9. Respect even a subtle "no"

"One  of the fundamental principles of decent behavior is to care enough for others not to make our problems theirs."  --Dr. Forni



  1. How many ways can you think of to say no?  Think about speaking, writing, acting....  Would you recognize "no" if you heard it or saw it?
  2. Ask the group yes or no questions.  Students should respond by saying "no" and nodding or saying "yes" and shaking their heads.  After a number of questions, ask students if it was difficult to say one thing and do the opposite.  Was it difficult to understand what the real answer was?

Discussion questions:

  1. How do you recognize "no"?  What does it sound like?  What does it look like? 
  2. Why might someone say "no"?
  3. How does respecting even a subtle "no" help us to be more civil?