Renewed Our Vows in Paris



What brought you to RMI? Please use this space to briefly let our readers know what your life was like when you first found us, Dawn, so our readers understand just what a miracle your restoration is.


Dawn, how did your restoration actually begin?


My journey all started after I had be separated from my husband, approximately 7 months after we were apart, I discovered that he had a girlfriend and this was such a shock to me because I was the one who had asked him to leave. Our marriage had been sinking, so I thought that separating was the best thing. Everyone encouraged me to make him leave, to wake him up that he needed to change, but the moment I discovered the existence of the other woman, it was as if God had grabbed me by my ears to wake me up, to show me what I had done. I knew then that I was in a fight for my marriage.


How did God change your situation Dawn as you sought Him wholeheartedly?


I started going to church almost from the day I heard. since I felt very weak, it seemed impossible to me the situation could ever turn out well. I had destroyed any hope due to the foolish actions I’d taken. The more I sought God, the more things seemed to be against me. Yet no one understands how God acts, sisters, I tell you one thing—God is faithful to fulfill all the promise He has made to you. God will restore your family, as He did mine, if you only put our Beloved in the right place in your heart and your life. Do not give up however difficult things get. Give it all to God because He is the God of the impossible.


What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Dawn, did the Lord teach you during this trial?


The Lord taught me to trust in in Him when things were not going well. As I did He gave me the assurance in my heart that He would act for me, fight my cause, and that even in the silence, when things looked the most hopeless— He was working in my life and in my husband's life. As your books encouraged I began to fast, so without eating, I was able to pray and really experience the “gentle and quiet spirit” we need to make it through. I sought God with all my heart because only He could do something for me and He did.


What were the most difficult times that God helped you through Dawn?


One of the most difficult times was to hear from the mouth of our daughter when she had seen a photo of her father's girlfriend. This was very painful. Another very difficult time was before I followed the principles of letting go of my Facebook. I’d determined I wouldn’t snoop but only use it to keep in touch with friend. The most painful of my life was when I opened to see on facebook the Christmas posts my own husband had shared with our friends, pictures of my husband with another woman, with the two of them vacationing and looking so happy. I never imagined going through anything like this, and the worst was what he had posted” Life is simply fantastic with you as my love!!! God heard me wail and cry all day long. I had a bad time, I could never imagine my husband, for everyone to see, there with another woman and even worse, calling her my love. Yet, it was this painful experience that taught me that only God can help me, if I follow the principles and warnings and stopped believing I was above or better or different than everyone else. That I could continue to do things my way.


Even after I began sincerely following God principles I learned in the lessons, things didn’t immediately get better. One day when my husband came to pick up our daughter, I learned that the other woman was waiting in our car with him, and she was there because they were all going off for the weekend. Her daughter was with them. The Lord knew how painful it would be for me to know, so He kept this from me and poured His love in me while my daughter was away. Once I heard it was easy to forgive, but had I not had Him as my HH at that time, I am sure this would have made me give up. Your book, your courses, your encouragement and all the testimonies of the women who traveled this difficult road before us helped me to get through these difficulties. His love gave me an enormous amount of strength to have faith and never give up because God loves families and only He is able to restore and make the impossible happen.


Dawn, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?  


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Tell us HOW it happened Dawn? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Dawn, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?


God is so faithful. After the New Year, on the second day of the New Year I woke up to find he’d  slept at home. He’d let himself in and in the morning when he came into the kitchen, he told me that the other woman was his boss, so he was afraid to end the relationship and had wanted to for weeks.


I knew God had to finish what He started so I just listened, agreed with whatever my husband said, and told him even if he lost his job over this, I knew God would honor doing the right thing. I was still concerned this was just another trial He was bringing me through, not really the finish of our restoration,  because I still felt his heart was distant. It wasn’t until weeks later, after he was home that he explained how very scared he was, of failing, trying to leave, but pulled back to where he now loathed to be.


God is faithful to fulfill and give us the desires of our hearts. My husband broke off the relationship and never lost his job. Soon after he was transferred to another new division, a promotion actually, but most importantly he is nowhere near the torments of the OW. It’s like Erin says, to really be sure we won’t go back to what is wrong, God makes us get our fill of it until it sickens us.


I will be eternally grateful to God for all that He has done and for all that He is still doing. Our marriage and our family is finally solid, establish on the Rock of His truth. God knows how I marvel at my husband, the contentment he has being at home again. My daughter is so happy now because she was suffering a lot with our separation too, and telling me how awful it was being with the OW and her daughter knowing how wrong it was what daddy was doing.


The Lord is present in my family and now He is at the center. My husband and I vow that together we will grow old together, until death we you part!! And as if my Beloved didn’t bless me enough, my wonderful HH gave me what I’d dreamed for years. To celebrate our year of restored marriage, we renewed our vows in Paris with the Eiffel Tower as our backdrop!! My first love will always be my HH, and my husband knows it and says it’s why he loves me so much. Together we love our daughter and love being a family again!!!!!!


Thank you Erin for helping all of the separated women to never give up on their families!!!! Without you giving your life to foolish women like us, women who have unknowingly tore their own houses down, families like mine would be over.


Would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you Dawn?  


How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage also A Wise Woman. All of the By the Word of Their Testimonies, and going through online courses.

HH

Finding the Abundant Life Course

HopeAtLast.com


I recommend the book God can and will restore your marriage. This book is powerful, it was my handbook and my roadmap. Your courses are what teach us how to handle certain situations and come through them. I must say I am surprised by how many women give up and never finish the race. All I can say is don’t give up, make your lessons top priority. Give up on pleasures and talking about your problems. Learn how to rid yourself of them and receive what He has for anyone who is willing to take His hand and finish the race.


Would you be interested in helping encourage other women Dawn?  


Yes


Either way Dawn, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?


Never give up on your husbands, your family, and instead, simply ask God for the strength to get up every morning and renew your mind with His Word, Psalms and Proverbs, then move onto the devotionals and then the lessons. Do the same lesson at night and you’ll dream restoration.


I promise this is the Infallible recipe for victory: prayer (talk to your HH night and day), fast (let your flesh die before it takes over and ruins your hope for restoration), trust (don’t try to restore, let Him do it), and hope (against all hope even when it looks hopeless)!!


God does not despise any prayer, even those wrought in incredible pain. Remember too, He acts in His time and not in our time. I know it is not easy to wait but He does have an appointed time for your restoration. The question is, will you be there to receive it???!!!






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By the Word of Their Testimony (Book 6): Proclaim the Good News to Everyone.


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