Presence / Presents

posted Dec 27, 2019, 10:07 AM by David Alan Binder
Presence / Presents

The Christmas holiday is now behind us.  What did you give for Christmas?

Presence or Presents?

Did you give of your time and attention and therefore were present in the lives of your loved ones?

Or did you and they spend any time on cell phones or video games or computers or play platforms, indulging yourself or their selves and not being present?

Just because you are in the same room does not mean you are present.  Sometimes we are just so loaded down with our own thoughts, or maybe like me; just had a root canal and therefore am in pain and not really present with others but I try to be and to give them my attention.

Or are you sometimes there and sometimes not.  Checking email real quick or just browsing the internet or visiting social sites for a quick minute or two.

Think about who you are with and why you are with them and how much they mean to you.

How do they show up in your life?  Are they present to just in the same room, occupying the same spaces but not really there?

Maybe they are so consumed with thinking of the next thing they are going to say that they can not hear what you are saying.

We have a friend (I use the term loosely) that does that all the time.  They do not hear or are not paying enough attention to us because they are thinking of what they are saying next.

Do you ever use repeat backs or questions to indicate that you are hearing the other individual?

This tells us a lot about ourselves and others and that knowledge tells them or us just how much we mean to each other.

Give of your presence and that is the best present of all.  Just be present.

A Think Piece by David Alan Binder

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