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RYM: Wk4 Chapter 17 "Stand in the Gap"

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Day 23, Week 4: RYM Chapter 17

"Stand in the Gap"


but first Restored Marriage Testimonies

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Restoration in Arizona!!

Erin, 2 months ago you kindly responded to an email question I had, even though I had not received your books and was not a member yet. I told you my husband and I followed a Christian/Hindu belief—your gentleness in telling me that the Lord loves all and would restore our marriage even if we are not Christians gave me the encouragement and safety I needed to know Jesus. Thank you for helping me instead of sending me away—I just wanted you to know that you opened the door to my personal relationship with Jesus in your response—THANK YOU. And also your being adamant that it was God’s will and not my husband’s will that was important.

My husband and I separated about 9 months ago. It was a very ugly and painful event. He forced me to leave our home (this was like a knife in my heart). Everything that was good about our life and relationship was suddenly made wrong and ugly in addition to the things that were there that were problems.

I turned to God after the first 2 weeks and noticed that God was already responding to my prayers and beginning the healing in our relationship. Unfortunately, I started going to counseling and my husband and I talked about abuse issues and that sort of thing. You were right about counseling because even though I felt I would have died if it wasn’t for my counselor, it seems that all that came from it was hopelessness, more pain and absolutely no love! Instead of helping, the opposite resulted—separation. Thank you for stressing this important point—I cannot deny the truth that God and his love and his Word cures all.

Only 2 months ago I got your book How God Can and Will Restore... and the women’s workbook A Wise Woman. I have to say that I had a LOT of conflict with the contents but noticed that it was truth and as I read on, I felt I was being broken. This was good because I have never experienced such peace as a result. No amount of philosophy, explanations, or anything else could have brought me this peace.

Things began to really turn in our relationship when I confessed to my husband that I had been a contentious woman (only 2 weeks ago). That was the turning point. I almost could feel his tears on the other end of the phone. He exclaimed, ‘I never imagined that you would say that. I can’t believe I am hearing this.’ Then he said something that hurt a bit, but I agreed with him and gratefully to God.

After that conversation, he asked me if I would like to come and visit him and spend some time together. Then that night he admitted that he had been wondering why he didn’t just come and get me permanently! He humbly and timidly plucked up the courage to tell me (totally out of character for my husband) that he doesn’t understand it all but that he ‘KNEW’ that we need to keep what we had and build on it. He said he didn’t know where I stood because he knows that he hurt me so (the first time he has ever expressed any repentance on his part since the separation) but that he hoped that we can do this. He asked me what I thought (I didn’t know what to say but simply agreed!).

Before closing I want to share some direct answers to prayer:

We have spoken for hours on the phone and every interaction has been pure, respectful, innocent. I was in the hospital since our separation and he really didn’t care. Then just weeks ago when I told him I developed a complication, he was so sympathetic and wanted to know every detail and asked me to call him with a report after my next appointment. When I did he was so attentive and sympathetic—just like he used to be. Praise you God for your love and kindness!!

Many, many other specific prayers have been answered like: I asked God to make me innocent in my husband’s eyes for all things (because he had blamed me for absolutely everything upon our separation) and God did. He told me that he just realized that it wasn’t my fault but that we were just doing our best. It just blew my mind—very healing.

I also asked God to place a trust in my husband for me the way a husband trusts his wife in the ways pleasing to the Lord. My husband told me many personal things and said ‘I hope you don’t mind me telling you all this but you are the only one I can trust to share these things with.’ This was after he had totally lost trust in me in EVERYTHING, and I mean everything.

I asked God to turn his heart to loving me—he started flirting with me about 3 weeks ago!!!

I asked God to bring us healing and restoration. My husband said he feels it’s time for us to start healing together in our relationship!!!!

I have asked God to change my husband into what he wants him to be and into the husband he wants him to be for me. My husband has shared with me what he could have done differently—things I never ever thought he would see—and I didn’t have to say a word!!!! God is amazing and kind and gentle and so generous to us.

Please know everyone that I too was ready to quit (have been on and off throughout) but particularly recently. I was even acting out in my mind filing papers and just being done with the hurt and pain—I had had these thoughts before but was getting ready to act on them and it was not with anger either—yes even then—don’t give up!!

