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Day 7, Week 1: Be Encouraged CLASSIC eVideo 1, part 2


but first 2 Restored Marriage Testimonies!

 

“He Apologized for Everything!”


Last January, one week after finding out the MRI results that confirmed our daughter had brain damage from seizures at birth, my husband left me. It all started one night when we were meeting my parents for dinner. We had been through a lot last year, a very traumatic delivery that neither of us dealt with. I allowed my in-laws, who became overbearing, to become the focus of our marriage and my misery. We were sitting in the car one night before going in when he made a comment about one of his female co-workers, who I was leary about. I became upset and was short with him that night.

The next night we had to meet his parents for dinner which did not make me happy. I didn't talk much on the way there, and again was contentious and abrupt. The next morning he asked me why I wasn't talking to him. Although everything in me wanted to talk it through with him, I needed to be right and prove my point and didn't respond. He left angry and I called to apologize. He told me he was over this and didn't want to talk to me at all. He had never been so cold or rude to me as that moment. When I tried to talk to him about it, he was so angry. He said he was done dealing with it and had about all he was going to take.

We had a long hurtful talk where he told me he had been thinking of leaving me for a long time. I was shocked and devastated. He went to stay with his parents for the night. He came back the next day, but only spoke to me about our daughter and slept on the couch. This went on for a week. I blew up in anger and hurt and he said he was going to stay with his parents a few days. This turned into six months; six months of the most hurt and pain I had ever felt, but even more than that it was the closest I have ever been to God.

As God led me on my journey, He showed me so many things about myself I didn't like. He showed me things that I needed to let go of in my past - things about my daughter’s delivery and the challenges she still has to face. He showed me how I was allowing others to change me into a person I didn't like. He spoke to me louder than ever and even on my darkest days, and there were many, I knew He told me that He would restore my marriage. I learned how to be still and trust Him.

During my trial, the Lord taught me to be still and know that He is God. He taught me to seek Him first in everything. He taught me how to allow him to heal my hurts. He taught me that nothing is impossible for me as long as I do things through Him. Through this ministry, the Lord showed me how to be the Proverbs 31 woman, which is the kind of woman He intended me to be. I began learning that I do not have to be joyful about my circumstances, but I can be joyful in them.

The most difficult challenge for me was facing divorce, losing my husband and the fear of being a single mom. The courses this ministry allowed me to take gave me such hope during a scary time. God brought this ministry and people into my life just for this trial. Some of the darkest times was having my husband who I thought knew me better than anyone, say such horrible and hurtful things to me. I had to trust who I was in God’s eyes to let that go.

The turning point in my restoration is when I had to let go. When I did, my husband began wanting to spend more time with me and our daughter. One night, out of nowhere, he apologized for everything. He began inviting me and our daughter to do more things with him. One day he told me he was thinking of coming home and asked if I was okay with it. (Of course I was okay with it! :)

For women who are interested in restoring their marriages, I would highly recommend the Bible and all the resources that RMI has to offer, particularly “How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage” book. This book is the primer for all women going through hard times in their marriages and feel that all hope is dead.

I want to help encourage other women who find themselves in darkness. Even in the darkest day, there is hope in front of you. I have been where you are, cried the tears, felt the pain and all along I could hear God whispering to me even when I didn't believe Him. Lean into Him, be still and know that He is going to restore your marriage and He will show you how. I have tears in my eyes and I'm praying just one person will get some hope from my story.


~ Stephanie in Tennessee


**Read how God continued to Restore Stephanie’s Marriage below:


“Small Gestures”


I want to give praise to God and just share how thankful I am today. As I listened to my local Christian station this morning, they did a segment call Requestiomony where callers request a song and share their testimony on what the song means to them. I started thinking of how this station and this fellowship inspired, encouraged and held me up during my separation from my EH. I started thinking about how the smallest gestures can change someone’s day or even life. A verse, a song, or a ministry like this. My husband moved home at the end of July after a six-month separation. It wasn’t a romantic homecoming like I imagined or you see in movies, but it was perfect. Since he has been home, things have been good. I continue to seek God everyday in my marriage, for my marriage and even before I speak to my EH. He gave me his wedding ring to put in a safe place but did not put it on when he came home. I must admit, this killed me and in many ways I think the enemy tried to use this to test and defeat me. But from this ministry, I learned to stay silent and pray about it. Last night out of the blue, he asked where I put his ring because he wanted to put it back on! I cannot tell you how this small gesture just made my night! I cried tears of joy and I'm so thankful this morning. I just feel led to share encouragement with others that everything DOES work together for good. There is HOPE in front of you. Seek God and do not give up. When God places something in your heart, do it, seek Him and believe Him. You never know how the smallest gestures can be reaffirming to someone and can show them that God is real. He does care about each and everyone one of us. He knows your name, He knows what you are going through and you WILL get through this. Be Encouraged!


