Are you a worrier or pessimist?

Are you a worrier or pessimist? Read on!

A decade or two ago, a client paid £500 for me to accompany him to an Anthony Robbins weekend. I didn’t know at the time that Robbins came from a poor family and instead of college had to work to help feed his siblings. However, he managed to turn his life around and is one of America’s foremost performance coaches charging major corporate clients a million dollars a year for spending one period a month helping them. He is now a multi billionaire.

His weekend started on Friday evening and was from 5pm to 2am Saturday morning. Saturday was 10am to 3am Sunday morning. Sunday was half day from 10am to midnight! There was an extra optional day included on health from 10am to 4pm on Monday.

It was all very interesting and I learned a lot of things, including how to walk on white hot coals in my bare feet at 1am on Saturday morning!

It was much later that I realised that my whole attitude to life was changing for the better on a personal level.

Two things which I find so useful that I would like to pass these on to others. The first is good common sense. The second required me to get confirmation from a psychiatrical and two psychologists. They all agreed it made sense although they wouldn’t have simplified it that way.

The first is, if you have a problem, no matter how serious, don’t worry about it – go and sort it immediately, or failing that, as quickly as you can.

The second concerns the brain. Your brain is geared to two things. To avoid pain and to search for pleasure. Unfortunately for worriers and pessimists, your brain listens to everything you think and say. And gears itself to avoid pain and give pleasure. If you dwell on these subjects, your brain thinks it's what gives you pleasure!

When your thoughts are negative, your brain thinks, that’s what you want, and piles more negativity onto you. The same with worry.

Once I realised this, I became more careful with my thoughts and, if anything negative happens, I asked myself “How can I turn this around, and have fun doing it”. That last part is more important than you think. The brain immediately picks up on the word fun, analyses the thought, and works on turning the problem around in an easy and fun way.

I then read the Robbins book, ‘Awaken the giant within’. This was a great help reinforcing the seminar I had attended.

Many of my friends and colleagues read my articles and they will acknowledge I am a happy individual, always full of enthusiasm and never down, even with the present lock-down.

If you want to try this idea, email me on my social media account (I only look in it at weekends) at and I will help you to chose words for any issues you may have. Then print it out (if you have eyesight problems print in large type). And put it by your bed. Read it every night before you retire and every morning when you rise. After a few weeks you will begin to note a change.


I've just, today (19th), received my Note 20 Ultra so will not be posting an article next week. The transfer is going to be a long job, even with their so called automatic transfer software!