steve for 66 yrs. and was his first girlfriend. Yikes. The Duffy's were like our second family and my Sister Carole treated Anita like her second mom. What a guy. He always knew all the news all the time and we sang all the time at their basement upright piano with Barbara. We played canasta all summer at the Duffy's backyard picnic table, and had picnics there every Mem.Day, July 4th and Labor Day. The Duffy family made my life a joy growning up and all of them continued to make other people's life a joy. Barbara with her teaching and doing music and Steve with his unbelievable personal skills and being friends to innumerable people he met through Church, neighborhood and social action. He will be missed alot. I couldn't make the funeral because I had a dental emergency and while I was in the chair at Tufts Dental I was listening to Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto and I started to cry uncontrollably in reaction to not going to the funeral. My heart was with Barbara & family and my soul was with Steve. The music brought him so alive. All my love to everyone who is grieving and I'm sure that number goes into the higher echelons.

Kathy Rose (Vineyard Haven, MA)

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 September 14, 2007

    A model for us all:humble, intuitive, holy, a friend to all whether rich or poor, young or old, democrat or other, especially to the outcasts of our world:a priest's priest. God Bless this holy man-we will miss him and his beauty.

 adam a. kretowicz (boston, MA)

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September 13, 2007

    Stephen and I are first cousins, although he was always more of a slightly older big brother to me for much of my younger life and a treasured friend in my adult life. We shared many interests and had lots of good times together. When I moved to San Francisco right after college, Stephen came out to visit (and perhaps do a little checking up for my parents). We had such a great time driving around the city in his rented convertible as he exclaimed with his always enthusiastic sense of wonder, "I can't believe they built a city on these hills!"

We had many musical songfests with Barbara and others, and I will always treasure his description of singing the tenor solo part of the Mozart C Minor Mass in St. Stephen's, Vienna, Austria. Music was among his many gifts, and he used it joyfully in service to his ministry.

Living near Washington, DC, I was always lucky to see Stephen for visits during his travels to see other friends or on his way to Florida. There was never a lull in the conversation when Stephen was here--he was interested in everything and knowledgeable about more things than most people I know. He always sought new experiences and embraced life with such exuberance--I will miss him tremendously. He brought abundance and love to his family and his many friends.

I hope he's getting some good duets in with Luciano!

Joyce (Duffy) and John Richardson (Arlington, VA)

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September 13, 2007

    My sincere condolences go out to the family of Fr. Duffy. My first memory of him was as a priest in my childhood parish, St. Joseph's in Jersey City. He was a friendly, young priest who always made mass a fun place to be. He performed weddings, christenings, and funerals for everyone in my family. Fr. Duffy was a great friend to my parents and helped them through hard times and always enjoyed great celebrations with us as a family. He will be missed on earth by your family and countless families that he helped throughout his life, but I am sure he is at peace with God.

Patricia Stefanczyk (Saddle Brook, NJ)

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September 13, 2007

    Father Duffy will be missed by all who were blessed to have known him! He married my wife, Laura, and I in 1974. The 1st of many such ceremonies he would perform for many of the children of Albert and Grace Gunnell.

Whenever our paths crossed - he always seemed to find time to chat with Laura and I. We shared some laughs and would listen to a story or two about events, as he called them, describing his relationship over the years with the Gunnells.

I realize he must have shared himself with so many good families through the years - and each - like the Gunnells must have felt "He is OUR Father Duffy"! Such a Good and Loving man!We will miss him. We will keep him in our Hearts and prayers.

Sincerely!

Aedan n Laura McDonald (Hershey, PA)

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September 12, 2007

    Stephen is my first cousin and he has been a part of my life in so many ways. He has been a friend to Tom and myself through many phases of our life. My mothers death, my fathers remarraige, my brother's events, holiday blessings to name a few. He was great to my dad when he was ailing and dying. He stayed connected to him to the end.

I remember fondly all the times he came to dinner and shared family stories. He introduced us to so many great people as we moved to new locations. We have made many great friends through Stephen.

He was also there for Tom and I in most of our major family events. We will always remember his laughter, his positive outlook, his willingness to forgive and to help. His ability to break into song at gatherings and be a real connector of out family. In many ways he was the glue.

Tom and I will miss him a great deal. He was always there as family for us when others could not be.

Linda and Tom Sharkey (Saratoga)

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September 12, 2007

    Stephen was my cousin, and the oldest son of my father's younger brother. I am my father's oldest child.

I have many fond memories of Stephen and his family from my earliest days. Stephen was always there when you needed him, and he played a very important role in my life, particularly after he entered the priesthood.

Stephen, as my cousin and a priest, was there for me for some of my saddest and happiest moments. Stephen officiated at the funeral Mass of my first wife and helped me through a very difficult time. Later, he officiated at a much happier event, my marriage to Jean Kendall, and con-celebrated our nuptial Mass with us.

Jean and I and my family will miss Stephen's joy of life, his love of song and music, and his wise counsel and support. He left us too soon.

James P. Duffy, III (Monte-Carlo, Monaco)

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September 11, 2007

    We are saddened to hear of the passing of Fr. Steve and offer our sympathy to his family. I met Fr. Steve as a medical student in Washington, DC and we remained friends even after moving back to California where he flew out to concelebrate our wedding. He was always interesting and entertaining and we will miss his phone calls just to "check in". He will remain in our hearts and prayers always.

Carlo and Heather Tarantino (Novato, CA)

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September 11, 2007

    With deepest sympathy from Fr. Richard.

       Rev. Richard Nardone, Seton Hall University (South Orange, NJ)


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September 11, 2007

    We are saddened to learn of father Duffy's passing. He was always a joy to be with and he was very good to members of our family in New Jersey. We appreciated his fun spirit and his zest for life and enjoyed singing along with him at various gatherings. He is in our prayers. Claire and John G. Bryson of Spring lake, Michigan

John Bryson (Spring lake, MI) 

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September 11, 2007

    The Manhattan College alumni community shares your grief, and is now praying for our fellow alumni and the family at this time. The Alumni Office has been informed. As well as the Jasper Jottings community that I personally can reach. We are all a little poorer now. "No man is an island, entire of itself … any man’s death diminishes me". We are sorry for your loss. 

FJohn Reinke (MC68) (kendall park, NJ) 

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