The synagogue where we got married, Temple Shir Tikvah, is described in the venues section.
Rabbi Rim was originally recommended to us as a rabbi in Massachusetts who was willing to perform weddings even if one of us was not Jewish. We checked out his site, and liked what we saw. He doesn't take himself too seriously. At the same time, he seemed quite thoughtful and intelligent.
When we contacted him, our initial favorable impressions were confirmed. He is very supportive of same-sex marriage, as his own stepdaughter was recently married to another woman. He is flexible on arrangements. For example, he allowed a ketubah that was personally designed for us, rather than standard (quite sexist!) wording. He proofread the ketubah to make sure it said what we wanted in Hebrew as well as English. He allowed us to have all of our guests sign the ketubah as witnesses. He permitted us to include the vows from the Church of England wedding ceremony (which is what NotFroofy thinks of as a traditional wedding, even though she is not religious), and to have an interpretation of each of the blessings that does not include references to God. And he was quite supportive on the idea of our building our own chuppah. When we were looking for a place to get ready before the ceremony, he offered his own office, and brought a full-length mirror from home. He gave us lots of good advice, while at the same time working to have the ceremony just the way we want it.
At the ceremony itself, he was warm and welcoming to all our guests. Even when we had some minor glitches (the pen disappearing when we went to sign the ketubah, NotFroofy's veil falling off, our having difficulties breaking the glass), he responded with warmth and good humor.
Kippot - Mazel Tops
We wanted to provide ivory satin kippot (yarmulkes) and kippah clips for any of our guests who wanted to wear them. However, many of the places that made kippot insisted on minimum orders of several dozen. With only a dozen guests, total, that was not going to work.
We finally found Mazel Tops, which did not have a minimum order. The kippot are a special design that lies flatter on the head than other kippot. We had our names and the date imprinted inside them. We were a little nervous that the (clearly Orthodox) seller would have an issue with imprinting two women's names inside, but she gave us no problems about this. The quality was excellent. In comparing notes with other Jewish brides, it appeared that Mazel Tops consistently produced high quality kippot and delivered them promptly, which many other sellers did not.
We found this glass for breaking at a local Jewish gift store. The only problem with it was that it was very hard to break. It might have worked better with a man's heavy shoe. But with my thin-soled slippers and NotFroofy's kitten heels, it took many tries to get it to break.
We liked the idea of making something from the shards of the glass broken at the ceremony. However, many of the options we found were quite expensive. One day, I saw an Etsy seller, Enid Traisman, who made mezuzot from blown glass. I contacted her to find out whether she could use the shards from our glass for this purpose. After some discussion, she said she could. She did a beautiful job, and now has such mezuzot as one of her standard items.
A newly married friend lent us this kiddush cup for use during the blessing over wine.
Pull Bows, eBay Seller giftwrap*etc
We got the ivory bows we used to line the aisle from eBay Seller giftwrap*etc. They came looking like a flat piece of ribbon, but pulling on a string made them take the bow shape shown. This was a lot easier than trying to make our own bows!