posted May 12, 2015, 3:10 PM by Ellen Mahloy
updated May 12, 2015, 4:05 PM
One of the things I do with every client I date coach is script answers to awkward, bizarre and insulting questions from suitors. Here are some of my financial scripts:
- How much money do you make?
- How much have you saved... for retirement, emergencies, children, etc.?
- How can you afford... so-in-so?
- "That's a personal question. (silence)" or "I'm financially stable."
- If pressed further: "Your questions are making me uncomfortable. I think finances are an important discussion to have if we wish to make a serious commitment to one another."
- If pressed even further or suitor become hostile: "I'm going to leave now. Goodbye."
- Are you financially stable?
- If you are, simply say,
- "Yes, I am." Do not state your salary or say anything else about your income.
- If not, say any of the following, but only if they are true:
- Low Income, No Debt - "I don't make a high salary, but I don't have any debt and I don't have any sort of spending problem. I manage money well."
- Low Income, Debt - "I don't make a high salary and I have some debt to pay which is why I'm doing so-in-so to increase my salary/income."
- No Income, Debt - "I'm currently unemployed, but I'll have a job soon and I look forward to being back on my feet financially. I have a career and have been financially stable most of my life and I will be again." Say nothing about your debt.
- Indigent with No Plan to Become Financially Stable - "The truth is financial contributions are not my strength. I bring other things to a relationship that are valuable, like home cooking, running a household and being a stay-at-home-mom."