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Imagine being in a relationship with a man, utterly convinced you were straight, and discovering something that flipped your entire world UPSIDE DOWN.

That was me four years ago when I realised – to my own surprise – I was (am!) a lesbian.

It was a moment that shattered my understanding of sexual attraction and set me on a journey that led to the joyful, orgasmic, sexually vibrant life I'm living today.

After sharing my story publicly, I was flooded with messages from women asking for advice on how they could better understand their own sexuality. But there wasn’t a reliable resource I could send them to. So I decided to create one!

Authentic Attraction is the result. It’s the practcal guide I WISH I’d had when I was first unpacking my sexuality.

What's included:

Drawing from my personal experience unpacking “comphet” and a decade of research into female sexual desire in my job as a sex columnist and educator, this practical guide will help you uncover your true sexuality and discover what genuine attraction feels like (prepare for a reality shift!).

Whether you're curious, questioning, or ready to embrace your truth, Authentic Attraction will show you the way to your most authentic self.

✅ Download it instantly for immediate access on your phone or tablet

✅ An immersive guide that’ll help you COMPLETELY unpack comphet

✅ The ‘Am I REALLY Straight?’ quiz you always needed (this goes SO MUCH DEEPER than standard online gay quizzes to help you identify EXACTLY where you sit on the sexual spectrum)

✅ Practical workbook exercises to move through as you unpack your sexuality, designed to challenge everything you think you know about sexual attraction

✅ All about SEX – learn the difference between physical + subjective arousal and what it means for your sexuality (you'll never f**k the same way again after this)

✅ A how-to manual for where + how to meet queer women

✅ My BEST beginner queer girl flirting tips (including psychological hacks you can use to determine if she’s just being nice or is into you)

✅ The 3 things you NEED to know before you have your first date/hookup with a woman (this is the info I WISH I had when I first came out!)

Why I'm the gay girl for the job:

If you’re not already familiar with me, you’re going to be by the end of this guide, ‘cause I spill some serious tea. But in case you’re wondering why you should trust me to take you on this journey, I want to assure you, I’ve gotchu.

Hi, by the way! My name's Nadia Bokody, and I’ve spent the last decade educating people about female sexual pleasure in my career as Australia's most-read sex columnist, TV + radio sexpert, and host of one of YouTube's leading sex education channels. I also came out publicly in my thirties and have used my platforms to help queer women find themselves ever since.

My job has given me the privilege of going behind many velvet ropes to taboo places including porn sets, swingers parties, brothels and BDSM dungeons. And it’s provided me with a kind of All-Access Security Pass to information usually kept hush-hush; from interviews with hundreds of everyday women about their sex lives, to ground-breaking research on the science of sexuality.

More importantly, it’s given me the platform to share these insights and transform a lot of women’s lives.

I count Kellie among those women. She approached me with her partner Lisa at Sydney World Pride a couple of years ago; a moment that remains a career highlight.

Kellie introduced herself by saying, “I know you don’t know me, but I know you”, then went on to tell me how reading my work had given her the courage to leave her decade-long marriage to a man and come out as a lesbian in her 40s, which led her to find Lisa.

When she finished, Lisa chimed in with a huge smile on her face, “Also big thanks from me. I’d never have met my soulmate if it wasn’t for you!” (I’M NOT CRYING, YOU’RE CRYING.)

Okay, but why is it $78??

Now, if you’re thinking the price of this eBook was a lil steep, that’s fair. Because it’s not really an eBook; you can’t consume it passively.

Authentic Attraction is a comprehensive guide designed to awaken you to hidden truths as it walks you step-by-step through the process of understanding and tapping into your most authentic sexuality.

There’s practical, research-backed exercises and journaling prompts to complete along the way that will help you critically unpack your beliefs around attraction and desire, and a quiz to show you where you sit on the sexual spectrum.

It’s my wish it gives more people the permission to live as courageously as Kellie, whose story continues to act as a powerful reminder it’s never too late to be who you truly are. If you're ready to step into you're truth, hit the button below to start your journey.

Your super gay hype girl,

Nadia xx

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