I was also resolving myself to the thought that God does want restoration for us (because I had a conflict about whether it was God’s will) but that it might take another year or two for me to hear these words. Lo and behold, within 1 week, I received the phone call that he ‘doesn’t want to lose what we have’ and that he doesn’t want anyone else (there was not infidelity involved but I could sense from some of the things he had said that there could be—I prayed to God for the hedge of protection just in case!).

I mentioned earlier that there was a huge conflict in me that this may not be God’s will and my husband gave me every reason to think that I was being selfish by trying to hold on to our marriage—that it was going against what he needed in his life and career. Then I learned I had to let go and I did!! It was very hard until I realized I could let go without letting go of my commitment to our marriage and still be open to it being restored. My husband ‘of his own will’ has come back to realizing it is his will to be with me (after God turned his heart). Please note that there was absolutely no manipulation or anything impure involved with this on my part—it all came from God—only God could have shown him what he did—only God could be responsible for this.

I prayed for Jesus to please remove my and my husband’s hardened hearts and replace them with his heart, a heart of flesh, and fill it with his word, aspects, patterns and ways. My husband’s heart is softened dramatically. Within a month, I saw the changes—thank you Jesus—he even said within the first week of asking the Lord, ‘I realize now that I hardened my heart to you because I didn’t want anything to stand in my way.’ A week later he mentioned his friend who does not believe in God and his comment was, ‘I just can’t be around people on a daily basis that are “nonbelievers.” Not only had he never used this term before but he turned away from God about 9 months ago. Is this amazing or what?

I want everyone to know that this all came with a man who told me repeatedly, angrily, blatantly as well as soberly and peacefully that he didn’t love me anymore, he couldn’t ever live with me again, we held each other back in life—that he had finally understood and accepted this through all our efforts to make our relationship work and that he was moving on to a new life, ALONE, forever, and he absolutely knew it was the right thing. Praise God! Thank you Jesus!!!! He’s finally moving back home! Thank you so very much for your prayers. Bless you.

Thank you and everybody for your prayers. I will continue to pray for others—please continue to pray for us.


P.S. I thought I had tried it all—I never thought it would come from God’s Word. Your books are an absolute blessing—thank you both for devoting your lives to this cause—what a great service you are doing for God and all of mankind. God bless you. Thank you, God.

Marriage Restored in Missouri!!

Erin, I just wanted to tell you that my marriage has been restored—suddenly!

The last week in May, only nine weeks ago, my husband told me that he was divorcing me, that there was someone that he might start to have a relationship with and that he didn’t love me anymore!!

I cried out for God to help me. Then a man sent me a brief email from my prayer post and told me about your website. I received your books and started changing my ways immediately (by the Grace of God). My husband took notice and said I was ‘insane’ and my family thought I was absolutely crazy. (Even now, my father isn’t speaking to me.)

Well, suddenly, shortly after I finished A Wise Woman workbook, my husband decided he wasn’t going to leave and he never had an affair!!! I don’t want to tell you this to shame my husband, but I must because it shows that what is in your book really is true!!! You see, my husband told me one night (only after I opened my mouth to argue about something trivial—the old me!) that he was no longer physically attracted to me and that he would soon become ‘intimate’ with this other married woman.

When I heard this I prayed to God because I didn’t know what to do! My husband said he would sleep on the sofa, but then, after reading in the workbook about how I was to still offer myself to my husband, I said it would still be okay if he slept in our bed even after he had said all this. I still made myself available to my husband and I believe that was the ONLY thing that kept him from having a physical affair! Praise be to the Lord God Almighty!!!!

This threat was so real, Erin. Please let others know how being physically available is so important!! It was the biggest factor in our quick restoration.

Would you believe that my husband is now praising me at work and loves to tell others how he is the leader of our home. He says that if they don’t believe it, just to call me and I will agree. AMEN!!

I now seek God for what I need and ask Him to have the Lord speak to my husband about things. Won without a word!!! HE IS EVER FAITHFUL!!!

We have a long journey ahead of us, but I KNOW that the Heavenly Father is working in our lives daily.

This restoration was so sudden. My marriage turned around in a matter of 24 hours after I finally prayed without any DOUBTING that I would give it to God and let Him restore us when He wanted to.

Praise the Lord for giving you these powerful words and for showing you these verses so you could share them with others. I am sharing your website with as many who will listen. I know of 4 or 5 women who are also believing for restoration since I told them of it. If it wasn’t for the Lord giving these words to you, they would not be standing. Praise be to God.

I have had 3 or 4 ask for my testimony to put on their websites for encouragement and I said only if they made SURE that it was quite clear that God was the only one who was to be praised for this miracle!!!

