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Group Therapy Now Offered

posted Jul 13, 2019, 7:43 PM by Bonnie McKeegan, LCSW   [ updated Jul 13, 2019, 7:48 PM ]

*Group Therapy*

Healing thru Therapeutic Writing


Bonnie McKeegan, LCSW Psychotherapist & Writer

When / By invitation only

August 22nd 2019 On-Going Thursdays Minimum Commitment 6 weeks

9:30 – 11:15am


908 Taylorville Rd Suite 105

Grass Valley, CA 95949

(Chacewater Building on frontage road between Kmart & Hwy 49; Handicap Accessible)


Women over 60; stable; History of Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, or Adjustment Disorder. Interest in exploring Healing through Therapeutic Writing & Meditation

Referral & Questions

530.559.8406  (no texts please)

About Bonnie

Insurances Accepted

o   Aetna 

o   Medicare 

o   Medicare/Medi-Cal

o   Blue Shield of California

o   MHN/Healthnet 

o   California Health & Wellness (CHW Medi-Cal)  

o   HMC Healthworks (UFCWT Behavioral Health)

o   Magellan

o   Beacon (ValueOptions)

o   TricareWest


On-going Closed Group has opening for two new participants.


$30 / Session.

Insurance (list below), cash, CC, & checks accepted.

Contact Bonnie w/ insurance & fee questions. No Sliding Scale for Group.

Intake / Support

Intake Assessment Required.

This is deep work. Clients must have a therapist whom they can schedule for 1:1 as needed. *Bonnie is available, if no current therapist.


Processing Life & Symptom Reduction thru Meditation, Therapeutic Writing, & Sharing in a safe space.


Quotes of Wisdom 29 Grief & Joy - Crying & Pseudobulbar Affect

posted Mar 17, 2018, 9:59 AM by Bonnie McKeegan, LCSW

"There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love."  ~Washington Irving

As human beings, it is in our nature to cry.  "Emotional tears" (Hoyt; Science How Stuff Works; How Crying Works) are a built-in pressure release system for strong feelings such as sadness, anger, anxiety and even deep regret. Of course, crying can be an expression of deep feelings of joy or love as well. Being overcome by just about any emotion can cause the tears to flow.  If we allow it.

Kids are naturals and good at crying until taught differently by messages learned from family, friends, role-models, and caregivers, not to mention the many negative messages they absorb through media about crying.

 By the time we are adults, the negative messaging may have become deeply internalized and the message "don't cry" can have significant negative consequences. For men and women alike.

For some of us, all too often we stifle our emotional tears and find ways to avoid crying when the release is exactly what we need. Rather than cry, we may cope with our strong emotions and grief through unhealthy behaviors such as overeating or use of mood-altering substances. Denial is powerful.

In grief specifically, the release that comes from crying allows for healing.

Crying is not necessarily always about strong emotions.  

If you know someone who has frequent crying periods it might wise to pay close attention and talk to them about it. It could be a sign of a medical condition such as depression or Pseudobulbar Affect (PBA).  A person who has had a stroke may weep very easily or alternately laugh "inappropriately" due to PBA. They may be talking about their favorite superhero movie and break into tears.  It may seem like an "overreaction" or the person is being "dramatic" when actually it's a medical condition related to a neurological issue. 

Here's some info and links with information about PBA (Pseudobulbar Affect):


"PBA is a condition that causes uncontrollable crying and/or laughing that happens suddenly and frequently. It can happen in people with a brain injury or certain neurologic conditions.

A person having a PBA crying spell may cry when they don’t feel sad or when they only feel a little bit sad. Someone having a PBA laughing spell may laugh when they don’t feel amused or when they only feel a little bit amused."

From WebMD (PBA):

"An injury or disease that affects your brain can lead to pseudobulbar affect. About half the people who've had a stroke get it. Other brain conditions commonly linked to PBA include:

Another source of info (no endorsement of a pharmaceutical is intended):  This site says 28% of those who've had a stroke have PBA.  It also says 48% of people with traumatic brain injury have PBA.  It's quite likely most of us know someone with PBA.

