Parenting Tips

Here are a range of videos that will support you to understand how the body and brain responds to emotions along with some strategies on how to manage them effectively.

Anger Issues

Anger is a primary emotion that often precedes our real emotion. If we don't have the names for a wide range of emotions (emotional literacy), then we are often stuck at anger. This is a problem because we are not able to understand how we really feel or what our true underlying needs are. While all emotions are valid, too much anger can breakdown relationships and potentially lead to behavioural issues.

Emotion Wheel

Science has identified that when we have an extensive emotional literacy (vocabulary), we are better able to select the precise coping strategy required to self regulate (calm ourselves).

"Name It To Tame It"

In order to reduce the negative emotion of others, we must 'name it, to tame it'. Saying, "you seem really angry" in a calm, empathetic manner reduces the anger felt by 50%. This is because they instantly feel 'seen' and lose the need to defend their emotions or behaviour.

Fight, Flight and Freeze (Anxiety)

When our brain has 'flipped it's lid' (see video above), we are in a state of fight, flight or Freeze. While short term stress is necessary for human survival, long term stress causes mental and physical illness.

Parent/Teen Partnership Parenting Style

Using a coaching approach with your teen is much more likely to result in them being intrinsically motivated to succeed in school and life while also reinforcing your relationship without being a 'walkaover'.

Emotional Coaching Scripts

This script has been developed to help teachers manage students' emotional outbursts but could be adapted to be used by parents at home.

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