Oh, Erin, thank you for your faithfulness to our Father. The Lord has been able to work through you to bring me back to HIM. What an awesome God we share.”

We rejoice with you. Oh, what a blessing to see His mercies in action as He draws us to Him and more into His likeness!! What a privilege to learn obedience through the things which we suffer!

We are surrounded on every side by those who turn away from the truth. How good of God to allow us to share in His faithfulness by the grace that He bestows on those who diligently seek Him.

Thank you for sharing your testimony and for your faithfulness in ministering to others. Rev. 12:11 “And they overcame him because of the blood of the Lamb and because of the word of their testimony, and they did not love their life even to death.”

She Prayed for the OW!

I read Friday’s Q&A Column on praying for the OW so I decided that I should also pray for my husband’s OW. I specifically asked God to help her to return to her own husband and that her husband would forgive her. My husband left the next day. On Saturday he moved in with her. ON THE VERY NEXT DAY, on Sunday, he called me and said she was leaving to go back to her husband!! Praise the Lord!!!! (To read the Q&A column and glean the wisdom that this woman read and applied, get the Questions and Answers book available through our ministry office that has transformed and restored many marriages.)

I realized for the very first time that she really does love her husband! My husband came back home and then he asked me if I would talk to her. I did, and she apologized for everything!!! I told her that I would pray for her and her husband. Then I thanked her for talking to me and she thanked me for listening!!!

My God makes even our enemies to be at peace with his people!! Just as the verse says! Glory to God!! Thank you for preaching the Good News that our God is able and willing to heal marriages and our lives!!

Marriage Restored in Kentucky!

In October my husband left me. There was not another woman involved, as far as a lover or adulterous other is concerned. However, my husband had a woman working as his secretary who liked controversy and she enjoyed causing problems with my husband and me. She did a great job and my husband became very dependent upon her, and it seemed to me that she had taken my place as his confidante. I was very hurt and when on her birthday he sent her an expensive bouquet of flowers and did not tell me (I found out from others) I reacted in a way that I know now I should not have. I had already reacted inappropriately many times when she rode with him to meetings out of town, etc. I thought that this should not happen since I disagreed with it! How foolish. Our marriage situation escalated until the end of October when he left me and filed for divorce!

I was devastated. My son was devastated, but my husband appeared to not care. I did all of the wrong things: I talked to others about our situation. I talked to my son about our situation. I called my husband, I argued with my husband, and basically I did everything wrong!!! I also was a Pharisee as I continued to attend our church along with our son and I had no problem crying in public so that everyone would see my pain!!

Somewhere around the first of December, I ordered the How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage book, and I began to apply some of the principles. However, I guess I was not broken enough and I continued to argue with my husband and do the wrong things.

Then, in January I ordered the women’s workbook A Wise Woman and wouldn’t you know that the day that I received it in the mail I fell and hurt my back and was bedfast for about a week (along with my women’s workbook)!! After reading A Wise Woman, I began to do better: I quit calling my husband; I began to tell the Lord Jesus Christ those things that I wanted my husband to know.

When my back felt better my father had a severe stroke and I spent numerous hours at the hospital with him (along with my women’s workbook A Wise Woman). My father died soon after.

My husband is the local funeral director. Thus, I had to make the call to him. It so happened that he was en route to the nursing home to see us when my dad died.

During the visitation, funeral, family gatherings etc., my husband was right there as if everything was okay. But immediately after the funeral, he began to withdraw again. It was at this time that I ordered the ‘Be Encouraged’ audio tapes. (I wanted all of the videos at one time, but I couldn’t afford them.) I listened to them nonstop!! With the tapes, along with the reinforcement of all of the principles in the RYM book and A Wise Woman workbook, I was finally able to let go of the situation and let God do it for me. And He did!!!

My husband began to call me!!! At first sporadically, then practically every day! Then he went out of town. Would you believe, he called me twice on his three-day excursion out of town?!

Upon his return, he called and asked to come out to the house. We were intimate because of the advice I had received from all of your material. Then again we were intimate. Then he called and asked me to go to dinner with him. Then he called and wanted to come out and watch an NCAA game, and we grilled out. The next day he came to church with our son (who picked him up) as I was already there. On that same Sunday, he told me that he was coming home!!! Praise the Lord!! That’s when he asked me to go to the regional NCAA games in Philadelphia. Of course, I said ‘yes!!!’ We had a great time!!