Living with this condition can be humiliating or embarrassing and the individual may avoid social situations.  They may frequently apologize for their crying or say they can't help it.

A note: "uncontrollable crying" doesn't necessarily mean huge loud dramatic crying. It means the person has no control. The tears just roll no matter how hard they try to control them. They've lost the ability most of us have, to at least some degree, to control, stop, or avoid tears.

No matter the cause of someone's tears, compassion and empathy are critical; for those around us and for ourselves. Subtle signs that we are not comfortable with someone's tears, such as handing them a tissue (which may just seem like the polite thing to do) signals the person we cannot handle their pain or loss of control. 

The message is, "please stop crying. Please stop feeling bad because I can't handle it." This type of signal will quickly shut down the very natural and normal need to cry. It is more helpful and healthy for everyone to learn to deal with and accept your own discomfort; that indeed is healing in itself.

Most of us would benefit from the emotional connection that is created with another human being who is able to allow us to cry freely in their presence, and what a gift that can be.  The closeness of sharing a deeply human experience can be healing in itself.

Crying passes, eventually. It's like every other mood experience, it flows through us then changes. When the person is done crying, they are simply done.  Give the gift of relief to yourself and to those around you. 

Allow for healing through tears.

Yes, I cried this week.  Big big.

*featured photo by yours truly: Bottle Tree created by my mom Farmer's Almanac history of Bottle Trees

*Quotes of Wisdom – a Friday at 9am (Pacific Time Zone) series offering Wisdom, Feel Good, Inspirational and Thought-provoking Quotes. Sometimes with links and most likely, with too many thoughts of my own included.

As always, thank you for visiting! Feel free to like, comment, share, follow my journey over on as your heart and mind desire. Namaste


Quotes of Wisdom 21 The Healing Gift of Presence

posted Jan 29, 2018, 8:39 PM by Bonnie McKeegan, LCSW   [ updated Jul 12, 2019, 8:44 PM ]

“What we suffer, what we endure…is done by us, as individuals, in private.” ~Louise Bogan

Yes, ultimately, suffering is truly an intimate and private experience. We endure loss as part of groups we are in, such as with natural (or man-made) disasters and war, but essentially alone within our skin, our bodies and minds. There are commonalities of experience through loss from illness, death, disabilities and injuries, relationships, financial hardship, lack of shelter, brain disorders (mental illness), lack of dignity and respect, aging changes, racism, and more.

Those common experiences can bind us together as friends, families, communities, countries, and ultimately, as the human race.  Or they can divide us.

I think of empathy – the ability to understand and share the feelings of another; to see someone’s suffering from their perspective as if walking in their shoes – as the glue that binds us. Without the glue, we are painfully divided, and our suffering as individuals increases.

While we cannot walk in the shoes of another sufferer, we do know the pain of our own suffering. With that intrinsic knowledge, we can offer something our pets instinctively do well. Just being present.

Okay, well, pets are often furry, cute, entertaining, and cuddly (and sometimes a bit slobbery!) but, if you are a pet lover then you probably get the point. If you are not a pet lover, it’s okay. You probably still understand by observation of those who do have pets.  Their unconditional loving presence is comforting and alleviates some of our pain. They can often be highly sensitive to our suffering as well.

For those suffering, our presence and empathy can make all the difference. Along with solving problems that can be solved, i.e., providing food, shelter, clothing, and medical care, our simple, quiet presence can be the greatest gift for someone who is suffering mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically

At our core, we have the ability to move through our pain and grief process and grow deeper in our understanding of what it is to be human. We experience the light and the darkness in cycles, just as the seasons of summer and winter circle back around each year.

