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RYM: Wk4 Chapter 16 "The Keys of Heaven"

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Day 22, Week 4: RYM Chapter 16

"The Keys of Heaven"


but first Restored Marriage Testimonies

taken from


God Restores in Alabama!

When I first came to your website and read about the lady with the 6 kids who lived in Alabama, I told the Lord that there would be another one soon!!

I just watched the Q&A video (again) last night and it was just what I needed!! My husband is so close to coming home—but I thought ‘not yet.’ I listened again to when your husband was coming home, but he took a detour and didn’t come home—you said on the video that maybe you should not have even said, ‘I don’t think you should go’ (back to the other apartment).

Well tonight—praise God he has decided to come home!!!! Only 8 months ago this marriage was over! He wanted to be let go ‘for time served,’ but based on God’s Word that I found in your books and videos, I am a new creature!!!

He has asked me to decide financially (I’m a retired CPA) if we should keep his house. You see, we often go away for weekends (6 kids) and he thinks his house is cheaper and nicer than hotels. I will “decide” slowly and pray for him to give it up on his own.

I’m so glad I picked that video to watch last night—surely God had his hand on me! When he told me his decision, I didn’t scream or get giddy; I just smiled and listened while he told me his ‘reasons.’ None of these reasons were that he was sorry or loved me—but it didn’t matter because they are not important for now. I live by faith and not by sight.

Thank you, Erin, for being a vessel for Jesus. I will keep you posted on moving day—when his things actually come home.

Her second email “Hallelujah!”

Ladies, please quit talking and thinking about praying and DO IT. He will do this!!! My situation is such that I cannot tell the world about my answered prayers, but I can tell you. My husband left me and was gone for over 14 months. Yes, there WAS someone else. Yes, there were attorneys involved. Yes, it was hopeless. Yes, I did everything wrong. When I studied God’s word through Erin’s books and tapes—and actually started to apply the principles—I received and received and received.

You must pray and fast and never give up. Your fight is not with your husband but with the devil himself. Prayer will give God the ability to fight on your behalf. He has already defeated the devil, but we need to take the authority in Jesus’ name and cut him down at the strongholds. I am so excited about what God has done for me and hope I can encourage you to get busy and quit complaining and start praying!

My husband came home, not because he couldn’t live without me, but because he was disabled financially. Still, I praised God. I kept praying. Soon he started to tell me he loved me. He has been to church 4 times, yes!!!!!!! He is not yet ready for Sunday school—so I told the kids to come outside for home Sunday school. My husband said to wait for him. When I picked myself off the floor, I tried not to grin too big. He listened to my prayer and story and Bible reading. Then he said, ‘Okay, now we need to pray for Daddy.’ He prayed the sinner’s prayer and asked Jesus into his life and asked him to guide him in the coming days. I have been praying for this for sooooo long!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wanted him to come back to the Lord, but I selfishly wanted him to come back to me too. He had been home for over 2 months and he still wasn’t ready to be my husband again. Then on my birthday I knew he hadn’t had time to get me a gift. After dinner (that I fixed) he fell asleep. So instinctively I went into my prayer closet for a good cry and prayer. When I went to bed my husband woke up, wide awake, and asked if I wanted my present. He got up and put on his wedding ring. God is so GOOD. I had been praying for this since he left.

You can’t know how far we have come except that your situation could be much worse—and with God all things are possible!!!!!!!!!!

Whatever the devil steals from us—God can replace sevenfold if not greater!!!!!

I will continue to claim VICTORY for all the troubled marriages that come to this site and pray that those who don’t know about this wonderful place will be led here.

This portion is from Erin:


Oh, I have been waiting and praying for this, constantly asking the Lord to do it as a favor for me (as if He owes ME anything!).

For those of you who do not know the entire testimony of this Alabama woman, let me share it briefly with you.

Several months ago I received an email. This woman had just had her sixth child when she found out she had breast cancer. After a mastectomy, and losing her hair, at the end of her chemotherapy, she and her husband pulled up in front of a house with a sign that said, “Sold.” She thought that her husband was surprising her, that they were getting a “new start.” But his words pierced her soul and heart: “This is my new house. I am leaving you. I don’t love you. I love someone else.”

When I read her email I broke down in tears. I thought that I had heard it all. It was so devastating to my heart that I thought seriously that I could no longer minister in restoration. I could no longer bear to hear and experience the pain.

We received CONSTANT praise reports, which were without a doubt a SACRIFICE of praise. Continual offensive attacks would come and she would praise the Lord with a heart of joy and LAUGHTER. She kept her sense of humor throughout the entire ordeal.

Dan and I both believed her marriage would be restored. Daily she would saturate herself in the books and video tapes, falling asleep as I spoke to her from the tapes.

After this testimony was submitted, we received an SOS Prayer Request. Her husband had “stalled” moving his things back home. He had become surprisingly “cool” in his affections and conversations over the previous few weeks. Then the morning of the SOS she received a surprise visit from a man who told her that his wife and her husband were away together. She politely asked him to leave and said that she could not discuss anything without her husband.

