5. Be inclusive

"One of our strongest yearnings is to be accepted by others."  --Dr. Forni



  1. Mix It Up.  Students pick a number from a hat when they enter the cafeteria for lunch; the number coincides with numbers on the tables; students sit at the numbered tables rather than their usual spots.
  2. Try speaking and listening to someone you never liked or spend time with someone you always found uninteresting.
  3. When you have several listeners, make sure you are speaking to all of them.
  4. When talking with a group of people, make sure you choose a topic of conversation that everyone is interested in and everyone is comfortable with.
  5. Summarize a conversation for someone who has just arrived to the group.
  6. If you are making plans with a friend and someone else is present, be sure to include everyone in the invitation.
  7. If you speak more then one language, speak the language that most of the group is familiar with.
  8. Welcome a new classmate by saying "hello" and helping him find his way in his new school.
  9. Develop and show an interest in other cultures.
  10. Have students group themselves quickly and in different ways, according to your directions.  Ask students to get into groups of 4's or 6's.  Then ask them to regroup by shirt color or type of shoe.  Ask them to regroup by eye color.  Then ask them to regroup by birtthday month.  (Groups can take a quick break and sing "Happy Birthday".)  Then ask them to regroup by favorite ice cream flavor.  How fast were you able to regroup?  Which were the easiest groups to get in?  The most difficult?  Were you in very different groups or did you stay with the same people?  (Great Group Games)


Discussion questions:

  1. Think about your dislikes. Are they reasonable? Are you comfortable with all of them? Do you maintain these dislikes out of habit? Is change long overdue?
  2. How does being inclusive help us to be civil?