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RYM: Wk2 Chapter 10 "He Turns the Heart"

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Day 12, Week 2: RYM Chapter 10

"He Turns the Heart"


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From Gloom to Glory in California in Three Months!

Thank my Father in heaven. Praise His holy name! This is the third time I have started this praise report. There is no way I could express enough glory, honor, thanks, and praise to my Lord for the restoration of our marriage!

My husband and I separated on February 3. The Lord led me to Restore Ministries two days later. How's that for God's work? Your ministry opened my eyes to everything I was doing wrong. I found Restore Ministries through a web site called marriagebuilders.com. Someone on one of the message boards asked if anyone knew a web site that had Christian-based support. They had your link there, and I never went back. The Lord's timing is perfect. After reading the book and doing the study, I realized quickly what a mess I had made of my marriage and how I, with my own hands, had torn down my house!

In that short time I had already done so many things wrong. There was so much tension in the house. I was so desperate to make my husband love me again. Almost every other day I would get in his face and tell him how we could make this work. I forced him to make a decision that he wasn't ready to make and he chose divorce. Although at times he would tell me he would always love me—praise the Lord!—he said he just couldn't see us putting our lives back together again.

I told him I forgave him for his sins, but probably mostly out of my own self-righteousness. I even preached to him, which he hated the most. I had already slandered his name and he knew it. I stripped my husband of his place as head of our home. I denied him the right to the pleasure of my body whenever he wanted it. We even tried marriage counseling. The world was telling me I couldn't save my marriage by myself. By the time I found RM I was losing hope fast.

MY sin was ever before me and I no longer dwelled on his sins. Forgiveness and repentance soon followed. I continue to pray that my husband will someday be able to forgive me for all the hurt I've caused him. The Lord is my strength and my Deliverer.

When I found RMI, it was like I regained all the hope I had lost. I cried as I read the introduction because it sounded just like me. Everything you said was exactly what I was feeling. That same day I ordered the book and the study guide with the tapes. As I read the book, my Lord so convicted my heart. I had never understood what "a peace that surpasses all understanding" meant. Now I have it!! God is so good to me. As I read through the book and study guide, I had such a renewed hope, peace, and even joy. I had an understanding of the Bible that I hadn't had before!

Psalm 23 took on a new meaning for me. I knew I had truly forgiven my husband because MY sins were EVER before me. I'd never had such an intimate relationship with God, and I certainly had never fasted before. I started to pray before I did anything. I just wanted the Lord to change me into a godly wife, mother, and woman. I prayed that the Lord would help me with my son, and to keep my house in order.

The "Be Encouraged" videos were tremendous support for me. They either validated what I was already doing or caused me to do something I hadn't thought of. "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." THANK YOU, FATHER IN HEAVEN!

I lost 20 pounds and began to dress differently. I focused my attention on those things I had lost sight of and let go, especially my Lord and Savior. I never talked with my husband about our marital situation unless he brought it up. Otherwise we spoke about our son, the house, or work. Every time after my husband left, I would pray and praise the Lord that He brought him home even for a little while.

God is so good. Though we were separated, my son and I saw my husband often. We continued to be intimate, praise the Lord. Ladies, if it is at all possible, make yourselves available to your husbands— ALWAYS. This was ONE of my sins. My husband continued to meet our financial needs. I paid all our bills together and he always called to make sure things were okay with the house, even coming over to mow the lawn. I have much to be thankful for.

My ePartner was a great encouragement. It was wonderful to have someone to keep me on the path. We would lift each other up during the bad times—when the day was especially tough, or the time I fell. My husband and I had a birthday party for our son. We started talking after everyone left. Of course I spoke too much. We both got angry. Needless to say, I fell on my knees after he left. My partner just picked me up and dusted me off, reminding me that we WILL fall but that it is important to seek the Lord when we do. It was important to me to have someone to believe in my marriage with me.

When my husband asked if he could come back home, I was sort of shocked. I almost felt like I wasn't ready to have him back only because I felt that the LORD's work in me was not done. But HIS timing is always perfect; He restored our marriage suddenly. He knows best. On April 14 my husband asked to come home, and he officially came back on April 30. Thank You, Jesus!!!

Because we (my husband and I) are definitely going through a period of adjustment and there are times when I get that sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, I'm so glad to be getting a new ePartner from the Restored group to keep me on track during this new phase.