~ Stephanie in Tennessee

“Restored Marriage”

 Over the past month there have been a whirlwind of changes in my life. I have been trying to write this PR for almost 3 weeks. On 11/22/2013, I experienced a restored marriage. My FH and I got remarried! It was all God and nothing that I did. I am in the process of writing my restored marriage testimony, but I wanted to share with you what the Lord has taught me over the past 2 years, something that He has shown me a few times about the seasons we go through and fear that leads to disobedience.

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV

As I have gone through the seasons with the Lord as my Husband twice, I learned to relate to them on a completely different level than I used to. I actually learned to relate to just about everything on a different level, PTL! In the summer the Lord kisses your skin with His sunshine and touches you lovingly with the summer breeze. In the spring He cleanses you with the rain and brings about the blossoms full of love. In the fall we harvest all that we have sown and see the beauty of changing colors. And in the winter He gives us the fresh blanket of snow that reminds us of how His blood covers our sins.

While I was going through the seasons with my Love, I was also going through the seasons with my husband (FH at the time). I was and am so in love with the Lord that I had let everything go, but He kept telling me that this isn't what He wanted for me and my kids.

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18 NIV

“Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?” Luke 6:46 NIV

What He showed me is that all the promises that He had given me in the very beginning of my journey should have been done in the same year 2012, but because of my fear which lead to disobedience, some of the promises that He gave me could never come true. I went through the seasons again with Him and my husband (FH). I will confess I was scared and I was content being with the Lord as my everything, He is the best Husband in the world. So I pushed my FH away, several times, the Lord showed me each and every time. Each and every time I disobeyed the Lord and it caused more hurt and pain for all of us. HE showed me I was being selfish!!! I was floored when the Lord revealed all of it to me. I knew that I did it to keep from being hurt (because I didn't completely trust the Lord). I was fearful that I would let my FH take my Lord’s rightful place, and that when I was telling my Husband that I wanted His will, I was going against it. I was heartbroken and repented to Him on my face and crying in the floor. I said, “Lord I do want Your will but I am scared and fear is keeping me from it, please help me if this is truly what You want.” So we went through all the seasons again, but this time when I got scared I asked the Lord to lead me.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 40:10 NIV

“For I am the LORD your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.” Isaiah 40:13 NIV

“But now, this is what the LORD says— He who created you, Jacob, He who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” Isaiah 43:1 NIV

This time the seasons went so fast and all that the Lord was doing made my head spin. I am still trying to catch up. My biggest test came the day we got remarried. I was scared to death, and the fear was overwhelming, I thought I was going to pass out, but the Lord got me through it.

Now we are starting a new part of my journey, new tests and trials and I am so glad that I had RMI and all of their resources to help me be ready for this part of the journey. I know that this is a lifelong journey and the thing that I want everyone to know is that I love the Lord with all my heart. He is still my everything and now that I obey Him and have a restored marriage, He has been blessing me so much that I cannot even begin to tell you in just one PR. He has given me back everything that I lost and so much more, the abundant life that He promised, including a family Christmas better than the one that I let the enemy steal from me when my journey first started. I am still in awe of everything that the Lord has done in my life over this past long but short 2 years.


I hope that ALL of you lovely brides of the Lord have a wonderful Christmas with your Husband, filled with love, joy, peace, and happiness that flows from your heart. Remember the real reason for the season and let Him be your Everything.


“I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten— the great locust and the young locust, the other locusts and the locust swarm—my great army that I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat, until you are full, and you will praise the name of the LORD your God, who has worked wonders for you; never again will my people be shamed.” Joel 2:25-26 NIV



~ Dawn in Ohio, RESTORED Minister who specializing in helping women learn to really let go and pursue the Lord. And then to be sensitive to His will, His plan and so that when your husband begins pursuing you, you will trust Him and His plan for your life!!  Dawn is currently preparing for her own Ministry “Staying Married to a Fireman.”


Ministry Note:  Dawn's Full RESTORED MARRIAGE Testimony to follow in an upcoming lesson.






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