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What is bullying?
Bullying is when people deliberately use words or actions repeatedly against an individual or a group to cause physical, social and/or psychological harm. They usually want to make the person feel less powerful or helpless.
Bullying can happen anywhere — at school, at work, at home, online, or by text messaging or email. Bullying can come in different forms, all of which cause distress and pain for the person who is being bullied.
“Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.”
Different types of bullying
Different types of bullying
Verbal bullying
Name calling, teasing, putting someone down, threatening to cause someone harm.
Physical bullying
Poking, hitting, punching, kicking, spitting, tripping or pushing someone, breaking someone’s things, pulling faces or making rude hand signals.
Social bullying
Lying, spreading rumours, playing horrible jokes, leaving someone out on purpose, embarrassing someone in public.
Cyberbullying
Cyberbullying is using technology like email, mobile phones, chat rooms or networking sites to hurt someone by sending hurtful messages, pictures or comments.
How can bullying be stopped?
How can bullying be stopped?
If you are the person being bullied, you may need to use a few different strategies, such as:
You can talk to a person you trust
You can take someone you trust with you when you seek help or talk to the bully
You can seek help from an agency or support service,
We have a responsibility to respect and protect the rights of others. A bystander is someone who sees or knows about bullying that is happening to someone else.
Bystander vs Upstander
"In Person or Online"
Bystander
There are three main types of bystanders:
1. Followers (assistants) – do not initiate, but take an active role in the bullying
2. Supporters (reinforcers) – support the bullying behavior
3. Pretenders (overtly or covertly) - example: by turning a blind eye but do not take an active role in the bullying behavior
Upstander
How can I be an upstander?
Reach out to the person being bullied or abused. Send a positive message to the person being bullied or abused. ...
Call out the bully. If you feel confident and safe, speak up about the bullying or abuse you see
Say something to the person being mean. ...
Call in other support. An adult or trusted person for help
BECOME UPSTANDERS FOR OTHERS!!!!!
Is it CYBER BULLYING?
What Is Cyberbullying
Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place over digital devices like cell phones, computers, and tablets. Cyberbullying can occur through SMS, Text, and apps, or online in social media, forums, or gaming where people can view, participate in, or share content. Cyberbullying includes sending, posting, or sharing negative, harmful, false, or mean content about someone else. It can include sharing personal or private information about someone else causing embarrassment or humiliation. Some cyberbullying crosses the line into unlawful or criminal behavior.
The most common places where cyberbullying occurs are:
Social Media, such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Tik Tok
Text messaging and messaging apps on mobile or tablet devices
Instant messaging, direct messaging, and online chatting over the internet
Online forums, chat rooms, and message boards
Email
Online gaming communities
What are the 5 A's of a Strong Relationship?
Attention
Acceptance
Appreciation
Affection
and
Allowing.
Harmful Key Facts of Bullying
Harmful Key Facts of Bullying
Bullying is behaviour that is repeated and intended to cause psychological, social or physical harm.
Bullying can be harmful to your mental health, your self-esteem and your social relationships.
People who bully often have low self-esteem.
If you are being bullied or you know of someone who is being bullied, there are ways to stop it and places to go for advice and support.
Showing Kindness to Friends
Showing Kindness to Friends
Being Kind to Friends can also:
Increase your sense of belonging and purpose, improve your perception on healthy relationships
Boost your happiness and reduce your stress at school and home
Improve your self-confidence and self-worth
Help you cope with traumas, such as the death of a loved one
Encourage you to change or avoid unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as bullying.
Benefits of Teaching Empathy to Kids
Benefits of Teaching Empathy to Kids
There are several benefits of teaching kids empathy, including the following:
Empathy helps build a sense of security in their relationships with other children and adults
Empathy encourages acceptance and tolerance of others
Empathy positions children well for learning when they understand themselves and others
Empathy promotes good mental health
Empathy promotes higher levels of happiness
Empathy encourages social harmony and reduces the likelihood of bullying
5- Ingredients to be a likeable person
5- Ingredients to be a likeable person
- Self-awareness
People who are comfortable with who they are have little need to be defensive or attention-seeking. Interacting with someone who is self-aware feels genuine and authentic. You know where you are with them and there are no hidden agendas.
- Self-regulation
People who recognise their own emotions and use this to choose how to respond, keep disruptive emotions and impulses under control. They are calm, consistent, and respond to a situation rather than react.
- Motivation
Being around people who genuinely express joy and have a positive outlook, makes you want to be part of their tribe to soak up their positive energy, passion and enthusiasm for life. A motivated person who is supportive and encouraging of you is likeable because you feel empowered and happy in their company.
- Empathy
People who put themselves in your shoes understand your world. They ask questions to inquire about you and they listen. Really listen. They are likable when they accept others for who they are and don’t judge.
- Social skills
Someone who is a likeable person makes good use of their face by smiling. They are curious and ask interesting questions which makes you feel closely aligned and connected to them.
Dolores Cardinalle ,M.A.Ed. ,PPS.
SMS & SHS Counselor
The BEST way to contact me is via email: dcardinalle@shandonschools.org I will usually respond within the school day or by order received.
Phone: 1-805-238-0286 Ext 110
Office hours: 8:00 am -3:45 pm
Parents: by appointment
Students: Anytime before, during, or after school
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