Discover your HH. Fall in Love. Make Him number One


Discover your HH. Fall in Love. Make Him number One!


What brought you to RMI? Please use this space to briefly let our readers know what your life was like when you first found us, Carolyn, so our readers understand just what a miracle your restoration is.


Carolyn, how did your restoration actually begin?


Well, it all started when my son got sick and I took him to the pediatrician. My son's pediatrician said that if it did not improve to inform him. My son did not improve so I sent him a message asking him what I could do. From there every day I received a message from him asking if my son had improved and we became friends. He began to compliment me on my wonderful mothering. I changed the subject most of the time. It wasn't planned, but we became friends. I didn't see the harm being friendly with my son's pediatrician because it was easier if he had a problem. My mistake was being too innocent and not realizing what was happening. In one of our conversations the doctor said that he liked to write poetry and that is my passion. I'm a teacher and I have written a lot of poetry myself, but nobody ever cared but this man actually wanted to read what I wrote. I had lots but sent him just two to read.


I was finding it strange having received so many compliments from him, it seemed he was texting me every day with a new subject. So I decided to copy part of the conversation and I emailed to a friend. One day, I was trying to help a friend who was also having problems in her marriage and asked my husband to send her an email for me. My account was open because I had nothing to hide. That's when he saw all the pediatrician's messages. He was furious. He left home for 4 days and returned with separation papers even though nothing happened.


How did God change your situation Carolyn as you sought Him wholeheartedly?


I have been a Christian since I was 19 but I had fallen away. Many times I would not go to church in order to stay home with my husband to make him happy. Little did I know that having this attitude, not just about church, but everything— I was unintentionally putting my husband in first place. When everything happened and my husband said he wanted a separation, I finally turned to God for help. I had the book "How God can and will restore your marriage" but had not read yet. I don't remember who gave it to me, or why, but there it sat.


I searched for a church close to home but when I read HopeAtLast.com, I knew it wasn't a church I needed. It was Him. From there I made my number one priority the Lord. I started reading the book and taking notes. I read everything that could to keep me close to God. I began succeeding, moving forward, one day at a time. I remember that my husband spent four days in our country house and when he came back he had already made the decision, divorce. I told him that I thanked God for going through it because only then did I realize that nothing could take the place of the Lord in my life.


What principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), Carolyn, did the Lord teach you during this trial?


I asked God for wisdom and patience, but the basic principle was to overcome evil with good, and winning my husband without a word. Keep silent. My husband made it a point to try to humiliate me, he told me horrible things, played jokes on me, posted things on social media but He said to say nothing, do nothing. God helped me get through it. Silence is the most powerful weapon we have and what will win most battles. To all of you who are hoping for restoration. Wait solely and exclusively on the Lord. Put all your hope in Him.


What were the most difficult times that God helped you through Carolyn?


I asked God for wisdom and patience, but the basic principle was to overcome evil with good, and winning my husband without a word. Keep silent. My husband made it a point to try to humiliate me, he told me horrible things, played jokes on me, posted things on social media but He said to say nothing, do nothing. God helped me get through it. Silence is the most powerful weapon we have and what will win most battles. To all of you who are hoping for restoration. Wait solely and exclusively on the Lord. Put all your hope in Him.

Dear Brides, I do encourage you to read Finding the Abundant Life especially "Your Best Protection" because all of us ladies are longing for protection, we have this written in our DNAs, so why not take some time to really think about an innate basic need for every woman? We know what our Savior did for us, and what He is able to do if we Trust Him, otherwise, we may live this life as unfortunate and needy women while we have it all taken care already.

So with all my heart, I encourage you to read about your best protection ever - your BRIDEGROOM.


I do highly recommend this course, this book!!! My faith has been improved, and my whole life has been improved by the principles that are taught by Michele in Finding the Abundant Life.


He does have a great life for us all, for all His BRIDES. Sometimes HE IS going to deliver us from the evil, but other times we are going to face the evil, and to learn to be loving towards the ones that are trying to harm to us. As soon as we learn to listen to HIM, and to quiet down in HIS arms enjoying HIS companionship it will be the speed to find peace for our souls and genuine joy.


