BELOW YOU WILL FIND A SAMPLE OF A HANDFASTING CEREMONY I USED RECENTLY, PLEASE REMEMBER HOWEVER THAT ALL SERVICES ARE WRITTEN PERSONALLY FOR YOU.
Dear friends - welcome! Out of affection for ……. And ……… , we have gathered here together to witness and bless their vows which will unite them in marriage. To this moment they bring their loving hearts, the dreams which inspire their lives, and two unique personalities and spirits. We have been asked as a community of loving friends to share their joy with them, and to pledge ourselves to support and honour their love. No matter how strong their love for each other, they will need our support. I ask each of you present today to do all in your power to sustain and encourage ……. and ……. in their commitment to each other. We rejoice with them for this union of hearts, a union created by friendship, respect, and love.
It has been requested that I mention some special people who are missing from ……… and ……….celebration today, …..and……, …….. parents who although may have had their own thoughts about how today should be held, we know they would have approved of the outcome of today’s events. Also …….father ……who would have been proud of his son on this special day. We would also like to welcome on this special day ……… mother, ……, who with ………showed the world what love really was and what love really stands for.
………and ……….have chosen each other as partners and lovers, and the choice seems obvious and right to those who know them both. It is clear that they share so much: love and laughter, passion and curiosity, a sense of adventure and play, and their deep commitment to the same spiritual path. Their love, like any love between committed and responsible adults, is a reflection of that infinite, divine love which embraces us all. They have chosen to name their love and to honour it. Your support and sharing of their love, and their life together, will make the journey together fuller and richer. For this, they and we thank you.
In this sacred circle of light
We gather in perfect love
And perfect trust
O’ Mother earth and Father sky
I ask thee to bless this couple
Their love and their marriage
For as long as they shall live
In love together
May they each enjoy a healthy life
Filled with joy, love and stability
Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after considerable
thought and reflection. As with any aspect of life, it has its
cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs. With
full understanding of this, …….. and ……….. have come here today to be joined as one in marriage.
Others would ask, at this time, who gives the bride in marriage, but, as a woman is not property to be bought and sold, given and taken, I ask simply if she comes of her own will. Is this the truth?
[………..] Yes, it is true.
Please join hands with your betrothed and listen to that
which I am about to say.
Above you are the stars, below you are the stones, as time doth pass, remember...Like a stone should your love be firm, like a star should your love be constant. Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you in your marriage, let the strength of your wills bind you together, let the power of love and desire make you happy, and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable. Be close, but not too close. Possess one another, yet be understanding. Have patience with one another, for storms will come, but they will pass quickly.
Would the ring bearer please step forward?
The rings will be placed upon the wand.
The wand to be passed over the salt
BY THE ANCIENT AND MYSTICAL ELEMENT OF EARTH
Passed over the air
BY THE ANCIENT AND MYSTICAL ELEMENT OF AIR
Passed over the candles
BY THE ANCIENT AND MYSTICAL ELEMENT OF FIRE
Passed over the water
BY THE ANCIENT AND MYSTICAL ELEMENT OF WATER
LET ALL NEGATIVE VIBRATIONS
IMPURITIES AND HINDRANCES
BE CAST FORTH HENCE FROM
AND LET ALL THAT IS POSITIVE
LOVING AND GOOD
BLESSED BE THESE RINGS
IN THE DIVINE NAME OF MOTHER EARTH AND FATHER SKY
SO MOTE IT BE.
……., I have not the right to bind thee to ……., only you have this right. If it be your wish, say so at this time and place
your ring in her hand.
[………..] It is my wish.
………., if it be your wish for …….. to be bound to
you, place the ring on his finger.
…….., I have not the right to bind thee to …….. only you have this right. If it be your wish, say so at this time and place
your ring in his hand.
[………..] It is my wish.
……….., if it be your wish for ……… to be bound to you,
place the ring on her finger
…………, Do you in the name of the spirit of Gods that resides within us all, by the life that courses within your blood and the love that resides within your heart, take thee ………..
to your hand, your heart, and your spirit, to be your chosen
one. To desire and be desired by her, to possess her, and be possessed by her, without sin or shame, for naught can
exist in the purity of your love for her. Do you promise to love
her wholly and completely without restraint, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in poverty, in life and beyond, where you shall meet, remember, and love again. You shall not seek to change her in any way. Will you respect her, her beliefs, her people, the way you would respect yourself?
[…………] I will
………, Do you in the name of the spirit of Gods that resides within us all, by the life that courses within your blood and the love that resides within your heart, take thee, ………..
to your hand, your heart, and your spirit to be your chosen one. To desire and be desired by him, to possess him, and be possessed by him, without sin or shame, for naught can exist in the purity of your love for him. Do you promise to love him wholly and completely without restraint, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in poverty, in life and beyond, where you shall meet, remember, and love again? You shall not seek to change him in any way. Will you respect him, his beliefs,
his people, the way you would respect yourself?
[……….} I will
[………………] Own vows to be exchanged
(Chalice handed to ……..)
May you drink your fill from the cup of love.
(…….. holds chalice to ……… while she sips then ……… takes the chalice and holds it to ………. while he sips. The chalice is then handed back.)
Here before witnesses, ……… and ………. have
sworn vows to each other. With these ribbons, I bind
them to the vows that they each have made. Please hold hands.
Red: so you have continuing passion, strength, lust and fertility
Orange: so you have continuing encouragement, attraction, kindness and plenty
Green: so you have continuing finances, fertility, charity, prosperity and health
Blue: so you have continuing tranquillity, patience, devotion and sincerity
Purple: so you have continuing Power, safety and sentimentality
Black: so you have continuing strength, wisdom, vision and success
White: and so the white binds all together with purity and peace
By the powers of Earth and Air, Fire and Water, may your loves ever be joined together in love.
As I remove the bindings be reminded that you can not be tied physically together always but your vows will remain with you.
(The broom is brought forth)
Jumping the broom is a very ancient custom. The broom symbolizes the creation of a hearth and home together.
[…….and………..] to jump over it.
…….and…….., in the presence of this company and of the Goddess and the God, you have spoken the vows and performed the rites which unite your lives. Therefore do we pronounce you joined together as partners in life, love, and the spirit. May your lives together be fulfilled. You have proclaimed your commitment in this sacred circle before the community of family and friends. I now invite everyone to join me in the confirmation of this marriage.
In the presence of this good company of family and friends, by the power of your love, you have exchanged vows of commitment
and we celebrate your marriage.
To Mother earth and Father sky, we thank you for your presence, and invite you to stay for the celebration.
To ………and………., May your lives together be joyful and content, and may your love be bright as the stars, warm as the sun, accepting as the ocean and enduring as the mountains.
To Mother earth and Father sky, we thank you for your presence, and invite you to feast with us. We come now to the close of this ceremony, and for …….and………, the beginning of a new life together. We offer to them and to each of you this blessing:
By the earth that is their body,
By the air that is their breath,
By the fire that is their bright spirit,
By the living waters of their souls,
The circle is open but not broken.
The peace of the Goddess and the God go in your hearts as husband and wife
Merry meet, and merry part, and merry meet again.
Please affirm your love by kissing as husband and wife