It will soon be 2 weeks since he moved back in!!!! Both of us are so happy to be together again!! The secretary who seemed to cause so many of our problems appears to be looking for another job!! (Please pray she will!!) I had prayed the hedge of thorns prayer around her and also around my husband because I knew that even though he wasn’t in adultery with her she was a wrong influence on him.

God is so, so, so GOOD!!!!

It is just a matter of waiting for his timing, our obedience and letting Him do it, instead of us trying to do it ourselves, to restore any marriage!!!!

Your materials helped me to bring my husband home!! Thank you so very, very much!! Please do not use my name, but you certainly can use my testimony!!!”

Marriage Restored after Five-Month Separation!!!

Thank you so much for being obedient and starting this ministry. It has truly helped me. All praises go to God our Father. My marriage was restored, after 5 months of separation!!! My husband called Wednesday at 1 a.m., asking if I would have the garage door open, because he was on his way home!!!! It worked because now I am trusting God and applying the principles that I learned. Thank you so much!!!!”

California Husband Home—Divorce Dropped!

Many things have happened since an online prayer buddy referred me to your website (and also sent me Erin’s RYM book and A Wise Woman workbook for women).

When my husband returned from four months training, this past summer, he informed me he’d had an affair and had fallen in love with another woman. He told me emphatically that he believed our marriage was ‘beyond counseling.’ So, after much pleading and trying to reason I gave in to his wish (and prayed and cried my heart out to God).

That Monday is when I found your website. I submitted a prayer request that day. That very next Tuesday, my husband came home and had an ‘emotional breakdown’! The woman that he had been involved with said she had to ‘end’ the affair and that he should work on saving our marriage!!!! My husband wasn’t ready for that!!! He came to ME and I was here to comfort him in all the confusion he was feeling.

A week and a half later, my husband went in on his own for Christian marriage counseling. I asked how things were going with him. Any changes in his feelings towards her or me? He said, basically, ‘no.’ This questioning opened the door for him to fill me in on more details than I wanted to know about his adulterous relationship. This, more than ever, made me feel that our case was hopeless. With all that he said I felt I could never live up to being this type of person he thought he wanted. Again it was over!” (We advise to NEVER ask questions. When a husband is being led by evil, all you will hear is evil and lies, which results in fear and defeat for all concerned!) “However, the VERY NEXT DAY, he said, ‘I don’t know, but I just can’t go through with a divorce!! I can’t deal with all the negative changes that would affect us all!’

My husband is home and wants to work on improving our marriage!!! To God be ALL THE GLORY!!

Marriage Restored after She Helped Two Others!!

I was separated from my husband for 16 months from a 23-year marriage. I sought God from the beginning. God led me to three ministries online after I prayed for His guidance. I got your book and read it fervently. I also passed the teachings I learned to many ladies that God brought to me. I watched God restore two marriages of ladies who read your book. One of the ladies has contacted you to translate your book into Spanish.

I would come home and read your website daily for encouragement through this journey. I ordered your cassettes and listened to them and was encouraged tremendously. It is all about obedience and dying to the flesh. I was hardest hit this last six weeks. The principles you showed me, God’s Word, was the sword that I used to come against the attacks.

I got a ‘suddenly’ phone call from my husband last Sunday asking if I would come over and talk to him on Monday. On Monday, he said he wanted to COME HOME!! God had allowed him to lose everything, even his health. He moved out of the OW house and home to his family Tuesday morning!!!!

He came home wounded but God is not through yet. The first day he was home I was applying first aid to his feet where ants had bitten him. As I did that I thought of Jesus washing his disciples’ feet. I considered it an honor.

God told me a long time ago that it would be like childbirth and it was true. I don’t remember the pain, only the miracle.

My two boys, 10 and 11, ran out in the yard screaming ‘Daddy!’ when he came home. I knew then and there I was truly blessed!!! It was all worth it!!

I know that now that my husband is home, it is the time to pray harder then ever. The devil is mad, but God is greater. I have reached a new level so new devil!!!

I have not asked my husband any questions, just listened to what he chose to tell me. That is a big growth from the old me.

He recently had major surgery and I was so hurt I couldn’t take care of him. Now that he is home I feel so blessed to be able to care for him.

