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Study: For cell phone users, etiquette is age-based, Adrienne LaFrance, Digital First Media 11/30/2012
NEW YORK - Your cell phone habits and behaviors depend largely on how old you are, a study released Friday by the Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life Project says.
Some 85 percent of Americans have cell phones, about half of them smartphones, according to Pew's survey of 2,254 adults last spring. More than a third of respondents said they "couldn't live without" their phones. But based on age, cell phone users value different things about the devices.
Americans under 40 were more likely to mention access to the Internet, email and text messaging as cell-phone qualities they prize. Older Americans said they primarily like that mobile phones are convenient and helpful in an emergency. Aaron Smith, the study's author, says it's striking that 20-year-olds and 40-year-olds report similar attachment to the technology.
"They have similar demands in terms of what's required of them in this world where people can reach them at all times, despite being in very different places in their lives," Smith said. "If you're someone in college, it's probably your buddy wondering why you're not at the party, or your study partner wondering where you are. Whereas if you're in your mid-40s, maybe it's a spouse or a child."
Compared with older cell phone owners, younger people also reported different rules of etiquette attached to phone use. Those in their 20s and 30s reported being more likely to get complaints about not responding promptly to text messages and calls, while also being told more often they spend too much time with their phones.
In turn, younger people also worry more about how often they're on their mobile phones. Nearly a quarter of 18-to-24-year-olds said they think they spend too much time on their phones compared with 14 percent of people who are 25 to 44 years old. Only a handful of those 55 and older reported having this concern.
Exploring the social and cultural trappings that have come with the ubiquity of mobile phones is nuanced work because the effects of even dramatic technological changes can be difficult to ascertain in real time. But there are hints all around us: Checking a cell phone has become an automatic gesture that evokes the way people once reached for pocket watches. Designer Ian Bogost wrote an essay for The Atlantic in which he argues that mobile phones have replaced the cultural space that smoking tobacco once occupied, giving us "the most distinctive social tic since cigarettes."
It's a habit that's with many Americans 24 hours a day. In Pew's study, some 44 percent of cell phone users reported sleeping with their phone next to them so as not to miss any calls, with more than half of younger cell users reporting the habit.
Three-quarters of younger cell phone users say they frequently check their phone for messages or alerts, even if they don't hear a notification. People who make more than $75,000 per year are "significantly" more likely than other cell phone users to say their phone makes it hard to disconnect from work, the study says. Only 6 percent of those earning under $50,000 say their phones make it a lot harder to unplug at the end of the day.
"For a lot of those groups, not only have they spent a large portion of their lives using these devices, but so have their friends," Smith said. "So it's not only how they live their lives but how their friends live their lives - making sure that they don't miss calls, checking to make sure no one's tried to get a hold of them."
Phone etiquette also appears to be evolving with technology. Pew found that people report encountering fewer cell phone users having intrusively loud conversations in public. Thirty-nine percent of those surveyed say they see this kind of behavior often, compared with 50 percent who said so in a 2006 survey. Maybe not surprisingly, a much smaller number - just 6 percent of those surveyed - admitted to having loud or annoying public cell phone conversations themselves.
"People noticing other people being loud and annoying is still fairly common but it's actually gone down as texting has become more common," Smith said. "This is sort of the flip side, though: As they're texting more, they're annoying their dinner partners but being less annoying to the people one table over."
Something that hasn't changed much in recent years: The number of cell phone users who engage in sexually suggestive text messaging. People who report sending and receiving the most so-called sexts are 25- to 34-year-olds. Within that group, about a third of those surveyed said they had received a sex-themed text message, and 14 percent said they have sent one. Overall, sexting recipients and senders are at 15 percent and 6 percent, respectively. Those numbers mirror Pew's findings from 2010.
Younger people are most engaged with their phones, so it follows that they're both more enthusiastic about the benefits of having a cell phone and stronger in their criticism of the downsides.
"People have become very attached and very attuned to their phones, and they see some real benefits from that," Smith said. "But they also express some ambivalence about what that attachment involves. They love to hate the convenience and connectivity their phones give them."
Attitudinal Dynamics Team - El Paso
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Original El Paso Times online story at http://www.elpasotimes.com/newupdated/ci_22095533/study-cell-phone-users-etiquette-is-age-based
Study: For cell phone users, etiquette is age-based, Adrienne LaFrance, Digital First Media 11/30/2012
Politeness seems to be falling by the wayside these days, with phrases like "you're welcome" replaced by the more casual "you bet" or "no problem." Good manners were more the norm in 1960, when these kids at a junior theatrical school learned how to curtsy and bow. Chris Ware/Keystone Features/Getty Images
Original NPR story can be accessed at http://www.npr.org/2012/03/09/148295675/please-read-this-story-thank-you?ft=3&f=111787346&sc=nl&cc=es-20120318
ROGERS, Ark. — A northwest Arkansas teenager thought it would be funny to text a random phone number saying she hid a body, but the joke backfired.
Of all the local phone numbers she could have chosen, the 15-year-old Rogers girl picked one that belonged to a police detective. Police found the girl's address by tracing her cellphone number.
The prank? To text: "I hid the body ... Now what?" to a random phone number. The teen said she got the idea for the prank from a posting on the website Pinterest.
Police didn't find the prank funny and say it tied up some of the department's resources.
The girl was released with a warning.
Original KFOX-TV online story http://www.kfoxtv.com/ap/ap/top-news/arkansas-teen-texts-prank-to-police-detective/nLSct/
"... there is no person on earth without some fault. Where this person fails on one count, another fails elsewhere.
We don’t appreciate someone else prying into our faults and underlining each one with a red pencil. So we know it is not right to emphasize and magnify the faults of another.
