Adult Children

Did you grow up with a problem drinker?
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 There are Meetings focused on recovering Al-Anon Adult Children.

The concept of the “adult child” is used to refer to the great number of adults who were parented in a home affected by alcoholism. Unlike people not raised in alcoholic homes, these are adults who characteristically experience greater difficulty in their ability to trust, to identify and express feelings, and to ask for what they need. They experience greater difficulty in intimate relationships and are more prone to experience depression. The term “adult child” legitimizes the experience of such a person during childhood and encapsulates a description of his or her problems as an adult.

Control is a major issue for adult children in that they have a strong need either to be in total control or to feel no control over any aspect of their lives. The concept of acknowledging powerlessness, accompanied by the concept of “surrender” means to let go of control, which for the adult child is very frightening. Control has meant survival for the adult child. Adult children fight this because they have taken such pride in their ability to manage, achieve and perform. Although in this sense frightening, Al-Anon offers adult children a realistic perspective of their own power and helps to lessen rigidity in their need to be in control.

From Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism, Second Edition, 1984, pp. 63-65