I am still being tested! Last night, he said he wanted to go out and see some of the men at the bar. I didn’t say a word. Instead, after he left, I went in and prayed that he would not want to be there any more. He came home ONE hour later and said he felt bad for leaving and wanted to come home!!! PRAISE GOD!!

God is still giving me miracles each day, showing me the changes he is making in my husband. These changes don’t happen all at once. As I said, I am still being tested and am still applying what I have learned. What God has started He will finish.

Everyone at work has noticed my glow. I told them my MIRACLE came home!!!!

Praise God for both of you and what you are doing for the Lord. Your reward in heaven will be great.

Marriage Restored in Pennsylvania!!

I’m writing to encourage other women that God IS REAL! My husband and I have been separated for three years. During the course of these three years the Lord has dealt with me and changed my heart. My husband and I have grown so much closer. We are closer now than we’ve ever been.

My husband was living with his sister, but she decided to get a new apartment. Even though he knew that she was moving, he said he did not have ample time to save and find a place. He eventually found an apartment, but it was not ready before his sister moved and had all of the utilities shut off.

Would you believe, I came home to find my husband asleep in our bed?!! The Lord had directed me to give him his keys back last year!!! He has been there ever since! He said that he would only be here until his furniture arrived. But he now has a furnished apartment and is still finding excuses, like not having sheets for his bed, and not having the money to buy any!!! Every time he talks about the apartment, and all the things he needs, he gets down in his spirit.

God has caused him to become so comfortable at our home that he says he has no desire to leave! I want to praise God because He has humbled me!! And because of the humbling, He allowed my heart to soften. If I was still bitter and holding unforgiveness he would have never considered coming home!


Marriage Restored after a Hard Ten Months!

This woman sent many emails to us for “prayer” only. For many months, I had no idea what her situation was. She REALLY covered her husband’s nakedness—even from me! But I KNEW that a humble and praying woman would eventually receive her miracle. Well, here it is! All praise be to God!!

I don’t even know where to begin...I guess, first I’d like to say that God continued to help me stand, and believe, and rejoice. He continued to encourage me and gave me manna along the way.

Back in April God removed the OW from my husband’s life and brought him to repentance. At that time, he realized he wanted to make things work, but didn’t know how to get her off his mind. He had a box of her stuff in his closet for several months. Another ‘pray and don’t speak moment’! God moved mountains on our behalf once again.

Restoration was slow, but steady. I was so grateful when he was back sharing our bed. Intimacy was lacking for a while, but God continued to restore! Hallelujah!

My husband recently ordered a new wedding band as his was stolen. I am very, very pleased!! Another ‘pray and don’t speak moment’!

Erin, God has been sooo faithful! He is still working in us both, continuing to heal and restore! Sometimes the enemy will throw doubt, but I am able to recognize it now! It was a long 10-month trial! I am sooo grateful it is over! But I am also grateful we went through it (although I would never have chosen it!).

We truly have a Sovereign God, a merciful God, an Almighty God and a loving God!! There is so much more that I could write. I have really described this miracle in brief!

One more thing. God has been bringing more women into my life with struggling marriages. Please pray for me as I witness and share, and as we seek God’s will, not man’s. Please, praise God with me, and if we come to mind, please continue to pray for us.

Marriage Restored—Thank You RMI !!

I wanted to thank you for the materials that you have produced. I was on the right track with the Lord even before receiving some of your materials, but the videos and A Wise Woman particularly helped to clarify what the Word said, and especially to encourage me during the darkest moments of my life.

Some of the advice Erin gave me was hard to implement, but I walked in faith and did it! I lost a lot of ‘friends’ along the way, and almost all of the Christians in my life thought I was nuts. They may still! I just know after 9 months of doing things the way the Bible commands, my husband is no longer with the other woman but at home with us.....every night...right after work (this has never been in 12 years).

He asked me to quit my job (that I started out of obedience to him) and he also quit his part-time job. We are continuing to homeschool our children, and the Lord has chosen to bless us with an 8th baby (a real surprise to me!!!). I refuse to believe when people in our fellowship say it is not a ‘good’ time in our marriage for a baby, since the Lord Himself has chosen it for us. My husband is happier about the baby than I ever remember him being.

Thank you, Restore Ministries, for uplifting me, and for calling me to follow in what the Word says is true. You never asked me to follow your own ideas....only my Savior, and his Word. That is why your ministry is different, and why it WORKS! I know that your entire office prayed for us during our final and most difficult battle, and I am truly grateful for our restoration.

Friend Shares Faith—Marriage Restored!

