Poems and sacred readings


Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke 
For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. Loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person - it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become something in himself, to become world, to become world in himself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding claim on him, something that chose him and calls him to vast distances. 

To Know Yourself by Swami Satchidananda:
A wedding is between two reflections of God. Two pairs of eyes see one vision. They are dedicated to serve one another and the humanity at large. Two minds come together to help each other realize their true nature. Going side by side with the right partner is a good way to reach God quickly. When the husband's and the wife's love for each other blends together and becomes love of God, marriage is a divine institution. 

The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran.
And what of Marriage, master? 
And he answered saying: 
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. 

Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. 
But let there be spaces in your togetherness, 
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. 

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: 
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. 
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. 
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. 
Sing and Dance together and be joyous, but each one of you be alone. 
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. 

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. 
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. 
And stand together yet not too near together: 
For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow 

Navajo Prayer 
When you were children, you talked like children, But now that you've grown, you should be done with childish things and put them away. When you were children, you looked into a mirror that gave only a blurred reflection of reality. But with love and maturity, you shouldn't be afraid to look into that mirror and see each other face to face. Be swift like the wind in loving each other. Be brave like the sea in loving each other. Be gentle like the breeze in loving each other. Be patient like the sun who waits and watches the four changes of the earth in loving each other. Be wise like the roaring of the thunder clouds and lightning in loving each other. Be shining like the morning dawn in loving each other. Be proud like the tree who stands without bending in loving each other. Be brilliant like the rainbow colors in loving each other. Now, forever, forever, there will be no more loneliness because your worlds are joined together with the world. Forever, forever. 

Anne Morrow Lindburgh 
When you love someone you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. The only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity, in freedom, in the sense that dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern. 

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. One must accept the security of the winged life, of ebb and flow, of intermittency.

Blessings For A Marriage by James Dillet Freeman  
May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding. 

May you always need one another - not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you. 

May you need one another, but not out of weakness. 
May you want one another, but not out of lack. 
May you entice one another, but not compel one another. 
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another. 
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces. 
May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults. 

If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. 

May you enter into the mystery, which is the awareness of one another's presence - no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side-by-side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities. May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. 
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another. 

Excerpt from The Bridge Across Forever by Richard Bach 
A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life. 

Marriage Joins Two People In The Circle Of Its Love by Edmund O'Neill 
Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime. 

Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child. 

Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. 

Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life. When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves, which binds them, closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill. 

On Love By Thomas a' Kempis 
Love is a mighty power, 
a great and complete good. 
Love alone lightens every burden, and makes rough places smooth. 
It bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders 
all bitterness sweet and acceptable. 

Nothing is sweeter than love, 
Nothing stronger, 
Nothing higher, 
Nothing wider, 
Nothing more pleasant, 
Nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth; for love is born of God. 

Love flies, runs and leaps for joy. 
It is free and unrestrained. 
Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds. 
Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil, 
attempts things beyond its strength. 

Love sees nothing as impossible, 
for it feels able to achieve all things. 
It is strange and effective, 
while those who lack love faint and fail. 

Love is not fickle and sentimental, 
nor is it intent on vanities. 
Like a living flame and a burning torch, 
it surges upward and surely surmounts every obstacle. 

What Is Love Author Unknown  
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who love. 

True Love Author Unknown 
True love is a sacred flame 
That burns eternally, 
And none can dim its special glow 
Or change its destiny. 
True love speaks in tender tones 
And hears with gentle ear, 
True love gives with open heart 
And true love conquers fear. 
True love makes no harsh demands 
It neither rules nor binds, 
And true love holds with gentle hands 
The hearts that it entwines. 

Art of Marriage by William Peterson
The little things are the big things. 
It is never being too old to hold hands. 
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day. 

It is never going to sleep angry. 
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, 
it should continue through all the years. 

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. 
It is standing together facing the world. 
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. 
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. 

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. 
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. 
It is not looking for perfection in each other. 

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. 
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. 
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. 

It is finding room for the things of the spirit. 
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. 
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, 
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. 
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner. 

Celtic Wedding Blessing 
May your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace. 
May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase. 
Be no worse than the happiest day of your past. 
May your hands be forever clasped in friendship 
And your hearts joined forever in love. 
Your lives are very special, 
God has touched you in many ways. 
May his blessings rest upon you 
And fill all your coming days. 

These I Can Promise Author Unknown
I cannot promise you a life of sunshine; 
I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold; 
I cannot promise you an easy pathway 
That leads away from change or growing old. 

But I can promise all my heart's devotion; 
A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow; 
A love that's ever true and ever growing; 
A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow. 

This Day I Married My Best Friend Author Unknown
This day I married my best friend 
...the one I laugh with as we share life's wonderous zest, 
as we find new enjoyments and experience all that's best. 
...the one I live for because the world seems brighter 
as our happy times are better and our burdens feel much lighter. 
...the one I love with every fiber of my soul. 
We used to feel vaguely incomplete, now together we are whole. 

A Good Wedding Cake Author Unknown 
4 lb. of love. 
1 lb. butter of youth. 
1/2 lb. of good looks. 
l lb. sweet temper. 
1 lb. of blindness for faults. 
1 lb. of self forgetfulness. 
l lb. of pounded wit. 
l lb. of good humour. 
2 tablespoons of sweet argument. 
1 pint of rippling laughter. 
1 wine glass of common sense. 
1 oz. modesty. 

Put the love, good looks and sweet temper into a well furnished house. Beat the butter of youth to a cream, and mix well together with the blindness of faults. Stir the pounded wit and good humour into the sweet argument, then add the rippling laughter and common sense. Work the whole together until everything is well mixed, and bake gently for ever. 