TALK ABOUT A TEST!!!! She did not ask questions, nor did she listen to things that were NOT a “good report,” though maybe true.

The next day her husband called and said, “I heard you had an ‘interesting’ visitor at the house yesterday.” As “gentle and quiet” as can be she stated, “Well, no, I don’t remember anyone in particular.”


Her husband was home, for good—GLORY TO GOD!!!

Someday I want to meet this woman, to hug her in triumph. I want to meet her husband, the man whom we prayed for and love because we prayed him home!!!

Update: I did get several hugs when our entire family met this precious woman on a recent trip when we just happened to drive through her city! She now is the president of the women in our Restoration Fellowship. We spent a wonderful week together and God has blessed me with a wonderful friend and encouragement partner!

Praise God! He Restored Our Marriage!

Here’s the praise report and testimony of God’s power I have been waiting so long to tell! Today my husband and I went to the court house and got our marriage license! Within the week I will be his wife legally again. What a difference a week can make!

I want to thank all of you who must have prayed for us. I praise God because I know without HIM this would never have happened. I thank HIM that He is using this ministry to give hope to people like me to believe that HE will restore marriages.

After feeling so good about our Christmas together, I still did not hear from him for over a week. I was able to speak to him about our taxes and our conversation turned to what had caused our breakup. Both of us were crying over the phone. I said I knew he still loved me and that I knew we belonged together. After that, we just began making plans to be together again.

So all of you who have any doubt about God’s love for you and your families, just hang on! Get into God’s Word and His will and pray without ceasing!!!!

Restoration and Salvation in Texas!!

Praise to God for the victory and abundant blessing!

My husband and I were finally restored on February 15, the day after Valentine’s Day!

He asked me to pick him up from the other woman’s apartment with all his clothes and belongings in tow. My son and I also moved out of my parents’ house the same day! Isn’t God awesome? Although my parents were very bitter and upset about my decision, I believe God will not put us to shame but reveal His Glory through us.

We had no place to stay, so we stayed at a motel for a week while we searched for a new apartment. I want to emphasize that my credit was destroyed during our separation due to the financial struggle. My husband has very little credit with a couple of outstanding balances. We had to break our last lease due to our separation. The odds were against us, but glory to God, He was our co-signer!

We were able to get a nice 2-bedroom apartment, with washer and dryer in unit, security alarm, and free covered parking in a gated community for a low monthly rent, NO deposit, and NO co-signer (except God’s invisible signature) within one week! Another great miracle—He surely is our provider!

As if that wasn’t enough, last Sunday was our first Sunday since before our separation to go to church together. My husband asked if we could leave during the altar call. Of course I agreed, but began praying fervently that God would touch his heart and save him.

The pastor asked anyone who had once known God, but had strayed and would like to be forgiven, to raise their hand. I sort of opened my eyes for a moment and saw my husband’s hand raised!!! Oh man, I was quivering inside and I prayed harder. Then came the altar call. Lo and behold, my husband squeezed my hand and asked me to go with him to the altar!!

I would like to point out that we have a huge church of several thousand (also televised regularly on TBN). We were seated at the top of the balcony so we had some ways to walk in order to reach the altar, including a long stairway. So it takes a lot of humility and Spirit-led power to stand up and go forward. He then accepted Jesus Christ back into his life! Can you believe it? I was shocked. I had tears running down my face!!

We serve an Awesome God! He is soooo good and He NEVER fails. Now, I can say from experience, He is no respecter of persons. What He did for me, He can do for you. I used to claim it by faith.

Believe it. I did, and it came to pass as it is written in his Word.

I am already excited to see what the Lord will do next. What I have gone through is worth the glory and the experience of the miracles and healing of the Most High God and His Son the Living Jesus Christ!

Hallelujah!!! God Is Awesome!

My marriage has been Restored!!!

I thought to myself that my situation was impossible. But I held on. I went through so much that it is impossible to list everything that happened to me during the time I was believing and trusting God for the restoration of my marriage. Besides, I don’t want to slander my husband.

I spoke to him on Friday night and he showed up at our house on Sunday night. He drove across SEVEN states to get home!! He totally surprised me!!! I could not stop thanking GOD!

I often read praise reports from others who said, ‘never give up!’ Well there were times when I almost did, but I devoted my time to focusing on GOD and not my situation.

Due to my obedience, He gave me all of His promises and restored my marriage.

Tears ran down my face this morning as I drove to work just thinking about how awesome GOD is! He took care of me even when I couldn’t take care of myself. He gave me such peace.

I will say to anyone who is thinking about giving up to NEVER GIVE UP!! I know it is hard but He says ‘anyone who trusts in Him will never be put to shame’ (Romans 10:11). Stand on His Word and His promises – He will never let you down!!”

Restored and New Baby Too!

I have to share this story—it is a perfect miracle from God!!