I gave all of your materials to a friend just after her husband left home. I won’t go into detail but the situation looked horrible. Because of the material, I knew the right things to say to encourage her and help her to stay on track regardless of the bleakness of the circumstances. She read the book and watched the videotapes. It was hard for her, but she stayed with it. I was confident because of what I learned in the book and I promised her that God would restore her marriage if she did not listen to her friends and go the way of the world. She called me on New Year’s Day to say her husband had returned home. Alleluia!

I thank God I had the material. I was so sure because I believed what I read. I’m grateful to God. Now I just pray that she will continue to reinforce and practice what she learned in the books and tapes. I know, oh too well, how the enemy still looks to destroy the marriage even after the husband has returned home.

As far as my marriage is concerned, it seems as though God has given me the gift of faith. Also, the Lord has been so gracious by letting me have such a great cloud of witnesses of restored marriages. I know the Lord is working on making me the wife my husband needs me to be and to be the person He has called me to be in Him.

Erin, I do pray for your family to be kept and shielded by the Lord and that He would continue to prosper you and your family in every way.


Death Threat Turns into Salvation and Restoration!!!

“My husband and I married too young because I was pregnant. When we were both just 20 years old, we had three little babies to take care of. My husband still hung around with his friends from high school and stayed high on cocaine and later started shooting heroin. As our money got tight, my husband became violent with me. Many times he would hold a gun to my head and tell me he was going to kill me.

I didn’t believe in God back then, but I needed someone to help me. One night I heard on the television about a place where ‘God had showed up and there were miracles happening. I got on my knees in our living room and asked God to help us get there.

But at the very same time I was praying, my husband was hiding high on cocaine behind our house in some woods. He had his loaded rifle with him and he was waiting for me and the kids to go to bed so that he could come in and kill all of us.

I didn’t know he was there so I put the kids to bed and then went to bed myself. That night was the first time in months that I slept in peace. After I was asleep my husband came in the back door and came into our bedroom, but I didn’t hear him and then he pointed the rifle at me, but he didn’t shoot me. He told me the next day that ‘Something or Someone stopped me.’ He said that afterwards he went outside and cried.

When I woke up in the morning there he was sleeping on the couch. I told him that we all needed to go to this church I had heard about and he said okay!!!! This was the first miracle that happened.

We loaded up our car that morning and I turned on the Christian radio station (my husband never once said to turn it off!—another miracle) and we headed for the church. It was the longest trip of my life!!! Every few miles, my husband had to stop and throw up. But finally we made it—praise God, praise God, HE IS SO GOOD!!!

We had to wait several hours until the evening service and I kept wondering if he would split before we ever got inside. But he didn’t and when the doors opened we were the first people inside. At the end of the service my husband went up and prayed at the altar. I saw him cry for the first time since we were married.

When he stood up, he was not the same man!!!! Glory to God, praise Jesus. He wanted to stay another night so we slept in our car in the church parking lot. In the morning we went to get our boys a haircut. My husband sat there reading the Bible they gave him at the church!!!!

I never would have believed it if I had not seen it with my own eyes. An older woman sat down next to him and they started talking about Jesus. She was not a Christian. When my boys were done my husband said he needed his haircut. This was another miracle!!! His hair was very long (about halfway down his back!!) but he got it all buzzed off with just an inch left.

All I can say is my husband is not the same man I married!! When we got home he went into the bedroom to read his Bible, then he came out with our TV set and threw it in the dumpster!!!

Even though my husband didn’t officially leave me, our marriage is a restored marriage thanks to Jesus Christ. Thank you Lord Jesus!!! You are awesome!!!”

Restoration from Atlanta!

“I have a restored marriage that I wanted to write to you about. One night I said, ‘I’m leaving. I can’t stay in this marriage any longer’ to my sister-in-law. But as I got up I heard the Lord speak to me, ‘Don’t go.’ So I sat down. My sister-in-law looked at me and said, ‘I thought you said you were leaving?’ Then I told her, ‘I can’t leave him.’

My husband was always high on whatever he could get his hands on—drugs, booze or sniffing glue. He worked in a machinery shop with stuff that he could get caught in. I must repent that sometimes I wished it would happen just to end the nightmare we were living! He was a good guy when we married, but after our son was born severely retarded, he sought comfort by finding something to numb the pain. But I turned to God when he turned to drugs.