It is not an easy thing to do, just to be present, to witness suffering while being helpless to change the situation.  Most of us have a strong urge to try to “fix” the situation or solve the problem.  That urge can be a form of denial, an inability to accept that some things are just what they seem – awful and unavoidable.  That urge to do or say something, or offer an idea that might help is powerful and often driven by our own discomfort.  I know that urge. I’ve experienced it gazillions of times. I am as guilty as the next person for allowing my discomfort to get in the way of just being present.

Our empathetic presence can be the key ingredient that helps to alleviate another’s pain.

 Feeling alone while suffering increases our pain.

While we cannot change many situations for others, we can do something else on a very human and intimate level.

Just be there.

The feeling of being alone adds to our suffering. 

The feeling of being heard and understood adds to our healing and feelings of well-being.

This is why “talk therapy” can change a person’s life.  But, I am not talking about therapy.

I am talking about just being humane in our everyday lives; striving to be empathetically present with others.  Our friends, families, communities, and each person we meet or stand next to in line at the grocery store are all enduring their own private suffering.

I am ever-so-grateful when I feel the empathetic presence of others. There is a huge presence in my life. And I thank you!

In many ways, this and all of my posts, are reminders for myself.  Thank you for tagging along.

From Wikipedia: Louise Bogan (August 11, 1897 – February 4, 1970) was an American poet. She was appointed the fourth Poet Laureate to the Library of Congress in 1945.

The Poetry Foundation notes that Bogan has been called by some critics the most accomplished woman poet of the twentieth century. It further notes that, “Some critics have placed her in a category of brilliant minor poets described as the “reactionary generation.”

*featured photo from cocoparisienne-127419/ on Pixabay

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Understanding California's End of Life Option event hosted by Full Circle

posted Jul 31, 2017, 12:07 PM by Bonnie McKeegan, LCSW   [ updated Jul 12, 2019, 8:44 PM ]

Community Education Event: Understanding California's
​End-of-Life Option Act 

Do you believe you would never
use Medical Aid in Dying?

You have the right to control your own dying process. Every end-of-life experience is personal and unique. Some people die peacefully and naturally without medical help.
If you have a terminal diagnosis you have the right to palliative care and the help of a medical team.
With a terminal diagnosis you have options.
Medical Aid in dying is an option in California.
You also have a right to voluntarily stop eating and drinking to manage your own death.
Even if you think you would never choose these options, 
come learn and understand why a friend or family member might need Medical Aid in dying.

Presentation and discussion.
WHEN: Sunday August 27, 2017 2-4pm
WHERE: Chapel of the Angels
250 Race Street, Grass Valley, CA
Free Event! Donations happily accepted. 
Details Contact: Akhila (530)432-6929

Zen and the Art of Dying film showing August 13 2017

posted Jul 30, 2017, 7:32 AM by Bonnie McKeegan, LCSW   [ updated Jul 12, 2019, 8:45 PM ]

Click here to go to Full Circle Living and Dying Collective's website to view the trailer: 

SCREENING: Sunday August 13, 2017 4
671 Maltman Dr, Grass Valley, CA
SUGGESTED DONATION: $5-$15 (You may use credit card below)

Zen & the Art of Dying is a portrait of Zenith (Zen) Virago, Australia’s premiere ‘deathwalker’. From her origins as a young mother in the UK, to her present day identity as a lesbian, activist, and self-described deathwalker in the idyllic seaside town of Byron Bay, Australia, Zenith (Zen) Virago’s personal and professional experiences quietly challenge our core assumptions about life and dissolve our fears around death. Zenith is co-founder of the Australian Natural Death Care Centre, an organization that provides end-of-life decision planning and DIY funeral alternatives to residents of Australia’s North Coast. Zenith's work models a grassroots international Natural Death Care Movement that is gaining momentum as Baby Boomers begin to retire and are demanding more personalized, empowered, and meaningful choices around end-of-life matters, just as they did with the natural childbirth movement. Her example, and the willingness of Byron Shire’s citizens to join her cause, invite each of us to reexamine and reclaim a more active role in how we live, love, and die.

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