On November 27th, my husband told me he wanted a divorce. Then on December 26th, almost a month later, I discovered I was pregnant with our first child. I gave my husband the news, but it did not change his feelings. I had to move out of our home January 1. I began reaching to the Lord more than ever. He became my only comfort. I requested prayer for my situation from fellow Christians and began receiving encouraging, spirit-filled emails from a friend in the same situation. These emails were full of God’s promises for my marriage, and in one, there was information about how to get a copy of Erin’s book on marriage restoration. I was desperate so I sent for it.

I carried her book everywhere and read it whenever I had a spare moment. The promises God has given us in His Word gave me more comfort than I can explain and I began to know in my heart that things would somehow be okay.

I didn’t speak with my husband for several weeks and then one day he called and said he had quit his job. I wasn’t covered under his insurance anymore and I was 4 months pregnant. It seemed like another struggle, but of course, God planned it perfectly!

Then out of nowhere, on March 26th, my husband asked me to reconcile our marriage!!!

I had prayed it would happen, but didn’t realize it would be so soon!

We now have a beautiful 3-month-old son and we are working on our marriage with the help of God every day. It will take time for both of us to completely heal but we’ve been given a New Beginning by our Heavenly Father and we have so many blessings in our life it brings tears to my eyes when I think of them! God will ALWAYS provide for His children and He loves us more than we could ever imagine!

I am a blessed woman and will forever be humbled by my Lord’s power!!”

Restored—Glory be to God!

I thank the Lord for His wonderful promises. God is faithful to those who earnestly seek Him. If you only believe that ‘all things are possible’!

My husband moved out in September and went to live with the OW. When I heard it, I am ashamed to say, I tore all his clothes. After a week he told me flat out that he would return only when he wanted to; otherwise, he had decided to live with someone else.

I sought the Lord and cried to Him and that is when I found your website. My friend whom I used to work with had given me your printouts of testimonies of restored marriages. I read them again and again. I then visited your website and finally God helped me.

I began to pray and fast every Tuesday and Thursday while meditating on the Word day and night. I prayed each and every time when the Holy Spirit prompted me.

You know, brethren, God is wonderful because He was working from behind the scenes. When I was almost giving up (saying that there was no change in my situation or in my husband) He WAS working and changing things. My good Lord is able and He allowed it because I learned to wait patiently upon the Lord during these times.

Last month my husband came and said he wanted to come back home, but he wanted to finish first with the other woman. After all that I had learned, I said it was okay with me!

He then started phoning me and coming to my work. I think he was seeing the changes in me. I had been the kind of woman who would shout at him and tell him all sorts of things just to bore him. But now, I am really changed. Now I only listen and agree with whatever he says.

There was no peace with the other woman he was staying with (as his friends would always tell me), so he began wanting to come back home.

Then last night, he finally came home with his bag of clothes!! My marriage is restored!!!

Glory be to the Son of the living God! Thank you Jesus!! Amen.”

God is faithful to His promises and He answers prayers. However, so often, too often, the wayward husband wants to leave their adulterous situation but does not come home. We became involved in a relationship in our church just a couple of weeks ago. The wife, who had left and moved in with another man, accepted the Lord at our altar.

Erin had the privilege of talking to her as an altar worker. Unfortunately, though she doesn’t want to be in adultery any more, and though she is now a born-again believer (really running after God) she is afraid of her husband. He has wanted to restore his marriage for the 4 months since she left. He has prayed and gotten on fire for the Lord, but his aggressive behavior toward her is keeping her from coming home. Our prayer is that he would get a hold of the principles that we teach in Restore Ministries so that she would move back home.

Suddenly God Moved and Restored!

I am submitting this praise report to let other women know that God can and will restore your marriage.

My husband and I started having problems after 27 months of marriage. He said he didn’t love me anymore and wanted to be single and date. I got connected to this website through a friend and bought the book. Since my husband had moved out I had time to read, meditate and confess the word of God for my marriage. I followed the directions in Erin’s book. Two weeks ago I went to the store and I returned home to find my husband’s car in the parking lot. He had returned home. He said he was missing God’s blessings so he needed to return home.

God has restored my marriage and my husband and I are so happy! God has sent him home in time for Thanksgiving and Christmas. He is so happy that I have forgiven him and I am so happy that God has restored our marriage.

Please, as you read this praise report, understand that there were a lot of things happening during the time that my husband was gone. I suffered a lot and I saw a lot of things that really hurt my heart, but I cried out to God and He heard me and moved heaven and came and made me more than a conqueror.

God is Good, but you must be obedient to His Word as you await the manifestation of your restored marriage. Walk by faith and look not at the things that are seen.

I thank God for Restore Ministries, Erin and her family. May God richly bless you all.

God Restored!

I want to submit a praise report because I need to tell all the readers and members of this ministry how good God is. My husband has not only returned, but our marriage is a lot better than it ever was.

He is happy, and calls me three times a day just to say ‘I love you’!!! We go to the movies and the mall holding hands. I know now that ALL the things that Erin said in her book are true. Many times we are not submissive as women. We want to do things our way instead of God’s way.

Well, Erin, thanks for teaching me how to be the wife God has called me to be. Women, please don’t give up. God is no respecter of persons. He can and will restore your marriage. I am a living example.

