He Wants Us to Have it All

He Wants Us to Have it All

What brought you to RMI? Please use this space to briefly let our readers know what your life was like when you first found us, Ariana, so our readers understand just what a miracle your restoration is.

Ariana, how did your restoration actually begin?

My husband began acting very strange, but every time I confronted him he said that it was the stress of work. Then one day he just disappeared, vanished. When he returned a week later, he said that he had gone to clear his head. Just a month later, he disappeared for 10 days. This time when he appeared, he confessed that he had an OW. He said it had been going on for almost a year, meeting her on the internet and it was due to the fights in our marriage. As the fights intensified, he said he decided to meet her personally, she lived in another state. He said when they met "she liked me and I liked her a lot too.

After this confession, nothing more was said. We just coexisted together for about a month. During this month I confronted him all the time for more details, I rummaged through his things, and this resulted in many fights. One day I discovered my husband had left his phone unlocked and found the OW. I exchanged messages with her, and she said that she did not know that he was married. This fact he confirmed was true, she didn't know. It was on that same day he packed everything and left home. Before he left he handed me his wedding ring and said that it was all over between us.

How did God change your situation Ariana as you sought Him wholeheartedly?

The day after he left, I found the RMI ministry on the internet and read the book, How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage. I read it cover to cover without stopping. The next day I read it again, then again. As I began to apply the principles over the next two months, day after day my husband's heart began to turn back towards me. The rejection was not easy. During the first few times we interacted again, he said he was sure he wanted to actually end our marriage. I knew this was a sign that God was in control.

When he left I didn't know where he was, then I discovered he went to live with his parents. It was only because the OW lived in another state I believe. While my husband was in contact with me, they met together alone from time to time, and when the topic came up, he assured me that he was determined to stay with her. Yet the Lord was changing me, He was changing my life, and little by little I watched as God turned my husband's heart back to me.

What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Ariana, did the Lord teach you during this trial?

The principle of letting go and the principle of winning without words were the fundamental principles I learned that made the greatest change. These also were the most difficult, since I am part of a generation who have been taught to be talkative and possessive, contentious women. Each time I counted it a miracle to be close to him without me speaking and becoming controlling. As the months past, he began to approach me very slowly, he'd drive by or come to my house. He began to call me and ask me out. Each time I would keep quiet and I would only answer, gently, if he asked me!

What were the most difficult times that God helped you through Ariana?

The worst were each time when he first traveled to the other state to see the OW. He'd just disappear. He'd leave without his family knowing where he'd gone and disappear for different lengths of time without any news. When he left he would turn off his cell phone and vanish. During these times I prayed, fasted and sought God. Then, just as suddenly he'd send a message. Sometimes he contacted me only asking for his daughter, but I gave glory to God because He gave me a sign of life, I was worried about him on the road.

Ariana, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?  

Without a doubt, the turning point was to first let go but then to seek the face of God. It was then I'd finished the first 3 courses and wanted more. Then I heard about the abundant life series, when I was introduced and fell in love with my Heavenly Husband. At that moment I finally was able to rest, knowing that only God could bring him back, not I, my part was only to trust my HH and rest in the God of the impossible to restore my marriage.

I began to literally feast on the Bible, I read it through using the program suggested. Living my life abundantly wasn't something I ever knew was possible, certainly not when my life had been deep in the valley of despair, in the heat of the dry desert. Yet this is when my life turned and soon after, so did my marriage.

Tell us HOW it happened Ariana? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Ariana, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?

I honestly did not imagine it could so fast. It happened just two months after really embracing my Husband, letting go of restoration and settling into a life I had never dreamed was possible.

It happened on a Saturday when he asked if he could come by to talk. He sat down and simply said that we had to get it right, that he wanted to rebuild our marriage. He said he was no longer involved in the OW. He said he'd told her it was wrong, that I was different and he wanted to end everything and please never to contact him again. He said that he'd told his parents and packed up all of his belongings that were in the car. He asked if I was willing to give us another try (because I'd kept silent the entire time he spoke), and I nodded yes.

Would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you Ariana?

First, reading How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage as many times as you can to renew your mind and rid yourself of the lies. Then get your home ready for your husband’s return by reading A Wise Woman. Both of these I’d suggest the online courses in order to journal, to confess and to go back to see your progress.

The real change in your life will happen when you discover your HH. I finally understood how this was possible by doing the abundant life series beginning with Finding the Abundant Life Course.

Would you be interested in helping encourage other women Ariana?

Yes of course!

Either way Ariana, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?

Anyway, what kind of encouragement would you (and / or your friend) like to leave for women, in conclusion? *

Do not give up on your marriage, especially when everything seems impossible. It's true that God turns the heart of the husband back to their wives. Yet this doesn't fully happen until our hearts are completely His.

Your husband has no free will! God is in control! God is faithful and He who believes in the Lord will never be disappointed! Never! Hallelujah! Only God can restore a marriage! You can't do it and those who try, find themselves worn out and discouraged. Your HH is waiting for you and once you're His GOD will restore your marriage just as He did with me. I did not deserve to have a new life, to live abundantly, but God is faithful! Glory to God forever! He wants us to have it all.

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