Finding your Rhythm

posted Nov 3, 2019, 10:53 AM by David Alan Binder

Finding your Rhythm


Runners call this hitting your stride.  Once you get in shape and start running and get to a certain point it feels like you can run forever (of course no one can, but it gets to a point where it feels like you can go a very long ways without stopping).  I am not a runner and dislike running so I really don’t know.


I do know about hitting my “stride” when writing, my Dear Readers and my Dear Writers and there are times when I can write for hours at a time and not even realize the time is passing.


Other people can lose time easily in performing tasks that they love to do.


One thing that Kyle Cease teaches is to say a sentence about something you dislike and say after it then say, “…and I love that.”  This is rather than say, “I hate that.”

For instance:  “When someone speaks down to me like a child, I love that.”  This means that you are accepting that something happened to you but you are not going to let your emotions or feelings rule you.  Once you can embrace that something happened (not accept just say well it happened) then you can move on so much more easily.


Try it.  “My neighbor parked his truck in front of my house again, and I love that.”  Those ill feelings depart very fast and that minor episode does not flare up and you spend several minutes or sometimes hours ruminating and reflecting on that issue. 

You will spend so much less time worrying and fighting within yourself that you free yourself. 

Do that with fears as well.  I fear being rejected by another publisher and I love that.  It diminishes the fear and shows you that even though you may be rejected that you are accepting it as just another step to being accepted.  Every rejection is one-step closer to getting to where you actually want to be and accepting and loving that is tatamount to being successful.  A person who successfully accepts setbacks then is using those setbacks to become stronger and more flexible and using them as learning tools.


A Think Piece by David Alan Binder

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