Now my focus is that I am standing in the gap for my husband, praying that he would come to a saving knowledge of the Lord. I will not go to church without him; I will wait until he asks me to go with him. The hard thing for me now is carving out time for my Lord and me.

Erin and Dan, I praise the Lord for the calling He placed on your lives. I was blind but now I see!

Husband Comes Home in Nebraska!

I want to thank my Lord and Savior for opening my eyes. Thank you, Erin, for being faithful to tell the truth about how to restore marriages God's way. I was doing and saying things to try to change my husband. I was told to follow the "tough love" tactic and I saw that it only made things worse. It pushed him to the OW.

Then I read the Restore Your Marriage book twice! Easter morning, I asked my husband to forgive me for the mean things I have said to him. After I asked for his forgiveness, I had such peace. I did not have that peace when I was being mean and trying to change things in the flesh.

God has done a mighty work in me. I am no longer that negative and sarcastic person. I gave it ALL to God and stopped doing things in the flesh. I fell in love with Jesus. I showed my husband love when I had a chance to see him. I had total faith in God that He was going to restore our marriage.

I fasted and prayed. I quoted Scriptures daily: “what God has joined together, let no man separate,” and other Scriptures in the Restore Your Marriage book. I knew it wasn't God's will that this marriage be over.

Sunday afternoon, he stopped by to drop something off and I could see the battle and turmoil in him; he looked sad. I fasted and prayed on Monday because I knew it was a spiritual battle. Well, at 1:30 a.m. Tuesday, my husband called and asked if he could stop by to talk to me. He told me he was tired of running and ready to come home. He felt so ashamed. He said he loves me and misses me. He is moving back home today!!!

God can and will change things in an instant. Thank You, Jesus. Thank you, Erin and Dan, for speaking the truth and being faithful to God. May God bless you and your children. For others out there, hang on to Jesus and have faith that He will restore what the devil has taken.

Restored Marriage and a New Baby in Mississippi!

I am rejoicing in the Lord! In my last praise report (see below), I announced the birth of our child and how my husband unexpectedly came to the hospital. After that, praise God, he moved out of the apartment he was renting from the OW and back with his mom.

After that, he called to apologize for what he has done. A few days later, he moved back, declaring that he wanted my son and me back in his life, even if it took the rest of his life to prove it. I thank God for delivering him out of bondage, out of the adulterous relationship with the OW.

During our crisis, we lost our home, so he is living with his mom and I am still at my mom's. We decided that we would begin talking and working through things during his visitations with our son, but God had a different plan. Exactly three weeks after he moved home, we were visiting with the baby. I invited him to my graduation from a 12-week class I had taken at my church called "Purity with a Purpose." He was glad to be there and was even fifteen minutes early. He looked very, very nice.

He was touched during the ceremony; I actually saw tears falling from his eyes. He asked if it was OK if he asked our pastor to pray with our baby, him and me. He said that maybe prayer would help us to move forward in the reconciliation of our marriage. What a wonderful surprise!

I asked him if he was sure and he answered, "YES." We went into the pastor's study, and my pastor and his wife were there. They ministered to him about the importance of family. My husband was so receptive that he was in tears. He admitted that his pride had kept him from coming home, even though he wanted to badly.

Other issues were discussed, and then my pastor asked if he was ready to devote his life to his family. He said “Yes,” and then the pastor asked if we really wanted to reconcile our marriage. We looked into each other's eyes and said, "Yes."

My family was not pleased that he returned and were advising me that I should put distance between us. They wanted me to make him suffer for leaving me before accepting him back, but that is not what I've been praying for or what I am led to do.

My pastor advised us to begin the process of reconciliation that day. He told us we needed to get away and rekindle our relationship. We've made plans, to my family's dismay, but as my pastor said, this is my life, my marriage, and my husband.

Thank God for the reconciliation of my marriage. Thank you, Erin, for Restore Ministries.

God is Merciful and Good!

I am overjoyed as I write as I gave birth to our first son on March 28. He weighed five pounds, twelve ounces. Three weeks before his birth my husband had cut off all communication. I could not get him off my mind, so I began to ask the Lord to put the baby and me on his mind and cause him to contact us. And praise God! My husband called the following morning after three weeks of silence. I was floored—look at God!

We had a wonderful conversation. He asked if he could take me out for dinner and I said, "Yes!" I was modest about it, but I was bursting with joy inside. He told me that it would be two weeks before our date because he was short on cash, but that he was starting a new job.

