Mine the Pain

posted Feb 3, 2020, 3:54 PM by David Alan Binder   [ updated Feb 4, 2020, 9:34 AM ]

Mine the Pain


Okay, today we are going into a deep, dark place.  Put on your safety helmets, ensure your lantern is working and bring your pick.


We are going to do some mining.


This is something everyone has to do and the sooner the better.


We all have pain of some type.  Not actual pain, mental pain from friendships lost, hurt received, things that were said in anger, the envy of others, the greed of others, the audacity of others, the temerity of others, the sheer arrogance of others.  Incidents involving maybe our boss, our spouse, a sibling, a parent or grandparent even, or maybe ourselves.  Maybe we were the ones dishing it out and now have regrets.  There are so many veins for us to mine.


Each vein has the delicious irony of helping do some self work to adapt, to evaluate, to mull over and ponder, to meditate, and to glean those precious particles of wisdom.


That wisdom gained is larger than do this, avoid that, etc.  It has to do with evolution which we are particularly suited to since we are at the top of the food chain, have full emotional cognizance, are able to see through the smoke screens, rationalizations, and mirrors that we and others use to fool ourselves.


This is the kind of work associated with self emotional literacy that help us to work through our emotions and write down the root causes.


When I worked with root cause analysis, one needs to work three "whys" into the process to find the real root, otherwise your are just flailing in the jungle and not reaching the real root cause.


This means you become effective and effectiveness is essential.  For without effectiveness you are running in circles spending maximum effort with little to no result.


I know, I've done it for years.  Study the techniques and methods and be careful in the knowledge that this is a process.


A process takes every day of your life for years and years and then maybe some more time.


This process keeps you from reacting on instinct, using only the lizard brain to process pain and develops you to get past the disassociations (think addictions that keep you stuck in the emotional mire-daydreaming, gamer syndrome, spacing out, moving through life without accomplishing anything, every addition from hoarding, to full blown alcoholism and everything in between keeps you from progressing).  Yeah, see why this will take some time and not just and hour or two.


Yet, I'm here to tell you that all of it is worth it.  Listen to Richard Grannon explain this and more. 


I love how Richard Grannon breaks all this information down and explains each little piece of it and give us all a very layered and in depth look at each word and the fragments to help us understand these responses and thereby understand ourselves.

Very insightful and HIGHLY recommended for each of us.

Richard Grannon's

Grannon Fortress Recovery


Yes, I am recommending another site and a darn good one if used properly.


Listen and learn my Dear Readers and Dear Writers.

A Think Piece by David Alan Binder

What do you think?  dalanbinder AT gmail DOT com