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Marriage can be one of the most exciting and rewarding journeys of life. It can also be one of the most challenging and costly, both mentally, emotionally and economically. It all comes down to whom you choose to partner with. So, for one considering marriage, the question arises, how can you increase your confidence in choosing “the right one” to be your closest friend and supporter throughout all stages of life?
The obvious answer for most is to date, Right?
Well, unfortunately it doesn’t always work that way. During those first dates and interactions, our natural tendency is to be on best behavior with the goal of impressing one another, rather than to just be ourselves.
Even the online match-making companies recognize that a large gap exists in qualifying candidates. They have found that many people will state something about themselves on the application that really isn’t true to who they are as much, who they see themselves as being or who they think they are. The fact is, the first dates are really not good indicators of who this person is and how they will confront real-life situations and challenges.
In a recent research study conducted by Michigan State University it was shown that married couples who had met online were three times more likely to divorce compared to those who met in person. (This was based on a study pool of 4000 couples who had met online.)
The Bible says that, “Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does not envy, it does not boast, not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeps no records of wrongs.” If that definition of Love is so, then what is the cause for so many failed marriages when everyone begins their relationship on the basis of “Being in Love”?
A group of researchers have started a project called Love-Match-Challenge, for discovering each other through experiential events and activities that identifies everyone’s reaction to different life situations. Through an intensive program of activities and engaging role games the participants are helped to take their masks off and reveal themselves. As a result of increasing self-awareness, any relationship has a better chance of becoming stronger and deeper.
If you are single, would you be interested in participating in one of our retreats? These retreats are tailored to meet other singles in a setting that presents them with opportunities that penetrate through the typical first date facade to reveal the real personality. This retreat would present a fun and very revealing opportunity to discover yourself and others in action, resulting in growing your emotional intelligence.
If you are in a dating relationship, our retreats would be very instructive by introducing you to circumstances and unplanned situations that would expedite the process of knowing each other’s values developing life-long friendship based on reality and not on illusion.