Hi. My name is Melissa from California and this is a testament to my journey through the desert. I want to first start by thanking my Heavenly Father for how He has worked mightily in my family. It is my deepest hope that what I write here today brings great honor and glory to His Mighty name. Not a day goes by that I do not thank my Lord and Savior for every trial faced, every tear shed, every pain endured, and for every blazing inferno I had to walk through. 

I have found that the Lord is my great calm, amidst the raging storm. My spiritual journey began on June 28 when my husband first made me aware of his unhappiness with our marriage and me. I couldn't have been more shocked and unprepared. You see, for the last 15 years, we truly had the "all American, apple pie, white picket fence" kind of life, so I thought. We never argued. I kept a neat home; we both were very involved with our children and their schools. We had a marriage and family that others viewed as flawless. 

Underneath it all, much to my surprise, we had many flaws. Flaws, which I humbly admit, stemmed mostly from my own behavior. I was a very contentious, disagreeing, argumentative, irritable and anxious person. I truly edify my husband for hanging in there for as long as he did. 

In July, we decided to try counseling. That was a disaster! It only lasted four sessions, with the counselor suggesting separation. My husband was in favor of taking the counselors advice. However, he was not yet prepared to leave the home. My response to my husband, "you think you can decide to leave me and then leave when it is convenient to you? I want you out by the first of the month." My first huge mistake! My husband moved on September 6. In the beginning, I did everything wrong. To the point where my husband stated, "you're going to be just like every other bitter divorcee." 

This got my full attention. I refused to be a divorcee period! I fell to my knees and sought the Lord. I began applying the principles, which were embedded in me from early on. Though I had very little support or understanding from my family members, it felt right! It wasn't about allowing my husband to have his cake and eat it too. It was about honoring our blessed covenant and loving the Lord and my husband unconditionally.

In October, my dear friend in NY is who introduced me to this ministry. I was overjoyed to have Erin confirm, what I was already putting into practice and that I was not crazy like so many tried to convince me of. At this point, it appeared we had passed through the winter season and spring was finally here. My children and I saw my husband almost on a daily basis. 

He would come by most evenings after work and join us for dinner. Some nights, he would even stay over. Then the Lord decided to bless me with another cold front. In January, the Lord blessed me with another circumstance to stretch my faith. My husband was involved in adultery. Initially, I had the wind knocked out of my sails, but soon after was blessed with a peace, which surpassed all understanding.

In March, we took a family vacation during spring break. It was during this time, my husband was brought out of the darkness. He asked me to come home.

He said, "I loved you and I will spend the rest of my life making it up to you and the boys." We arrived home from vacation on March 31st and he gave his 30-day notice at his apartment on April 1st. He shut off all of his utilities and began moving his things home. One-week later, a severe enemy attack began and my husband began having second thoughts. 

He was experiencing manufactured feelings, which were imposed upon him by the devil and were not God’s will. My husband believed he was in love with the OW. He canceled his 30-day notice and began moving his things out again, returning to the same apartment on April 18th. Initially, I was disheartened and angry. I didn't understand why the Lord would put my children and I through this again. I fell to my knees and repented with all humility and humbleness. He reminded me that His ways are higher than our ways. 

Later it was revealed to me that the Lord took my husband the second time as an answer to prayer. The first time my husband returned home, his heart was turned back to me, the wife of his youth and his children. I continued to pray that the Lord make my husband a Godly man. In order to honor my petition, I now know, it was necessary to remove my husband from the home a second time.

On April 29th, my husband left on a cross-country trip, relocating the OW to California.  At this point, things changed significantly. We didn't see much of my husband, as he began working 2nd shift. He also agreed not to expose our children to the OW, as he was aware that they needed a period of healing after him leaving again. Due to his night schedule and the children not visiting his apartment, this gave him very minimal time with them. 

On June 12th, our younger son invited his dad to his baptism and beach bar-b-que. The week after, he invited him to church for a Father's day special.

