posted Jun 11, 2014, 4:57 PM by Nicky Ryan
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I am currently reading a controversial book on Hyper-parenting: over scheduled children and overstimulated children under pressure. As a mother of three children I found this really interesting and can recommend it to all of our parents. While my children are older now I see the increased pressure on parents to manage all aspects of their children's lives. After all if you aren't involved and active in what your children do then you aren't a good parent right? But do we need to manage our children's lives so much?

Some parents have worried about the impact of technology this year as we embark on yet another learning curve but what about exploring what Carl Honore tells us, that we are living in a... 'culture of speed, efficiency, and success at all costs which is damaging both parents and children.' (taken from Under Pressure: Rescuing Our Children from the Culture of Hyper-Parenting by Carl Honore).

These books share the idea of how we need to slow down and take time and links to research what the damage of too many activities can cause. We want self-reliant and confident children who can cope with the challenges they will meet in today's world. But are we supporting this or creating children who are resentful and reliant on us? Do your children have jobs at home like children did in the days of old - or are they too tired to contribute to the family (after all we are social creatures!) and therefore you do it for them? Each book talks about us all being part of a consumer driven society and a media driven society impacting on relationships in families. It has certainly given me food for thought and want to consider the pressure on families today. All books are available on Amazon some on Kindle and some as hard copy.

If you feel like being challenged and have time to enjoy your children instead of running like a hamster on a treadmill I suggest you might like to take the opportunity to read one of these.

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