Hang in there and watch God put it all back together, and when he does this, no one will be able to open it again unless you do so yourself. I made the mess in my marriage by being contentious and petty.

Let God do his job and ‘stand still and know that he is God’!!!


Restored Marriage!!

I would like to thank you for your website. It gave me the encouragement to seek God and to believe God for my marriage.

My husband and I got married at very young ages. He was 17 and I was 19 with a 3-year-old daughter, and pregnant with my first son. We thought things would be so great: a family, apartment, children, friends, etc... What we forgot was God. We always ran our marriage and we were surprised when things started going bad. The kids started to grow up, the money started to fade, and we had more bills than we knew what to do with. Both of us thought that the ‘grass HAD to be greener on the other side.’ We both looked for love in other places.

After my husband’s first adultery, we started to work on our marriage. We got into a great church and started taking classes to be in leadership positions in our church. Eventually my husband began to play the bass guitar in the worship group and I began to teach Sunday School to 3rd graders. I thought we had it all under control. We were doing God’s work. Our hearts were in the right place, so we thought.

In October 2001, after a very emotional argument, my husband decided to leave his family. He had met someone else at a bar and said he knew he would be happier with her. I was devastated. I think at first I was mostly devastated because he looked so happy and I wasn’t. I was jealous because he had someone and I didn’t. I tried to date, but every time I would attempt to go out, I would get physically ill and never be able to go. (A blessing from God!)

Two months after my husband left, we started to be able to talk on a civil basis. We had restraining orders against each other, assault charges, and were in a very heated divorce and custody battle. My work performance was horrible; I couldn’t eat, sleep, think, or anything. Then one night while looking for divorce ‘recovery,’ I stumbled over your site. I started crying when I read the first page and decided that night that I was going to turn everything over to God.

My husband would remind me daily that our relationship was over. He would tell me how happy he was with the other woman and how they were going to get married and have more children. This hurt me so much since I had to have a hysterectomy when I was 25 and had always wanted more children. So I cried out to God on a daily basis, not really knowing what to pray for.

On Dec. 20th, I had to have another major surgery. I desperately wanted my husband to be there for the surgery. I asked him to go and he agreed. It was the best feeling to wake up after surgery and feel him giving me a hug.

On Dec. 27th, his birthday, I went over to his house with our two boys and watched them open gifts with their dad. It hurt to be in his home and not be able to tell him how very much I loved him. I remember lying awake at night just watching him sleep and wanting to hold him.

Things began progressing into a friendship and I was thankful for this blessing from God. Then we started talking more. Then one night, I woke to someone standing looking over me—it was my husband standing there. He was drunk and told me he just wanted someone to hold him. The other woman had broken the relationship off the day before his birthday and he was very upset about it. As much as it hurt me to hold him, I couldn’t doubt that it was a blessing from God. Slowly things started to progress into a genuine relationship.

Then suddenly my husband came home on January 3!!

At first he said he wasn’t moving back in; he was just staying for a little while, but we have been so happy!! I never thought things could be so great! God has truly blessed us with another chance. We realize that our priorities were all messed up. My husband is on his way back into the band and I am going to be teaching a small group.

God is so good!!! He knows just what you need and when. He brought us from a devastating position into an even greater love than either of us ever imagined was possible. I will never forget to put God first in my life. When you put God first, everything else falls into place.

Thank you so much for your encouragement, prayers and help. I think this site was really a gift from God! Without your encouragement, I still believe I would not have found God when I needed Him and would still be on the road to divorce. By the way, that word (the “D” word) does not exist in our home anymore. We have promised to trust in God for all our needs instead of looking elsewhere to satisfy our needs.

Thanks again for all of your help. God bless you both.

Marriage Restored—My Husband’s Now Sober!!!

I was a second wife. My husband was married before and had two children from that marriage. I sought God because I was unsure what to do. I kept feeling that God wanted me to stick with this marriage and not give up. I asked God to confirm my feelings and then I read a question from some man (who I don’t know—he just emailed a bunch of your questions the day he sent me your website address when I posted my prayer request on a Christian site).

There I saw that you had used Scripture to talk to a woman about a similar situation. I had just prayed on my knees five minutes earlier for a sign of confirmation!!!

God did restore our marriage and He continues to make things better!!

My husband has been drinking heavily for some time. I had been praying that God would take away the drunkard and put a sober man in him. I have been praying this since I heard your suggestion in tape 7.

Get this—he looked at me the other night, for no apparent reason, and said, ‘Oh, by the way, I haven’t had a drink all day.’ I didn’t say anything. I have never harped about it even before we had our marriage fall apart. Then two days later, he said he still hadn’t had a drink. Last night he told me he still hadn’t had a drink. It has been nearly a week without him drinking any alcohol. WOW!

If you only knew the whole story, he used to drink 24 beers a day. Just know that this is from GOD! My husband had a drinking problem, and after I prayed that God would take away the drunkard and replace him with a sober man, HE DID!