The following week, the message was on teenagers. My husband attended this Sunday on his own, as we have a teenager and he thought it would prove to be beneficial. Wow! Church attendance three weeks in a row! I was in complete awe at how the Lord was moving mightily in all our lives.

For the 4th of July, my two sons and I, along with my mother went away for the four-day weekend and returned late Monday night. My husband called every day. On Tuesday morning, I got up early to take my son to school. I returned home and got back into bed. I wasn't sleeping but had my hand over my eyes when I heard the bedroom door open.

I assumed it is my younger son ready to start the day bright and early. Much to my surprise, it was my husband! He came in and lay down beside me. I asked him if he missed us. Then I quickly rephrased and asked if he missed the boys. He replied, "I missed the boys and I missed you." He said he was in the area, but the bank didn't open until 10:00 a.m. He wanted to know if I wanted to join him for breakfast.

Breakfast was pleasant. Initially, we just carried a general conversation. Then he brought up matters, which were painful. He began sharing how he and the OW and her children had found an apartment. That they would be moving on August 1st. As always, my Heavenly Father came to the rescue. He made sure that I kept a smile on my face and maintained my gentle and quiet spirit. Inside, I was crushed. My husband has really moved on, I thought. 

We left the restaurant and just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, my husband took the opportunity to continue "our talk".  He said, "I've been wanting to talk with you.  I was just wondering why you haven't filed any papers. It seems the next logical step. Most people in your shoes would have filed by now. I think it will add closure and help you to move on?"

Before I opened my mouth, I brought it to the Lord. I asked the Lord to give me the words. Then, I replied, "I don't know whether or not I can make you understand.  Everyone has their own perspective, thoughts, and opinion of things. That doesn't mean either of us is right, wrong, or indifferent. It simply means it is how we feel. I accept the fact that you have moved on. For me, a divorce decree is not a means of moving on. 

I don't know what you see when you look at me, but I have moved on. This is the life that the Lord has blessed me with today and I am content. I am not too proud to admit that for me, it's either you or nobody.

I don't believe in divorce and I hope that you respect me enough to not ask me to participate. I don't need to accompany you to court. You don't even need my signature. If this is what you seek for closure, please seek it alone. I know you'll be fair to the boys and me."

Then he replied, "Here is my dilemma. I love you. I don't want to divorce you. I want to come home, but there are so many loose ends to tie up. I have been listening to this Christian radio station (I almost fell out of the truck). Last week, they talked about a father’s place in the home, adultery, spiritual leadership, etc." (Was this God ordained or what!) 

He proceeded to tell me that he had enjoyed going to church with us for the last 3 Sundays. He felt at peace there and that he couldn't explain it but that he definitely felt called or led by a higher source. He said that he saw things differently. I suggested, through the eyes of faith. He agreed, PTL! He turned in his 30-day apartment notice that same day.

On July 13th, my husband talked to the OW and shared with her his intentions of coming home to his family. The following morning, the adulteress was kind enough to give me a very early wake-up call. She began spewing venom and the call resulted in me very quickly hanging up on her.

On Friday, July 15th, my husband moved home again. Praise God! I realize this next phase of our journey may also come with its challenges. My husband still intends to befriend the OW and her children. However, the Lord continually reminds me of Proverbs 19:21. Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails. I am joyful in hope, patient in affliction and faithful in prayer. (Romans 12:12) 

I know the Lord will remove this adulteress and her children completely from our lives, in His perfect timing. For my faith is sure of what I hope for and certain of what I do not see. (Hebrews 11:1) We serve a very faithful and honorable Lord.

I find complete comfort knowing that He leads our every step. My marriage has been restored! Our home is now built on the Rock of His Word. We no longer reside on sinking sand.   

Erin, words could never begin to express how thankful I am for the unique qualities, which you possess and your willingness, which allows God to use you as a vessel to spread the Gospel. 

Ladies remember the Lord’s eyes range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to Him (2 Chronicles 16:9). Is your heart fully committed to Him? Keep looking up!

~ Melissa in California, RESTORED!


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