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Hypnotists make better lovers: equivalence between trance, sex, & therapy.

The hypnotist hypnotized: a kind of a dance described here step by step as a circular interaction that is reciprocal between hypnotist and subject rather than the hypnotist (or therapist) acting on a subject (or patient) in a uni dimensional manner.

When hope can kill.

The reason for your parenting style and interpersonal style with other people is the same reason you keep falling for losers: an an essay on how to manage your inner child by getting it out of the way - making projective identification work for you in relationships.

The most important thing to know about reflective listening is when not to do it: and instead to set limits.

Danger - proceed at your own risk: Making sure that informed consent is truly informed

Science & Belief - Deciding to put an end to flatulence to end global warming: either become part of the solution or remain part of the problem. (3 pages, February 2008).

An epistemological approach to custody evaluations.

The problem of being marginalized: the solution of pretending

A waitlist solution: being there right away to figure out what's needed.

Life sucks, get used to it: Exposure to aversive stimuli as an antidote to depression.

When bad things happen, you're just not used to it: dissociation as a normal state of mind

Medication is a question of values: Attention deficit or a million dollars?  

Why autism spectrum disorders (asperger's disorder) can look like defiance: and what to do about it.

Asperger's syndrome: What it is.  Helium - Where Knowledge Rules. (5 pages, April 2007).

Get a life: the cultivation of secondary reinforcement in the treatment of depression

Emptying people's minds of what they think they know as a prerequisite for genuine therapeutic change.

Sex with a goat: the important difference between agreement and acceptance in listening skills.

Helping more than hurting in problems of sexual abuse

Brainwashing: Cognitive therapy as talking about talking about talking.

The importance of maintaining uncertainty in hypnosis: the "just-noticeable difference" as the quantum of consciousness. Draft of a chapter in a book being written for Strategic Publishers entitled "How to hypnotize people without telling them."

Taming The Monsters Within Us with Ten Rules to Live By

Part I (Rules 1-5)

Rule 1: Say why you will or won't take charge - who has the problem

Rule2: Listen to show you understand- listening skills

Rule 3: Reward what you like, not what you don't like - behavior management techniques

Rule 4: Punish to teach, not to get even, and do it in sorrow, because you care - behavior management techniques

Rule 5: Express anger safely: anger management - with cognitive therapy 

Part II (Rules 6-10)

Rule 6: Set limits without being too bossy or too vague

Rule 7: Redirect attention to give choices they're ready to follow

Rule 8: Express feelings without anger or blame - with "I" - messages  

Rule 9: Ask honest questions and give honest answers, except when it is unnecessarily hurtful to self or others

Rule 10: Talk it over until you find a solution that satisfies everyone rather than causing the resentment in a compromise 

Part III (Chapters 11-18) - things your therapist never told you

Chapter 11: Hypnotists make better lovers: trance without words in counseling, arm levitation, and sex

Chapter12: Mistakes in sex and therapy: Don't worry, nobody will catch you

Chapter 13: The hypnotist hypnotized: successful therapy gets clients to keep the therapist in a trance

Chapter 14: Practicing the rules until you use them automatically

Chapter 15: Rules for when to use each rule

Chapter 16: More than one right way to use the rules: your interpersonal style

Chapter 17: The source for interpersonal styles: the wounded inner child

Chapter 18: Not-knowing: Get the inner child out of the way with the ingredient in reflective listening that manages projective identification    

Part IV (Chapters 19-23 )- Tips for experts, not for dummies 

Rule 19: Sex with a goat: accepting a feeling versus agreeing with it

Rule 20: Not-doing: The thing to know about reflective listening is not to do it

Rule 21 Stopping them in their tracks when they yell at you, argue with you, or insult you

Rule 22: Emptying people’s minds of what they think they know about bratty kids, lazy husbands, and pathological jealous

Rule 23: Transitioning from reflective listening to cognitive therapy - from the most indirect to the most direct: talking about talking about talking