All About Marriage Counseling

Marriage counseling is a way to open up the channels of communication with your spouse, in an effort to make your marriage work.

It all starts with the tension.  Either you refuse to communicate, or you communicate too much.  Your marriage is falling apart, and you are at a complete loss as to how to fix it.  What can you do to change things for the better?  How can you find a way to have a healthy relationship with your spouse again?  One option is marriage counseling, and while it might sound a little scary, the alternative could be worse.

Defining Marriage Counseling

“Marriage counseling, also called couples therapy helps couples – married or not – understand and resolve conflicts and improve their relationship.  Marriage counseling gives couples the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve and even argue in a healthier way,” states the Mayo Clinic on their website.  In other words, marriage counseling is a way to open up the channels of communication with your spouse, in an effort to make your marriage work.

Why Do People Go to Marriage Counseling

The reasons for attending marriage counseling sessions are many and varied.  Communication difficulties could arise from a number of factors including, but not limited to, financial stress, childhood trauma resurfacing, extended family interference, job change or loss, physical challenges of one or both partners, chemical dependency, and even differences of opinion about how to raise the kids.  There are as many reasons to go to marriage counseling as there are marriage counselors available to help solve them.

How Marriage Counseling Works

The first thing you need to do is agree with your spouse that you have a problem needing to be addressed with the help of a third party.  If possible, you should work together to find a marriage counselor you both like and respect.  This requires making phone calls, checking backgrounds, and interviewing your prospective counselor.  You will want to discuss fees and applicable insurance beforehand so there are no unexpected surprises that could result in more conflict in your marriage later.

After you have hired a counselor, you will schedule meetings for you and your spouse to attend together.  The initial meeting could be a bit trying, as you get acquainted with your counselor, and develop confidence in sharing your marital concerns.  Your counselor will listen as an objective third party while you and your spouse begin discussing the things that brought you there.

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