This is the way all people should relate to one another. But especially when it comes to your spouse and the members of your own family."
—from a letter
Excerpt: "... handcuffed and taken to a holding facility because she was, 'argumentative and extremely rude' to an assistant principal."
When Yajira Quezada copped an attitude, police put her in cuffs.
An Adams County, Colo. Sheriff's Office incident report obtained by KUSA says the Shaw Heights Middle School 11-year-old was handcuffed and taken to a holding facility because she was, "argumentative and extremely rude" to an assistant principal.
"Why would they handcuff me?" Quezada asked KUSA. "I'm not the type of girl to get arrested."
The Sheriff's office said it was just following normal procedure.
The story is reminiscent of Newscore's report on an Indiana middle school girl who was literally handcuffed over spilled milk.
And just last week, a parent in North Carolina claimed her autistic son was restrained via handcuffs at a New Hanover County school, according to WECT.
Original online story at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/06/yajira-quezada-handcuffed_n_1324635.html?ncid=webmail1
03/06/12 Letter to Editor El Paso Times expressing disappointment with entitlement mentality of El Paso teens; "Food moochers"
February 28 was Free Pancake Day at Ihop. Customers got a stack of three yummy pancakes, and all that was asked in return was a donation of any amount to benefit the Shriner's Children's Hospitals.
Now, I have a personal reason for supporting that charity as my son was treated by a Shriner's Hospital for clubfoot when he was born. That's why I was so mad when I left my local Ihop.
The place was packed full of people, mostly teens, who ordered water and their stack of pancakes, then left without making a donation.
The waitress said that most people didn't leave a donation.
Have we become such an entitlement society that we can't even support children's charities? Who is teaching these teens and young adults?
I'm ashamed to see that this is what's becoming of America.
I hope El Paso is the exception and the rest of the U.S. did better. Shame on you if you were one of those people who ate your free pancakes and didn't donate.
Nothing in life is free! Even my 9-year-old wanted to donate his own money.
Thank you to Ihop for having the event.
Shannon Ferreira, East El Paso
Original El Paso Times letter to editor carried online at http://www.elpasotimes.com/opinion/ci_20107384/letters-oh-wait
Dignity and Respect campaign hits its stride, by Sgt. Jason C. Daniels, 12th Public Affairs Detachment:
Keith Arachikavitz gives lectures on dignity and respect at the Centennial Banquet and Conference Center Jan. 25 at Fort Bliss. Team Bliss launched a dignity and respect campaign with seminars Jan. 23 through 27. Photo by Sgt. Jason C. Daniels, 12th Public Affairs Detachment.
Key leaders at Fort Bliss attended dignity and respect training held at the Centennial Banquet and Conference Center from Jan. 23 to 27. The training, presented by Keith Arachikavitz, a retired master sergeant and former equal opportunity adviser, marked the beginning of an ongoing dignity and respect campaign, which focuses on improving the quality of life within the workplace and throughout the Fort Bliss community.
“We are starting this campaign to reinforce Army values,” said Maj. Gen. Dana J. H. Pittard, commanding general of 1st Armored Division and Fort Bliss, “and to build a community and culture where dignity and respect is demonstrated in deeds and words.”
Officers, senior noncommissioned officers, Department of the Army civilians and contractors were required to attend one of 15 sessions that addressed bullying behavior, negative influences and biases within the Army.
Having the leaders attend the training before subordinates will assist in the campaign’s mission to ensure that leaders use appropriate techniques to build a positive, yet effective work environment.
Arachikavitz’s presentation showcased various scenarios of how people, unknowingly and unintentionally, disrespect or offend one another. He also shared some of his personal experiences to show that no one is perfect, but people should be self-aware.
In one example during a trip through New Jersey he reacted with bias toward an African-American man, who was attempting to help him pump gas. Arachikavitz dismissed the gentleman because he was taught to be cautious in urban areas. Arachikavitz did not realize in New Jersey, gas station patrons do not pump their own gas, and he was just trying to do his job.
The 90-minute seminar left senior leaders with the tools to increase productivity by establishing a positive work environment where each team member feels valued.
“I think [the training] was entertaining,” said Capt. Nicholas Dason of C Company, 3rd Battalion, 501st Aviation Regiment, 1st Armored Division. He also said he learned how to use dignity and respect to improve team building in his unit.
Another goal of the dignity and respect campaign is to raise awareness of the various races, cultures and beliefs at Fort Bliss and in the El Paso area.
“My main goal is not to reach 150 people. I used to try and do that, but I have learned that if I have touched three lives out of the 150 people then I have made a difference,” said Arachikavitz. “I planted a seed. If Johnny planted only one seed in his life, and stood there and waited for it to grow, then he would’ve only planted one seed. But he knew, you plant a seed, then you move on and plant another one, and with proper sunlight and proper water, that seed is going to grow.”
Original online story located: http://fbmonitor.com/?p=10170
Bus riders want a safe, speedy and comfortable ride. We can't do anything (except complain) about fares, schedules and loss of bus stops. We can improve the rides we have. These are some suggestions:
- Get your fare or transfer ready while waiting for the bus.
- Take an available seat away from the front.
- Don't stand and schmooze with the driver; he needs to concentrate on driving conditions.
- Take a window seat if available; it's awkward to step over your feet if you are in an aisle seat.
- If you enter as a group, please sit together; don't shout to each other across the bus.
- Phone conversations should be short; no one wants to hear your private or business conversations.
- When exiting the bus, use the rear exit. This doesn't hold up the new boarders and speeds the trip.
We, the passengers, can help make our ride safer, faster and more comfortable.
Harry Kirshenbaum 2/4/12 letter to El Paso Times editor