Mercer Island Parent Edge Conflict and Bullying

Mercer Island Parent Edge

Beyond Sticks and Stones:

Helping Youth Navigate Conflict and Bullying

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Bullying Hotsheet

Gender Resources

Resources for Girls
-The Ophelia Project An amazing resource site for girls and supporters of girls. Among other things, there are great links on alternative aggression
-Rachel Simmons' Website One of the foremost resources around girls, alternative aggression, authenticity and empowerment. She has a great blog called "girl tips" addressing girls and healthy choices. One Also check out the organization she co-founded, Girls Leadership Institute
-Rosalind Wiseman's Website Another of the foremost resources around girls, alternative aggression, owning up to your own stuff, and empowerment. She has a great video advice column.

Resources for Boys

-Michael Thompson's Website Author of Raising Cain and It's a Boy!
-Jackson Katz's Website Filmmaker and anti-sexist activist
-The Boy Game Interactive documentary exploring bullying among boys and how it's driven by a masculinity culture of toughness and silence
-Joe Ehrmann Coach and Transformational Speaker on "Be a Man"
-Rosalind Wiseman's book analyzing the hidden and often misunderstood emotional lives of boys Mastermind and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World

Media Literacy Resources

-About Face equips women and girls with tools to understand and resist harmful media messages that affect their self-esteem and body image.
-Brené Brown's Men, Women, and Worthiness Brown explains in this audio-lecture the differences between shame, guilt, humiliation, how these experiences are both universal and distinct in men and women, and how shame resilience can lead to whole-hearted living and authenticity for us all.
-Center for Media Literacy The Center for Media Literacy (CML) is an educational organization that provides leadership, public education, professional development and educational resources nationally and internationally. Dedicated to promoting and supporting media literacy education as a framework for accessing, analyzing, evaluating, creating and participating with media content, CML works to help citizens, especially the young, develop critical thinking and media production skills needed to live fully in the 21st century media culture.
-Common Sense Media Common Sense Media is dedicated to improving the lives of kids and families by providing the trustworthy information, education, and independent voice they need to thrive in a world of media and technology. As a non-partisan, not-for-profit organization, they provide trustworthy information and tools, as well as an independent forum, so that families can have a choice and a voice about the media they consume.
-Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media Founded in 2004 by actor and advocate Geena Davis, the Institute and its programming arm, See Jane, are at the forefront of changing female portrayals and gender stereotypes in children's media and entertainment. The Institute is uniquely positioned to spotlight gender inequalities at every media and entertainment company through cutting-edge research, education, training, strategic guidance and advocacy programs. Our mission is to work within the entertainment industry to dramatically alter how girls and women are reflected in media.
-Gendered Advertising Want your kids thinking about gendering in advertisement? Have them play with this online tool that allows them to mix visuals from advertisements for girls' toys with audio from advertisements for boys' toys (and vice versa). You can use the resulting hilarity to have conversations with young people about gender bias in advertising.
-The Good Play Project With support from the MacArthur Foundation, the GoodPlay project explores the ethical character of young people’s activities in the new digital media. We seek to understand how young people conceptualize their participation in virtual worlds and the ethical considerations that guide their conduct. We are exploring five themes which we believe are salient in the digital age, with implications for ethics—identity, privacy, ownership and authorship, credibility, and participation.
-The Mask You Live In Great documentary on boys and their struggle to stay true to themselves while negotiating society's narrow definition of masculinity. Find out more about the film and the associated movement.
-Miss Representation Great documentary on media's effect on women and girls. Find out more about the film and the associated movement. Facebook page

Alternative Aggression Handouts and Resources

For Use With Youth

Alternative Aggression Hotsheet

Advice for Bullies and Victims

Apologies and Amends

Conflict Happens Lesson

Conflict Animals

Conflict Resolution Tools

Friends and Frenemies Lesson

Friends and Frenemies Worksheet

Friendship Quiz

How to Work Toward Healthy and Lasting Friendships

Odd Girl Speaks Out Action Steps

Relational Aggression Definitions

Social Development for Girls

For Use With Parents and Other Adults

Advice for Parents

Adolescent Speak

Another Presentation on Alternative Aggression

PBS Documentary - A Girl's Life

The War On Women Begins With Girls Time Ideas Article on how dads can help fight sexism for their daughters.

For Use With Teachers and Schools

Alternative Aggression Scenarios

4Ps Worksheet

Girls Scouts Relational Aggression Curriculum

Curriculum Book: Salvaging Sisterhood

Bullying and Bias Handouts and Resources:

Bullying Hotsheet

Cycle of Oppression and Cycle of Bullying

Student Handout: Who's on the Inside/Outside of Bias?

Teacher Resource: Who's on the Inside/Outside of Bullying?

Student Handout: Put-Downs and Isms

Resource: Effective Interventions

Resource: Growing as an Ally

Activity: The Spectrum

Other Resources from Various Organizations

Beat Bullying Toolkit

Bully: Movie Resources from Facing History and Ourselves

Bullying Climate Survey

Bullying Report