Lessons I Have Learned:
1.     Life can be unfair.

2.    Really bad things can happen to really good people.

3.    During times of extreme hardship, heroes are sometimes made.

4.    Amidst darkness, fear, and confusion, there can be moments of exquisite clarity.

5.    Sometimes it takes a serious illness or loss to make us cherish, appreciate, or celebrate our lives and relationships.  But it shouldn’t.

6.    A positive attitude requires the capacity to be aware and find comfort in what you  still have, despite what you may have lost or will lose.

7.    Life comes with no guarantees, but it helps to focus on what you can control versus what you cannot.

8.    Living life fully requires both a renewed sense of appreciation for what is, and a sharper vision of what is truly important.

9.    We should not leave unsaid, the things that are most important to say.

10.  Grieving is one of the hardest things we will ever do.  But time does heal and so will we.

Words of Wisdom:

An optimist sees an opportunity in every calamity.

A pessimist sees a calamity in every opportunity.  (Winston Churchill)


I am an old man who has known many problems.

Most of which have never happened.  (Mark Twain)


We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand. (Randy Pausch)


When one door closes; another opens.

But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door,

that we do not see the one that has opened for us.  (Alexander Graham Bell)


There are only two ways to live your life.

One is as though nothing is a miracle.

The other is as though everything is a miracle.  (Albert Einstein)


Key Ingredients for “Learned Optimism”:

1.     Your ability to be aware of positives in your life, despite co-existing negatives.

2.    Choosing to see adversity as a challenge/opportunity, not an immobilizing obstacle.

3.    Taking time to appreciate the small pleasures of the present moment.

4.    Remembering that whatever hardships you encounter, there will be others whose struggles are greater.


Live well, laugh often, sing or dance whether someone is watching or not

and find someone or something to love.

 - Lessons in Loss and Living