Brittney Mallory

Brittney was a well liked and vibrant member of our community.  She passed away 18 years ago shortly after her 18th birthday, and only 4 months after being diagnosed with an inoperable cancerous brain tumor. Brittney inspired everyone who knew her or came in contact with her.  She was loving, caring and exhibited tremendous strength.



 

My Journey to The Brittney Ride Event

 By Dayle Mallory-Bell                                                                                                                       



My story begins on October 16th, 1981 with the birth of my first child, a girl, Brittney Michelle’ Mallory.  She was strong willed and independent yet full of life and compassion.  She always rooted for the underdog, always wanted to make sure everyone was ok and being cared for. 

 

Saturday the 16th of October 1999, we celebrated Brittney’s 18th birthday.  Just 10 days later she woke me up and said, “Mom, something is just not right, you need to take me to the hospital.”  She had been having migraines and was being treated for them.  I took her to the emergency room and they did a CT scan.  At 4:05am, my world as I knew it, was about to take a drastic change.  The ER doctor asked me to sit down and said, “I am so sorry Mrs. Mallory, your daughter has a brain tumor!” It was an inoperable anaplatic astrocytoma in the center of her brain.  A biopsy later revealed that it was indeed cancer.

 

This is where my nightmare began, the worse 4 months of my life, watching my sweet teenage daughter die.

 

Brittney was so strong and positive through all of the chemo, radiation and doctor appointments. There were so many moments through those four months that I thought she would really be ok. During one of her many hospitals stays, as she sat so helpless in her wheelchair while I bathed her, she said, “Mom, please promise me that you will be ok when I am gone.”  I looked at her and made her a promise that I would indeed be ok and remain strong.  That was just 2 weeks before she left us.

 

On March 3, 2000 at 7:20pm she was gone…. The day she got her wings.

 

My life as I had once knew it was over!  In the following months, I really struggled with life in general.  I remember so many times just wanting to give up but that promise I had made to Brittney stayed with me. I knew that I had to try and keep it together, to be strong for my husband and be a mom to my 15-year-old daughter, Jessi.  This was very difficult as we were all grieving differently.  On June 16th of 2000 my husband of 20 years moved out and we were divorced on November 11th of 2000. That was the start of this new journey I have been on for the last 18 years.

 

On January 3rd, 2003, I met a man that would change my whole world.  He owned a beautiful Harley Davidson motorcycle and kept asking me to go riding with him.  Well, on December 6th, 2003, we were off to ride in the annual Harley Toys for Tots fundraiser ride. You see, Dan never had the opportunity to meet Brittney but knew her through me. I can remember what he said to me that day, “This is what we need to do for your sweet Brittney.”  This was the day that the Brittney Ride was born.  One night, while we were out with some friends, I asked them what they thought of doing a Harley ride for St Jude.  Well, that is all it took to put the First Annual Brittney Ride into motion.

 

Every year, as October rolled around, I just relived those days of her birthday and then the life altering diagnosis.  It was just such a difficult time for me and I felt like I was not moving forward.  As mothers, we spend so much of our time planning our children’s birthdays and thinking about their future, I just missed that so much. So, I decided to have the Brittney ride in October to celebrate her birthday.  On October 16th of 2004 we had our very first Brittney Ride.  It was really weird that that particular Saturday happened to be her actual birthday.  What a celebration we had!  There were not many dry eyes that day.

 

Here I sit, 18 years later and 14 Brittney Rides under my belt, I still cry, but I know something good is coming from my sweet Brittney’s death.  I have now founded the Brittney Ride Event, our event is growing and reaching more people every year, and our year to date total is a little over a half a million dollars for St Jude Children’s Research Hospital.  If I can help one child and one mom from not feeling this pain then I will do this until the day I am with my sweet child in heaven. Although I still struggle and question God about why this had to happen to my precious Brittney, I would not be where I am today without my faith and the love and support of my family and friends. Forever and Always.

 

Dayle- Brittney’s mama (I miss you so much honey)

 

 

 

All proceeds from the event go directly to St. Jude Children’s Research  Hospital in an effort to find a cure, and aid other children in need of care.  So far we have raised just over $505,921,.99.


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Oct 7, 2016, 6:29 PM