Scripting: Questions About Money

posted May 12, 2015, 3:10 PM by Ellen Mahloy   [ updated May 12, 2015, 4:05 PM ]
One of the things I do with every client I date coach is script answers to awkward, bizarre and insulting questions from suitors.  Here are some of my financial scripts:

  • How much money do you make?  
  • How much have you saved... for retirement, emergencies, children, etc.?  
  • How can you afford... so-in-so?  
  • "That's a personal question. (silence)" or "I'm financially stable."
  • If pressed further: "Your questions are making me uncomfortable.  I think finances are an important discussion to have if we wish to make a serious commitment to one another."
  • If pressed even further or suitor become hostile: "I'm going to leave now. Goodbye."
  • Are you financially stable?  
  • If you are, simply say,
    • "Yes, I am."  Do not state your salary or say anything else about your income.
  • If not, say any of the following, but only if they are true: 
    • Low Income, No Debt - "I don't make a high salary, but I don't have any debt and I don't have any sort of spending problem.  I manage money well."
    • Low Income, Debt - "I don't make a high salary and I have some debt to pay which is why I'm doing so-in-so to increase my salary/income."
    • No Income, Debt - "I'm currently unemployed, but I'll have a job soon and I look forward to being back on my feet financially.  I have a career and have been financially stable most of my life and I will be again."  Say nothing about your debt.
    • Indigent with No Plan to Become Financially Stable - "The truth is financial contributions are not my strength.  I bring other things to a relationship that are valuable, like home cooking, running a household and being a stay-at-home-mom."