God has put us in severe financial ruin to accomplish this and I praise God for answering my prayers!!! Know I am praying for you and your family, Erin.”

Restoration and Husband’s Salvation in Alabama!!

About 3 months ago I found out my husband was cheating on me, and I kicked him out.

I really didn’t know what to do and then his friend bought me the How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage book. I read it and it changed me so much!!!! Then I saw that God had to change the things in me He wanted, before he brought my husband home.

Only one month later, my husband came to spend the weekend with the kids. At the end of the weekend he could see such a difference that he asked to come home!!! He was home for 2 months and then he went with the same friend who gave me your book to a flea market, of all places. There he met a man and my husband got saved right there in the middle of the flea market crowd!!!! Praise be to our God!!!!

Our marriage and our life has been great ever since then! God hears your prayers and has His perfect timing for everything—just obey and let God take over!!!

Couple Saved, Marriage Restored!!!

I just had to write and tell you about our marriage that was miraculously and gloriously restored because of our precious savior. I want you to post it to encourage others who think that their husband (or wife) is so far gone that the Lord can’t reach them. I was at the end of my rope when my friend reached out to me and introduced me to her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I was alone with two small children. I wept as the group of praying ladies knelt by me and prayed for my marriage. My husband had left and abandoned me. One of the women prayed that my husband would not just come home, but would be saved and have a Saul experience like the apostle Paul had on the road to Damascus!!

Only two weeks after I accepted the Lord, I saw my husband pull up in the driveway and I panicked. But when he walked in, his face was totally changed; his expression was joyful, so different than I had ever seen. He told me he was sorry for leaving us and not telling us where he was going or when he was coming home. That’s when I noticed a huge Bible under his arm, the kind that sits on someone’s coffee table. He said, ‘Sweetheart, while I was gone I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior’!!!!! Then he said that his grandmother who had been praying for him for years gave him the Bible!!!! This is such a miracle and an answer to my and everyone else’s prayers!!!

My husband has spent hours and hours reading his Bible. No matter where he goes, he carries this huge Bible with him!!!! He also remembers it, everything he reads in the Bible WORD FOR WORD!!!

Three months after my husband came home he told me that God told him to go back to where we used to live, near our families, and that God wanted him to open up a restaurant to feed the poor. I was sooooooo happy he no longer took drugs and drank or was unfaithful to me with all the women, but now he had gone off the deep end!!! But I packed us up and we moved.

We had only been in our apartment a couple of days when my husband went downtown and saw an empty building. He laid his hands on it for God to give it to him. When he came home and told me I was really frightened. I just figured he was high or something. Then I heard someone knocking on the door. It was a man and his wife who handed my husband and me a check and said, ‘The Lord told us to give this to you to open the restaurant.’ The check was the exact amount of the building my husband had prayed for!! To God be the Glory!!! Hallelujah!!! Thank you Jesus. Nothing is too hard for the Lord. Why did I doubt it????? Why do other Christians doubt that God can do what He says He will????????”


— Chapter 16 —

The Keys of Heaven

I will give you the keys

of the kingdom of heaven . . .

—Matthew 16:19


Jesus gave us the keys of heaven to “bind up” the evil and “loose” the good. “I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; and whatever you shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven” (Matt. 16:19).

Remove the evil. Find a verse concerning what you want to remove. When someone is “bound” in sin, you must first bind that “strong man” or sin, which has a hold of the person you are praying for. Search for the verse that you can pray. Here is the principle: “But no one can enter the strong man’s house . . . unless he first binds the strong man . . .” (Mark 3:27). Bind and break the cords of sin that is controlling the person being held captive. “His own iniquities will capture the wicked, and he will be held with the cords of his sin” (Prov. 5:22).

Replace the evil with good. This is very important! “When the unclean spirit goes out of a man, it passes through waterless places seeking rest, and not finding any, it says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when it comes, it finds it swept and put in order. Then it goes and takes along seven other spirits more evil than itself, and they go in and live there; and the last state of that man becomes worse than the first” (Luke 11:24–26).

If you fail to replace. If you fail to replace what you have removed, it will become worse than before you prayed. You must always replace something evil with something good. This is one reason so many who go on diets actually get fatter. Experts say that they stop eating all the bad, or try not to eat at all. However, they never replace what has been taken away with something good, like prayer, going for a walk, exercising, or eating something else that is good for them. Another example might be when someone has a very oily face. She scrubs it with soap and maybe puts alcohol on it to dry up the oil. Then after a few hours it’s greasier than ever! Dermatologists will tell you that you must replace the oil you have removed with a small dab of lotion.

Replace the lies with the truth. The truth is only found in His Word. Unless what you hear, read, or what someone tells you matches up with the principles in God’s Word, it is a lie!

Replace the “arm of the flesh” with the “Lord.” Replace trusting in “the arm of the flesh” (yourself, a friend, whomever) with trusting in the Lord. “Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in the strength of His might” (Eph. 6:10).

