The real Yiwen Gao

This is Yiwen Gao of Seattle and Boston.  She was my wife.  We were together for 10 years in Boston.  When we got married she promised to love me and stay with me until we die.  I thought we were in love.

Then one day she met a man named Ben Harrison.  Ben had a "better" job title than I did and more money.  I don't know how long exactly she planned to run away with him, but she waited until after her green card had finalized.

Unbeknownst to me her trusting husband, over weeks/months, Yiwen began secretly moving her clothes out of our house and into Ben's apartment.  I was so clueless this was happening that in the midst of it, I took Yiwen on a romantic trip away for her birthday weekend.  She was a good actress and pretended everything was fine between us while she was in secret communication with Ben.  Two weeks after our trip, when her pre-planned day arrived, she told me she was going out with her friends for the evening.  She never came back home.  I was worried sick. For months I had no idea where she was and I worried every hour of every day.

I loved my wife dearly, and I needed her desperately.  I spent every night of those months driving everywhere in Arlington, Somerville, and Cambridge looking for her car, desperate to find the person I had committed to spend my life with.

In the end, months later, one of her friends messaged me to tell me she was leaving me forever.  Yiwen Gao is such a coward that not only did she secretly move in with another man and secretly file for divorce, secretly abandon her husband, but she never admitted any of it.  For the entire divorce process, Yiwen hid behind a lawyer and no-camera Zoom calls. She broke my heart over and over and over again with her apathy and callousness.

Yiwen Gao, whom I thought was the love of my life: you never mentioned to me even once that you were unhappy in our marriage.  You never gave me even a single chance to know that you thought I had done anything wrong, or that there was something bothering you, so I could make changes to show you you were the most important person in the world to me.  You lied to everyone about your reasons for leaving me and managed to deceive even some my closest friends with your false justifications.  If you really had valid reasons for leaving me, you wouldn't have had to do it with secrecy and deception.  The truth is you were tempted by dollar signs and status symbols that you shallowly think will make you "successful" in life, and now you're loving living in that high-rise apartment in Seattle with bank account Ben.

Yiwen Gao, you are a cruel heartless gold-digging liar who doesn't deserve a shred of happiness in the world after what you did to me, and Ben Harrison is not smart enough to see the giant red flag of what you did to your last husband, so you two make a great pair.

I loved you, Yiwen; I was fully committed to you and to our life together, and anything I did wrong in our marriage was small compared to the horrible way you betrayed me, cheated on me with Ben, abandoned me, and lied to everyone about it.  Your lies about me made me lose people I thought were friends like Alyssa Faria and Stephanie Trowbridge. I literally almost died because of what you did to me, and this suicidal nightmare led to me losing my entire family, all because you had to get your "engineer" by inventing a get-out-of-marriage-free card.

Years have now passed. I have moved on with my life and I'm doing my best to just live without a family or literally anyone who had claimed to love me before you left me. But let this page forever be a record of your terrible wrong and the kind of selfish person you truly are.  Future boyfriends/husbands: beware of Yiwen Gao, she is heartless, loveless, deceitful, and lives in shame of what she did to someone who loved her and needed her.

-Chris, your loving husband from 2010 to 2020.

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