1. Do you have a stable household with a partner ? (Remember, it takes at least two stable, solvent people to raise a child in case o ne defaults, dies, or becomes incapacitated. )
2. Do you have at least several hundred thousand in the bank and insurance adequately covered to take car of that child and a substitute parent in case you die ?
3. Do you have alternate plans for a stable household in case you and your partner die ? You know, don't you, that our government will not take care of your child. It's up to you.
4. Have you decided who will take active care of your child if something happens and you need to work or if you work already ? Day care is not free, it's horrible, and unsafe.
5. Have you had hands-on experience of at least a week, twenty-four hours a day attending along with a new mother the care of a newborn ? Of a toddler ? Of a rambunctious eight-year-old ? Of an unruly teen ?
6. What exactly are your reasons for wanting a child ?
7. What if any expectations do you have of the proposed child ?
8. What behaviors do you demand of anyone in your proximity?
9. Have you finished with your traveling ?
10. Have you finished with your nights out and your partying ?
11. Are you ready should circumstances dictate to let go of all the fringe benefits of your life and donate all your time and resources for the rest of your life to someone you have not yet met and with whom you ight have personality conflicts, or who might meet with an accident and be an impediment needing all your time and resources? is your committment absolute and unconditional?
Remember - any personality may emerge from your womb or from the little face in the orphanage window. Remember, a special-needs child might be born.
Remember, your personality must bend to meet the needs of that child, not the other way around.
Remember, being a parent stops you from being a carefree person from now o n, no trips, no toys for yourself, no nights out.
Remember, taking care of a helpless being is a full-time, two-decade proposition at best, and anyone can have a child who turns out to be autistic, retarded, deformed, troubled�or unhealthy.
And you have a good chance of having personality conflicts with even a baby.
Remember, it's your job to take care of that child�s every need�yourself � possibly with no help - marriages suffer most when�another party is brought in. only very stable marriages survive the arrival of a child, (and they are very few ). You may end up being a single parent. Are you prepared for that?Do you primarily want a partner ? A mate ? Then why are you contemplating bringing a child into your relationship? A third party ?
In the words of Socrates, "Know thyself", and "To think own self be true."
Think about these things before you allow a mistake to happen.
If it does, own up and take responsibility, and receive the child as a gift, despite your misgivings, despite all.
Give, and you'll profit long-term, but if you're not prepared - not ready for this responsibility, make sure you prepare for the possibility and GetFixed.org.