Eskimo Love Song Author Unknown
You are my husband (wife) 
My feet shall run because of you 
My feet shall dance because of you 
My heart shall beat because of you 
My eyes see because of you 
My mind thinks because of you 
And I shall love because of you. 

Why Marriage? by Mari Nichols
Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person, 
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body... 

Because I need a forever friend to trust with the intimacies of me, 
Who won't hold them against me, 
Who loves me when I'm unlikable, 
Who sees the small child in me, and 
Who looks for the divine potential of me... 

Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night 
With someone who thanks God for me, 
With someone I feel blessed to hold... 

Because marriage means opportunity 
To grow in love in friendship... 

Because marriage is a discipline 
To be added to a list of achievements... 

Because marriages do not fail, people fail 
When they enter into marriage 
Expecting another to make them whole... 

Because, knowing this, 
I promise myself to take full responsibility 
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness 
I create me, I take half of the responsibility for my marriage 
Together we create our marriage... 

Because of this understanding 
The possibilities are limitless. 

The Key To Love Author unknown
The key to love is understanding... 
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word, 
but those unspoken gestures, 
the little things that say so much by themselves. 

The key to love is forgiveness... 
to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes, 
without forgetting, but with remembering 
what you learn from them. 

The key to love is sharing... 
Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together; 
both conquering problems, forever searching for ways 
to intensify your happiness. 

The key to love is giving... 
without thought of return, 
but with the hope of just a simple smile, 
and by giving in but never giving up. 

The key to love is respect... 
realising that you are two separate people, with different ideas; that you don't belong to each other, 
that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond. 

The key to love is inside us all... 
It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients that will take you to its threshold; 
it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work... but the rewards are more than worth the effort... 
and that is the key to love. 

On Friendship by Roy Croft 
I love you, not for what you are, but what I am, when I am with you. 
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but what you are making of me. 
I love you for the part of me that you bring out. 

I love you for putting your hand into my heaped up heart and passing over all the frivolous and weak things that you cannot help seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful and radiant things that no one else has looked quite far enough to find... 

I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy. 

You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself. Perhaps that is what being a friend means after all. 

Apache Marriage Blessing 
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be the shelter for each other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be the warmth for the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before. Go now to your dwelling place to enter into the days of your life together. And may your days be good and long upon the earth. 

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty and fear assail your relationship - as they threaten all relationships at one time or another - remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives - remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight. 

What is Love? by Susan Polis Schutz 
Love is the strongest feeling known 
an all -encompassing passion 
an extreme strength 
an overwhelming excitement 

Love is trying not to hurt the other person 
trying not to change the other person 
trying not to dominate the other person 
trying not to deceive the other person 

Love is understanding each other 
listening to each other 
supporting each other 
having fun with each other. 

Love is not an excuse to stop growing 
not an excuse to stop making yourself better 
not an excuse to lessen one's goals 
not an excuse to take the other person for granted 

Love is being completely honest with each other 
finding dreams to share 
working towards common goals 
sharing responsibilities equally 

Everyone in the world wants to love 
Love is not a feeling to be taken lightly 
Love is a feeling to be cherished, nurtured and cared for 
Love is the reason for life 

From This Day Forward Author unknown
From this day forward, let us laugh together, and plan together, 
let us find our favorite places, and go together... 
Let us enjoy the sunshine, and the rain, 
being alone together, and in crowds together... 
From this day forward, together, 
Let us love! 

Let Us Walk Together Author unknown
Let us walk together yet not as one, but such that our shadows are separate and distinct, such that our souls are unbound and free. Let us share our time, yet do not give all your time, nor take all of mine for in order to develop to the fullest, to be free, we must have solitude and individuality. 

Let me wander in solitude, when I need to be alone, yet be near, when I need you. Let us share our love. Give freely of your love, but do not smother me, my soul must breathe a free air. Take my love, but do not demand it, for love given of obligation, is stale and without life. Let us share our lives. 

Share my life, but do not try to shape it. Let me share your life, but do not let it revolve around me. Let us share ourselves. Accept me as I am, do not attempt to change me to fit your dreams. Respect me for what I am, not for what I was or one day may be. Share yourself with me, but do not allow me to limit your freedom or bind your soul. Let us share our minds, thoughts, goals, values and dreams. Let us develop these within ourselves without restriction or loss of freedom 

Thus our two free souls, may wander together as they develop in freedom. As we share our lives, as we walk through life together, know my love is yours, but not my soul for it must be free. 

Usually one or two Biblical readings are chosen by the couple, an Old Testament and a New Testament reading.  If you have a favorite Bible verse or reading then you want to choose that, but “traditional” wedding readings may include but are not limited to the following:

Old Testament:
Genesis: 1:26-28, 31; 2: 18-24
Psalms: 23; 33; 34; 37: 3-7; 67; 100; 103; 112; 117; 121; 127; 128; 136; 145; 148; 150
Song of Solomon: 2:8-13; 8: 6-7
Ruth 1: 16-17
Jeremiah: 31: 31-34
Isaiah:  554: 5-8
Hosea: 2: 16-23
Romans: 8: 31-39; 12: 1-2, 9-18
1 Corinthians:  6: 15-20; 13: 1-13
Ephesians: 3:14-21; 5: 2, 21-33
Colossians: 3: 12-17
1 Peter: 3: 1-9
1 John: 3: 18-24; 4: 7-16
Revelation: 19: 1, 5-9
Matthew: 5: 1-12; 5: 13-16; 7: 21, 24-29; 19: 3-6; 22: 35-40
Mark:  10: 6-9, 13-16
John:  2: 1-11; 15: 9-17