Replace running away with running to Him! “God is our refuge and our strength, a very present help in time of trouble” (Ps. 46:1). Run to the book of Psalms! Read Psalms (and Proverbs) every day. Read the Psalm that corresponds to the day of the month plus every 30th Psalm to the end of the book, then read the chapter of Proverbs that corresponds with the date (e.g., on the 5th of the month you would read Psalms 5, 35, 65, 95, 125 and Proverbs chapter 5.) An easy way to remember is to write where to turn at the end of each Psalm (e.g., at the end of the 6th Psalm you would write “36,” at the end of 36 you would write “66.” When you get to Psalm 126 you would write “Prov. 6.”) Since Psalm 119 is so long it can be reserved for the 31st of the month.

As a member of our Restoration Fellowship, you can also go to our Daily Devotional on our website to be reminded of the Psalms and Proverbs for the day. Go to RMIEW.com to join!

Replace crying out to another with crying out to Him! He promises to hear you and to lift you up immediately! You must cry out! Don’t think to yourself, “Well, God hasn’t helped me in the past!” If He didn’t help, it’s simply because you didn’t ask. “Ask and it shall be given you; seek and you shall find” (Matt. 7:7).

Preparing for War

Put on your armor daily as described in Ephesians 6:10–18.

The schemes of the devil. “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, that you may be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil” (Eph. 6:10–11). Remember who the real enemy is: Satan, not your husband.

The full armor of God. “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore, take up the full armor of God, that you may be able to resist in the evil day” (Eph. 6:12–13). You must resist the fear that causes you to run away or give up; stand firm, and having done everything, continue to stand firm. Psalm 37 is good to pray if you are plagued with fear.

Stand firm. “Stand firm therefore, having girded your loins with truth . . .” (Eph. 6:14). People talk about “stepping out in faith.” It may be best to stop moving and just stand firm! It may be the difference between trusting and tempting God. Sometimes we feel like we are taking a “step of faith,” but we are actually throwing ourselves off a cliff, as Satan told Jesus to do.

Many times we should not be taking a “step” of faith but rather “stand” still in our faith. Our convictions should enable us to “stand” and believe for what is right. If we move by taking a “step” of faith, we could be falling off a cliff. If God brings adversity into our lives, our stand will be the testimony. Yet, as you will see later in this lesson, sometimes we are asked to step out and walk on water, as Peter was asked to do. Discernment is needed here. One rule that may help is the amount of urgency. Usually our “flesh” brings about urgency; God usually says to wait.

His righteousness. “. . . and having put on the breastplate of righteousness . . .” (Eph. 6:14). God is talking about His righteousness, not yours. He tells us in His Word that our righteousness is nothing but “filthy rags” (Isa. 64:6).

Walk in peace. “And having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace . . .” (Eph. 6:15). You can claim the promise in Matthew 5: “Blessed are the peacemakers!” Be peaceful with everyone at all times!

The shield of faith. “In addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming missiles of the evil one” (Eph. 6:16). You must have faith—not in yourself, someone, or something else like a judge or a shelter, but faith in God alone! Circumstance has nothing to do with faith. Believe His Word alone for the truth about your situation.

Helmet of salvation. “And take the helmet of salvation” (Eph. 6:17). You must be saved; you must be one of His children to really win a difficult spiritual battle. It’s as easy as talking to God right now. Just tell Him in your own words that you need Him now. Ask Him to make Himself real to you. Give Him your life, a life that is messed up, and ask the Lord to make it new.

Tell Him that you will do whatever He asks, since He is now your Lord. Ask Him to “save you” from your sins and from the eternity that is waiting for all those who do not accept His gift of eternal life. Thank Him for His death on the cross, the death that He died for you. You can now believe that you will no longer live alone; God will always be with you, and you will spend eternity in Heaven.

Sword of the Spirit. “Take . . . the sword of the Spirit which is the word of God” (Eph. 6:17). This is exactly what we have been teaching: use His Word for a battle that will be won. When the battle is the Lord’s, the victory is ours! Write down on 3x5 cards the Scriptures you need to help in your battle. Keep them with you at all times in your purse. When you feel an attack coming on, like fear, read the verses that pertain to fear. (See Romans 8:15 and Psalm 23 for wonderful verses to attack fear.) Cry out to God. Stand firm in faith. “Be still and know that I am God” (Ps. 46:10).

Pray at all times. “With all prayer and petition pray at all times in the Spirit” (Eph. 6:18). Pray from deep in your Spirit. Have designated times of prayer three times a day (as Daniel did). That was one of the reasons he was thrown into the lions’ den. Don’t worry, but remember that even if you are in essence thrown into the lions’ den, God will shut all the lions’ mouths!

Be on the alert. “And with this in view, be on the alert with all perseverance and petition for all the saints” (Eph. 6:18). Pray for another person you know each time fear overwhelms you. “Most gladly therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong” (Phil. 12:9–10). After you have prayed for someone, call them and tell them.