But then, two nights after I had heard the Lord tell me not to go, God visited my husband at work. He told me that he was so wasted that he didn’t even remember being at work; then all of a sudden he was completely sober. God spoke to him and told him to go to Bible college.”

— Chapter 17 —

Stand in the Gap 

And I searched for a man among them

who should build up the wall and

stand in the gap before Me

for the land, that I should not destroy it;

but I found no one.

—Ezekiel 22:30


There is nothing more powerful than praying God’s Word and promises back to Him. While I was waiting for God to restore my marriage, I began hiding God’s Word in my heart by making 3x5 cards and reading them several times everyday. Soon my prayers became mostly His Word. This way of praying is powerful. Use the prayers in this chapter to teach you how to pray the verses that you now “treasure” in your heart!

“Dear heavenly Father, I enter into my prayer closet and, now that I have shut the door, I pray to You, my Father, in secret. As You see me here in secret, You will reward me openly. It is written that all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.”

“O God, Thou art my God; early will I seek Thee; my soul longs for Thee in a dry and thirsty land, where no water is. Lord, there is no one besides Thee to help in the battle between the powerful and those who have no strength; so help us, O Lord our God, for we trust in Thee, and in Thy name have come against this multitude. O Lord, Thou art my God; let not man prevail against Thee.”

“Your eyes, Lord, move to and fro throughout the whole earth that you may strongly support those whose hearts are completely Yours. Search my heart.”

“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh, for the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ—You have readiness to revenge all disobedience when Your obedience is fulfilled.”

“O let the evil of the wicked come to an end, but establish the righteous. I shall not be afraid of evil tidings; my heart is fixed, trusting in the Lord. My heart is established; I shall not be afraid, until I see my desire come upon the enemy.”

“Let my husband’s fountain be blessed and let him rejoice with the wife of his youth. Let me, dear Lord, be as the loving hind and pleasant doe; let me have the hidden imperishable quality in my heart of a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in your sight. For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord and He watches all his paths.”

“Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven; and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. I ask You, heavenly Father, to rebuke and to bind Satan in the name and through the blood of my Lord Jesus Christ. Hedge up his way with thorns, and build a wall against him so that he cannot find his paths. Then you will say to me, dear Lord, ‘Go again, love a man who is loved by his wife.’ Therefore I will speak kindly to him. A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the two shall be one flesh.”

“Abraham hoped against hope, believed in hope, and being not weak in faith, staggered not at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strong in faith, giving glory to God. He was fully persuaded that what He had promised, He was able to perform.”

“For we are saved by hope; but hope that is seen is not hope, for what man seeth, why doth he yet hope for it? But if we hope for what we see not, then do we with patience wait for it. I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait on the Lord; be of good courage and He will strengthen thine heart, yes, wait on the Lord. But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run and not be weary; and they shall walk and not faint.”

“For since the beginning of the world men have not heard, nor perceived by the ear, neither hath the eye seen, O God, beside thee, what He hath prepared for him who waiteth for Him. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. Amen.”


Prayer for Those in Adultery

“I ask you, Father, to rebuke and bind Satan in the name and through the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ. I ask you to build a hedge of thorns around my husband so that anyone who is interested in him will lose interest and leave. I base my prayer on the command of Your Word, which says, ‘What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.’ I thank you, Father, for hearing and answering my prayer. Amen.”

“Therefore I will hedge up his way with thorns, and I will build a wall against him so that he cannot find his paths. And he will pursue his lovers, but will not overtake them; and he will seek them, but will not find them. Then he will say, ‘I will go back to my wife. For it was better for me then than now!’ Therefore I will allure him, bring him into the wilderness, and speak kindly to him. For I will remove the names of Baals from his mouth. Then the Lord said to me, ‘Go again, love a (man) yet an adulterer.’” From Hosea 6.

“Drink water from your own cistern, and fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be yours alone, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountains be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times. For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress, and embrace the bosom of a foreigner? Can man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Or can a man walk on hot coals, and his feet not be scorched? So is one who goes in to his neighbor’s wife. Whoever touches her will not go unpunished. For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord, and He watches all his paths.” From Proverbs 5.

“Keep your way far from her, and do not go near to the door of her house, lest you give your vigor to others, lest strangers be filled with your strength, and your hard-earned goods go to the house of an alien, and you groan at your latter end. For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, and an adulteress hunts for the precious life. He who keeps company with harlots wastes his wealth.” From Proverbs 5.

“Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, for the heart is like channels of water in the hand of the Lord; He turns it wherever He wishes. Do not stray into her paths. For many are the victims she has cast down, and numerous are all her slain. Her house is the way to Sheol, descending to the chambers of death. The mouth of an adulteress is a deep pit; he who is cursed of the Lord will fall into it. For a harlot is a deep pit, and an adulterous woman is a narrow well.” From Proverbs 7.

“The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense; he who would destroy himself does it. Surely she lurks as a robber, and increases the faithless among men. Like a bird that wanders from her nest, so is a man who wanders from his home.” From Proverbs 6, 27.

“This is the way of an adulterous woman: she eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I have done no wrong.’ For the lips of an adulteress drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech, but in the end she is bitter as wormwood and sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; she does not ponder the path of life. Her ways are unstable; she does not know it.” From Proverbs 5.

“You adulteresses, do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility with God? Therefore, whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. And do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret.” From James 4.

“For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. We are destroying every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.” From 2 Corinthians 10:3-5.

“For I now rejoice, not that you were made sorrowful, but that you were made sorrowful to the point of repentance; for you were made sorrowful according to the will of God, in order that you might not suffer loss in anything through us. For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation; but the sorrow of the world produces death.” From 2 Corinthians 10.

“God gave us a ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God Himself was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were entreating through us; we beg you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.” From 2 Corinthians 5.

“For God has said, Behold, I will cast her down upon a bed of sickness, and those who commit adultery with her into great tribulation, unless they repent of her deeds. Therefore, confess your sins one to another, and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effectual prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. For he who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. From Revelations 2.

“There will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who do not need repentance. Yes, there is joy in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents. For Jesus said, ‘He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone. I do not condemn you; go your way. From now on sin no more.’” From Luke 15.

“Neither do I condemn you.” From John 8.

Prayer to Restore

“Hear my prayer, O Lord; give ear to my cry. Do not be silent at my tears. Put my tears in a bottle—are they not in Thy book? Since I am afflicted and needy, let the Lord be mindful of me. Thou art my help and my deliverer. Do not delay, O my God.” From Psalms 56 and 40.

“My close friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted up his heel against me. For it is not an enemy who reproaches me, then I could bear it; nor is it one who hates me who has exalted himself against me, then I could hide myself from him. But it is you, a man my equal, my companion and my familiar friend, we who had sweet fellowship together.” From Psalms 41 and 55.

“Let the evil of the wicked come to an end, but establish the righteous. In the net in which they hid, their own foot has been caught. Hold them guilty, O God; by their own devices, let them fall! In the multitude of their transgressions, thrust them out, for they are rebellious against Thee. Let those be appalled because of their shame. All my enemies shall be ashamed and greatly dismayed. They shall turn back; they shall suddenly be ashamed. Let me not be put to shame, O Lord, for I call upon Thee. Let the wicked be put to shame; let them be silent. In thee, O Lord, I have taken refuge. In Thy righteousness deliver me.” From Psalms 7, 9, and 31.

“Though they intend evil against Thee, and devise a plot, they will not succeed. When my enemies turn back, they stumble and perish before Thee. Thou hast blotted out their name forever and ever. The very memory of them has perished. Yet a little while and the wicked man will be no more. And you will look carefully for his place and he will not be there. But the humble will inherit the land and will delight themselves in abundant prosperity.” From Psalm 21.

“Thou dost surround the righteous with a shield. In peace I will both lie down and sleep, for Thou alone dost make me dwell in safety. Offer to God a sacrifice of thanksgiving, and call upon Me in the day of trouble. I shall rescue you, and you will honor Me.” From Psalm 4.

“Be strong, and let your heart take courage, all you who hope in the Lord. Be their shepherd also and carry them forever. I would have despaired if I had not believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong and let your heart take courage. Yes, wait for the Lord.” From Psalm 27.

“‘For your husband is your Maker, whose name is the Lord of hosts; for the Lord has called you, like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit, even a wife of one’s youth when she is rejected,’ says your God” From Isaiah 54:5–6.

May God Grant You Victory!

Personal commitment: to battle in the Spirit for my husband and my marriage. “Based on what I have learned from God’s Word, I commit to battling in the Spirit rather than continuing to battle in the flesh. I recognize that when I battle in the flesh I am losing the spiritual battle. Therefore, I commit to spending my energy, time, and thought life in the spiritual battle for my marriage and family.”

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