Speaking simplistically, summarizing everything—all we need is the assurance that He is with us, HE LOVES us and takes good care of us. That's what HE DOES, that HIS nature, HE IS OUR HUSBAND.


As soon as we discovered that we are just fine in the exact situation that we are in, the position we are because HE is the one that is orchestrating all things for our good, because we love Him and because HE DOES have a plan for our lives.


Through this book, we are guided to forgive others, expect less from people that surround us, to forgive ourselves, to be glad about our waiting time, to be grateful about every detail of our journey. Michele helps us understand this great TRUTH with this book. She helps all of us Brides, to find our abundant life that is HIDDEN IN OUR BRIDEGROOM.


At the end the time doesn't matter anymore, we are delighting ourselves with our BELOVED, the scenario doesn´t matter, HE IS GOING to be there with us, and we can trust HIM, HE always take great care of HIS BRIDES. Please learn how to enjoy the BEST, HIS COMPANIONSHIP IS THE BEST!!!


An abundant life? I already have it, He gave it to me long before my restoration, and I do belong to HIM, HE is my abundant life!!!


Carolyn, what was the “turning point” of your restoration?  


The turning point was from the beginning when I made it clear that I would no longer leave my first Love. I told myself, told God, told my HH that He was first, but I spoke about my EH constantly. My feelings for him were evident and where he was in my life, number one and an idol. Once I truly was faithful to my HH, the most amazing things happened.  First, no more pain. No matter what I heard or didn’t hear regarding my EH didn’t affect me one bit. What a miracle yet it’s everything RMI tells us, Erin says, and each RMT I read says. But I just didn’t get it and I only fooled myself that I’d let go and my HH was first until then.


The next thing is that my EH feelings for me changed. This happened before, but each time, I before I’d quickly make him and my marriage my idol again, only to have him turn away and reject me. But once I didn’t care, once my HH was MY FIRST LOVE, I just didn’t care that he was nice to me. This caused him to begin pursuing me. Another miracle but again what this ministry has told me from day one.


Tell us HOW it happened Carolyn? Did your husband just walk in the front door? Carolyn, did you suspect or could you tell you were close to being restored?


How it happened started when I got pregnant two months into my RJ. Though he'd filed for divorce, it was clear he had feelings for me. So since we were still married, I was submissive to his advances. Yet, rather than be my miracle, my pregnancy was awful. My EH was distant, but I did not ask for anything, no support, no affection. To my EH it was as if I was not pregnant.


Once my son was born and he started to talk more, we began to have a good relationship, but there was still a great chasm between us. He was still without the wedding ring and it bothered my family a lot. One day after hearing from my family how shameful this was, I was telling God that my marriage would only be restored when he put the ring back on. That would be the sign this was His will.


Then one day as I was leaving the bathroom and he came in from the other room saying he had thought I deserved better and I saw he had his ring back on. My journey lasted a year, but the TRUTHS and my TRANSFORMATION  will last for a LIFETIME.


Would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you Carolyn?


First I would recommend the book How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage and reading the Encourager and of course, the online courses offered by RMI. It is very important to always remain close to everything that leads you to the Lord and this ministry does that. Discovering your HH and the Finding the Abundant Life Course is when your life will really change.


Would you be interested in helping encourage other women Carolyn?


Yes


Either way Carolyn, what kind of encouragement would you like to leave women with, in conclusion?


Give your heart completely to God. Allow yourself to be broken, then surrender yourself to Him. Ask for forgiveness for your sins. Speak to God always as if it were your last prayer. Trust. Believe His promises. Ask for wisdom. Say nothing. Quietness is your best weapon. Seek God more and more. He will hear you. Discover your HH. Fall in Love. Make Him number One. I do not know how long your fight will last but be sure that God gives you Victory. Do not rush, it's all in God's timing, not yours. Mine lasted a year, could last more or less. God knows what we have to go through in order to change. Find your HH early on so you can enjoy your journey.









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