Pray for those who persecute you. God also asked that we pray for someone else: our enemies, every one of them. Pray for them and ask God to show you what He wants you to do to bless them. It wasn’t until after Job prayed for his so-called friends that God restored what Job had lost. “And the Lord restored the fortunes of Job when he prayed for his friends, and the Lord increased all that Job had twofold” (Job 42:10). “But I say to you, love your enemies, and pray for those who persecute you.” Jesus goes on to tell you why: “. . . in order that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven” (Matt. 5:44–45).

Know God’s Word

His Word will not come back void. You must know and learn God’s Word. You need to set out to find the blessed promises of God. These principles are from His Word, and when we speak His Word to Him by prayer it will not come back void.

That is His promise to you! “So shall My word be which goes forth from My mouth; it shall not return to Me void (empty), without accomplishing what I desire and without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it” (Isa. 55:11). His desire is that you may overcome the evils in this world. You must do what God Himself guarantees. Accept no imitations or counterfeits.

Search for His principles throughout your Bible. Seek understanding. God says if you seek you will find. God’s Word gives wisdom. Looking deeper into the meaning gives you a better understanding. “And I say to you, ask, and it shall be given to you; seek, and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened to you” (Luke 11:9). And once you know what to do, then you can apply it to your life. “By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established;and by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches” (Prov. 24:3–4).

Read His Word with delight. Mark the verses in your Bible. “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Ps. 37:4). Take the time to mark verses for quick reference in times of distress (or when leading another to the truth). In Luke 4:4–10, how did Jesus answer when Satan was trying to tempt Him? “And Jesus answered him, ‘It is written . . . It is written . . . for it is written . . .’” Use a colored pencil of a specific color for different promises.

Memorize. Meditate day and night. Memorize the promises you find so that the blessed assurance of them may sink into your soul. You must learn and know God’s promises if you ever want to depend on Him alone. “But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. And he will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither; and in whatever he does, he prospers” (Ps. 1:2).

No matter how bad things seem, God is in control. Our comfort is in knowing that God is in control—we are not and Satan certainly is not. “Simon, Simon, behold, Satan has demanded permission to sift you like wheat; but I have prayed for you, that your faith may not fail; and you, when once you have turned again, strengthen your brothers” (Luke 22:31–32).

Sifting. Jesus knew the outcome, yet Peter still had to go through the “sifting” to be ready for God’s calling on his life. Will you be ready when He calls you? “And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” (James 1:4).

Spiritual Warfare

Take your thoughts captive. Your battle will be won or lost in your mind. “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, and we are ready to punish all disobedience, whenever your obedience is complete” (2 Cor. 10:5–6). Don’t play into the enemies’ hands. Don’t entertain evil thoughts. Take them captive!

The Power of Three

Two or three gathered together. Find two other women who will pray with you. “So it came about when Moses held his hand up, that Israel prevailed, and when he let his hand down, Amalek [the enemy] prevailed. But Moses’ hands were heavy. Then they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it; and Aaron and Hur supported his hands, one on one side and one on the other. Thus his hands were steady until the sun set” (Exod. 17:11–12).

Find two other women to hold you up so you won’t become too weary. Pray and ask God to help you find two others who are like-minded. You can find an Encouragement Partner on our website.

The power of three. “And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart” (Eccl. 4:12).

To lift the other up. “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up” (Eccl. 4:9–10).

He is there with you. “For where two or three have gathered together in My name, there I am in their midst” (Matt. 18:20). “Then Nebuchadnezzar the king was astounded and stood up in haste; he responded and said to his high officials, ‘Was it not three men we cast bound into the midst of the fire?’ They answered and said to the king, ‘Certainly, O king.’ He answered and said, ‘Look! I see four men loosed and walking about in the midst of the fire without harm, and the appearance of the fourth is like a son of the gods!’” (Dan. 3:24). You are never alone!

Agreement. “Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven”(Matt. 18:19). When you are wrestling with peace about something, call someone who believes with you and pray in agreement.

Standing in the gap. “And I searched for a man among them who should build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for the land, that I should not destroy it; but I found no one” (Ezek. 22:30).

Pray for one another. “Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much” (James 5:16). Also, confession to a like-minded woman is the best way to obtain a pure heart.

Make your confession. Ezra knew what to do when praying: “Now while Ezra was praying and making confession, weeping and prostrating himself before the house of God . . .” (Ezra 10:1). Keep confessing the truth.

When do you give up praying? Never! We have a wonderful example of the fact that God does not always mean “no” when we don’t have answered prayer.

Your faith is great. The Canaanite woman continued to beg Jesus for her daughter’s healing. The result: “. . . Then Jesus answered and said to her, ‘O woman, your faith is great; be it done for you as you wish.’ And her daughter was healed at once” (Matt. 15:2). When we pray for something that is clearly in God’s will and it seems to have gone unheard, or we think He has said “no,” God may simply mean for us to keep on asking, waiting, pleading, fasting, believing, weeping, and laying ourselves prostate before Him!

The battle for his soulAre you unequally yoked? The real battle in your home is the battle for your husband’s soul! Are you unequally yoked? Remember that you have the promise that “. . . you will be saved, you and all your household” (Acts 11:14). Remember, a husband is sanctified through his wife. “For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife . . . For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband?” (1 Cor. 7:14–17).

