What does the word “difficult” mean for you? It meant lots of things
for me. It still does have personal meaning only I don’t take those
things in anymore.
I often suffered the consequences of other people’s actions. Does this happen to you?
I often was accused of yelling when I was just being assertive. Does this happen to you?
The words, “wouda, coulda, shoulda” went round and round in my brain. Does this happen to you?
I was blamed and expected to change just because I disagreed with someone. Does this happen to you?
Getting even; saying “gotcha” gave me great joy. Does this happen to you?
If you answer YES to any of these questions, I can relate to
you. If this answer gives you pain and causes you trouble in your life,
I can relate to you. I did all of these things—and more.
It took me a while to realize that I was not getting what I wanted by
being this way. I wasn’t being heard. I wasn’t being cared about. I
wasn’t having the relationships that I wanted. I knew that I had to do
Fortunately, I eventually found a wonderful therapist. It took some
looking and I was really lucky. She very nonjudgmentally helped me
realize that I wouldn’t lose my
SELF if I changed and gave up
some of these reactions. In fact, I was more likely to get what I
really wanted—and you know what? I did!
You, too, can begin a journey to getting what you want. You may have
tried other therapists who were not quite a match for you. I would love
to hear your story and would be honored to accompany you on your
journey. Please call me at 415-474-6707. I look forward to hearing
For Those Who Care:
BA San Diego State University: History, Art History, Sociology
MSSW Hebrew University Jerusalem: Social Work
MA Antioch University, San Francisco, CA: Clinical Psychology, emphasis in Somatics
CA Marriage and Family Therapist License: MFC 23012
Certified EMDR practitioner