How do I get a girlfriend?

I laughed when I read this question, but I’ll answer it seriously. Here’s an uncommon opinion: It isn’t that hard.

To advise you, we’ll assume that you barely know each other. Here’s how it works. Starting the conversation is the hardest part. I would do it over a social media platform with read receipts. Say something you could say in person, like commenting on what they’re wearing in real life while they sit two seats in front of you. If they give a lame answer that doesn’t lend itself to more conversation, just reply anyway on the same topic two more times. After that, give up. Some people are more receptive to this than others.

If their answer turns into a conversation, don’t let it end. If you sense a lull, change the subject. It’s important to hold up your end of the conversation. Ask your friends if you’re good at texting before trying this.

Next, do something above and beyond. If she’s sick, bring her soup. Buy her something that you saw and thought she would love. Call her beautiful out of the blue. Do something that makes your intentions clear, catering to her love language, while also being incredibly sweet.

Don’t forget to value your other relationships! Your friends and family are important too. Good luck!

Walk me through ways I can show my support for my friend who is a part of the LGBTQ+ community.

I appreciate this question because there are many ways to show support! However, it’s important to not be bogged down by the idea that you don’t support your friend enough. Just be their friend, use their pronouns and respect the attraction they feel to any gender. Other than that, the best way to support them is to listen. If your friend needs anonymous advice, tell them to call the Trevor Project hotline at (866) 488-7386.

Is 11th grade really as bad as people say it is?

I would not recommend underestimating this infamous grade. Sure, it’s the hardest year academically. But it’s also the hardest year developmentally. It will feel like everything is changing, and if you haven’t developed good habits before the year starts, you’ll sink, and quickly.

Figure out how to work hard. If you procrastinate and stay up late, 11th grade might be a train wreck. Turn in your homework--ALL of it--during your sophomore year, and maybe junior year won’t kick your butt as hard as it did mine.