Setting Up an Appointment

You meet a lot of students in the course of a week, either around school, at a meeting, or an outreach. In many cases you’ll want to get to know them on a personal level. How do you continue to build meaningful relationship with students God is saying, ‘go deeper with?’

First, keep four things in mind:

  1. Stay casual - be yourself,
  2. Remember to be an adult and
  3. Pray.
  4. Set up the Appointment


So what does a personal appointment look like?

Getting together in a public setting with a student, or several students, close to the school, ( a fast food restaurant,) to spend time together over an agreed purpose.


How do you set up an appointment?

By phone you could say something like this…

“Hello Abbey? Hi, this is Mel with Cru highschool. We met the other night at the meeting. (pause to establish he knows you )…I was wondering if you would like to get together after school on Tuesday, I’d like to tell you more about Cru, and ways you can get more involved. I’ll even spring for a coke, how does Danny’s Pizza sound?”


Or, in a text you could say...

Try this: “Hey Abbey, this is Mel, we met at the meeting last night. I would love to grab a coke, and tell you more about Cru. You got about twenty minutes right after school tomorrow? My treat…”


Now with the basics taken care of, here are several important items to keep in mind:

  • Always send a text the night before to confirm the appointment.
  • Students generally feel more comfortable with group settings. That’s why during setting up an appointment suggest they bring friend(s) along.
  • Be casual when setting up appointments. Your goal is not the appointment, but use the call or text as another way to build relationship. The appointment is icing on the cake.
  • When setting up the appointment, drop names of other students, and even ask involved students to join you on the appointment. This will make the time feel more natural. Choose a familiar place to meet.
  • Pray God uses the appointment to deepen relationship, answer questions, and involve students in the movement at the school.
  • Most importantly, offer your contact information for them to give to their parents, or legal guardian; just in case they would like to talk with you before your appointment with their child.