***Thank you for your interest. I am not taking on clients for postpartum services. Wishing you lots of birth blessings!***
Nothing changes life as dramatically as having a child.  And there was no word to describe that.
So we invented a word
matrescencebecoming a mother.
Dana Raphael, Anthropologist The Tender Gift: Breastfeeding 1973.

“Generations of women have been instructed that they would know how to mother because motherwit and the maternal instinct is a 'sacred calling' and birth rite.  We all know how to do it; all that we lack is the baby to put our innate talents into practice.  But while mothers should be encouraged to trust their instincts, the missing piece of the message is that much of this mothering behavior is learned, not instinctive; and without the educational and emotional support of teachers and nurturers, it is much more difficult and stressful to master.” 

Sally Placksin, Mothering the New Mother: Women’s Feelings & Needs After Childbirth 2000.

In our current childbirth model, once the baby arrives home and you've met/fulfilled your metrics for postpartum appointments, you are on your own.  Despite having the highest per capita spending on childbirth, the US ranks among the lowest in the entire world for maternity/parental leave policies and support systems.  Birth is challenging; parenting is even more so.  Parenting, breastfeeding, newborn care is not just about the maternal instinct and motherwit; it is a learned behavior.

In reality, whether you are a parent by birth or by surrogacy/adoption or a second+ time parent, that first year is filled with immense transitions, transformations, and challenges.  For single parents, for queer parents, for parents without extended family or a strong support network, for parents with multiples, and/or for parents who have to return to work with a newborn at home, that first year can be overwhelming.  A Postpartum Doula fulfills the families' need for practical, emotional and physical support.

A Postpartum Doula or Paramana is a experienced woman who supports the mother-baby & family in the "lying-in" days & weeks immediately after Baby is born or adopted to ease their transition as a family.  A new mother needs rest to heal, mentoring & reassurance about her mothering ability, nourishment to replenish her body, freedom from household responsibilities to deeply bond with baby, knowledge about her physical and spiritual transformation, a sense of normalcy, and mothering the mother so she can feel honored and recuperated.

Another important aspect of a Postpartum Doula's work is to be attentive to the needs of fathers/partners/co-parents as they also go through their own process of Patrescence and to any siblings so that the entire family is nurtured,
empowered, and uplifted. 

Scope of service

Prenatal Consultation:
  • "Greening" your nursery             
  • Baby gear basics - what do you really need?
  • The scoop on poop (cloth diapering, elimination communication/diaper-free/natural infant hygiene)
  • Mother Roasting preparation
  • Access to pregnancy & parenting library
Mother Support:
  • Nourishment
  • Mother Roasting/comfort measures
  • Time to rest/relax
  • Emotional support/mentoring
Father/Partner Support:
  • Hands on Newborn crash course
  • Assistance with baby, mother, siblings, and the house
  • Time to rest/relax                             
  • Emotional support/mentoring
Baby Care Support:
  • Babywearing assistance
  • Bathing, feeding, sleeping
  • Calming techniques
  • Common safety/health concerns
Breastfeeding Support:
  • Nutrition
  • Breastfeeding basics
  • Pumping and bottle feeding
  • Preparing to return to work
Family Support:
  • Light housekeeping
  • Meal preparation
  • Sibling care
  • Visitor "traffic-control"
  • Errands/shopping
  • Referrals to local resources

At this time, I am not available for overnight care.

Postpartum doulas do not offer medical advice, do not drive clients to appointments, do not care for babies without parental presence, and have the right to refuse any tasks with which they are not comfortable.

For more information, contact:

Be Blissed & Be Blessed,

510 * 936 * 0110
Leilani @

Serving Central & Southern Alameda County With Love and Integrity
From Oakland to Fremont, east to Livermore (San Francisco Bay Area, California)