Prayer and Fasting

Prayer and fasting. Jesus told His apostles, “But this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting” (Matt. 17:21). If you have been praying fervently and have checked to see if your ways are pure, then fasting may be called for. There are different lengths of fasts:

Three-day fast. Esther fasted “for favor” from her husband the king. She fasted three days “for favor.” “Go, assemble all the Jews who are found in Susa, and fast for me; do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my maidens also will fast in the same way” (Esther 4:16). This fast (or the seven-day fast) has another benefit for those who are contentious or who can never stop talking: you will become too weak to argue!!

Day fast. The day fast begins in the evening after your evening meal. You drink only water until the 24-hour period is complete, then you eat the next day’s evening meal. You fast and pray during this time for your petition. This fast can be done a couple of times a week.

Seven-day fast. There is a fast that is seven days (seven days seems to represent completion). “Now it came about when I heard these words, I sat down and wept and mourned for days; and I was fasting and praying before the God of heaven” (Neh. 1:4). Usually it will be during great sorrow that you are “called” to fast for seven days.

My knees are weak from fasting. When you are hungry or weak, use this time for prayer and reading His Word. “My knees are weak from fasting; and my flesh has grown lean, without fatness” (Ps. 109:24).

In order to be seen. Keep as quiet about your fast as possible. During the fast, you are to be silent, never complaining or drawing attention to yourself. “And whenever you fast, do not put on a gloomy face as the hypocrites do, for they neglect their appearance in order to be seen fasting by men. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full. But you, when you fast, anoint your head, and wash your face so that you may not be seen fasting by men, but by your Father who is in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will repay you” (Matt. 6:16–18).

Many write me because they say they can’t fast. If it is for medical reasons or pregnancy, then fast “any good thing.” If, however, you think you can’t fast because you are working—you are selling yourself and God short!

When the battle has been wonstand and see. Once you know that you have prayed, as we have been reading throughout Scripture, then do as it says: “You need not fight in this battle; station yourselves, stand and see the salvation of the Lord on your behalf” (2 Chron. 20:17).

No one should boast. God says we are a stubborn people. When a battle is won or when the war is over, let us only boast in Him. Let us remain humble. “For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, that no one should boast” (Eph. 2:8–9).

“Do not say in your heart . . . ‘Because of my righteousness the Lord has brought me in to possess this land,’ but because of the wickedness . . . that the Lord is dispossessing them before you. It is not for your righteousness or for the uprightness of your heart that you are going to possess their land, but because of the wickedness of these . . . for you are a stubborn people . . . You have been rebellious against the Lord” (Deut. 9:4–7).

We all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Let us remember this when the battle is won. Our righteousness is nothing but filthy rags. Glory in Him!

Intensity of your trials is a sign that you are close to victory. Your trials may intensify when you are close to gaining the victory. “For this reason, rejoice, O heavens and you who dwell in them. Woe to the earth and the sea, because the devil has come down to you, having great wrath, knowing that he has only a short time” (Rev. 12:12).

You must battle in the proper way. Do what God says; it will work! Don’t try to defend yourself; it creates war and hard hearts. “To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing” (1 Pet. 3:8). Make sure you go the extra mile and bless your husband. Ask God how He wants you to bless him.

This is a spiritual battle. “Do you think that I cannot appeal to My Father, and He will at once put at My disposal more than twelve legions of angels” (Matt. 26:52). Our heavenly Father will call on the angels to battle for your behalf in the “heavenlies” where the “real battle” is waging. “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of wickedness in the heavenly places” (Eph. 6:12).

Your husband is not the enemy. “Do you not know when you present yourselves to someone as slaves of obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin resulting in death, or of obedience resulting in righteousness?” (Rom. 6:16). A person in sin is really just a slave of the devil.

We may think the one who sins is awful, but so are we, if we continue to react with vengeance. (Remember, that belongs to Him alone!) “For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses” (2 Cor. 10:4). Let’s get at the root cause rather than just the symptom.

Be committed. Be committed regardless of the consequences and leave the results to God. “If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the furnace of blazing fire; and He will deliver us out of your hand, O king. But even if He does not, let it be known to you, O king, that we are not going to serve your gods or worship the golden image that you have set up” (Dan. 3:17).

These boys believed that God would deliver them, but regardless of the consequences, they were resolved to obey the Lord anyway. Even if they should die in the furnace, they would do what they knew God wanted them to do and they left the results with God. The boys didn’t die, but the cords that bound them were removed through their walking in the fire. Do you have cords (of sin or worry) that are binding you? God will deliver. It’s His battle! Call on the God of hosts; He is the warrior.

Personal commitment: to use the “keys” God has given me. “Based on what I have learned in Scripture, I commit to using the ‘keys’ that God has given me to fight the spiritual battle that rages before me. I refuse to fight in the flesh, but will instead use prayer and fasting that are ‘divinely powerful’ for the destruction of fortresses that are against my marriage, husband, family, and me.”

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