He told me that he had been thinking about me and wanted to hear my voice. He said that he wanted to reconcile our marriage, but wanted to work and save money so that he would have something to offer when he comes back. He also said that he still considered himself my husband and wanted to work things out if I wanted. He gave me a number to reach him in case of an emergency!

I was in awe of the humility from a man who had walked out on me five months before, disappearing without a trace. Then, he wrote me a heartbreaking email two weeks later to tell me that he didn't want to come back, that he was confused about what he wanted in life and that he was moving closer to his job (the OW). HOWEVER, GOD TURNED his heart back to his son and me which was one of my petitions before the Lord. I thank God for answered prayer!

That week I prayed that my husband would not be satisfied with the other woman and that she would not be satisfied with him. I prayed a hedge of protection around him and that he and the OW would not be able to live peaceably with one another. I prayed, in the name of Jesus, that the OW would become as bitter as wormwood and that she would drive him away. I prayed that something would happen to cause him to move back home with his mom and dad.

God began to answer prayer! With my husband's desire to reconcile our marriage, I sensed that his relationship with the OW was failing. A week went by and I heard nothing, yet I knew that God was working.

While I waited for our date, I prayed that God would give me the words to say that would compel him to come home and that my husband would see the changes God was making in me. As the week rolled on, God was working behind the scenes! It turned out that my husband and I wouldn't have to wait three weeks to see one another.

I went in for a prenatal appointment and my blood pressure was very high. My doctor checked to see if I was in pre-term labor. After it was determined that I had not dilated, my doctor sent me to the hospital to monitor my blood pressure. I was told that if it did not stabilize I could have toxemia. After a few hours of monitoring, my blood pressure had not regulated and it was expected I would deliver the next day.

My mom called my husband's grandmother to tell her I was in the hospital. Later, my husband's mother called. I informed her that I could be giving birth the next day and she asked if I wanted her to contact my husband. I told her to wait until I knew for sure that the doctor was going to induce labor because I did not want him to make an unnecessary trip. She said that she was calling. I did not expect her to find him or him to come, but I was awakened by the squeaking of a door as my husband walked in. I was in shock! He wanted to be with me and make sure I was going to be OK. He stayed the night and the next day. I was induced at 3:13 p.m. with my husband by my side.

He carried our baby to the nursery and then brought him back to recovery to be with me. He told me that I did a good job and that he was proud of me. He stayed two more nights and left to go to work. He confessed many things he had done wrong to my mother. He kept expressing how sorry he was for all the wrong he had done to me. He told me he wanted to make things right and be there for the baby and me if I would have him back. I accepted his apology and told him yes, but that we had to take things slowly as we have a lot of healing to do.

He told me that today he moved in with his mom and dad! Thank You, Lord, that he no longer lives with the OW. I asked him what happened and he said he would explain this weekend. Thank God for my husband's deliverance from the other woman!

Thank God for turning my husband's heart back to his child and me. Lord, turn his heart toward You, also! Thank God for Erin for Restore Ministries. The biblical principles you have shared really are effective. God bless you and your family.

Restored for Good in Pennsylvania!

Praise the Lord—my husband has come home! My husband, who was living with an OW, came into our house unexpectedly last week and said, "Hello," and then asked, "Would you come and help me get my things out of the car?"

When God moves, He moves suddenly! We have not talked about what happened, but it does not matter. What matters is that God did it. He brought my husband home!

Although I am undeserving, God has shown His infinite grace and mercy to me. I would not say we are completely restored just yet, but my husband is home. I know God will continue to work toward full restoration.

God is so good! All praise and glory goes to the Lord!

Three weeks later...

My husband has been home for three weeks now. Praise the Lord. I waited a while to write again to make sure his stay was permanent. In the last two years, he has left three times for the OW.

This time is different, though. I know this is it. My husband is home for good! He has been so kind and loving toward me. He talks about our future together. Just last night he said something about our future children. He was at our family Easter dinner and it was like he never left. He joked with my family just like old times.

He refinanced our house and has worked on getting us almost completely out of debt. He also mentioned that he wanted to learn more about repairing and doing home improvement.

God is so wonderful! I used to worry about everything, but not anymore. After what I have seen the Lord do, how could I ever worry again? I know that He will take care of everything. All I have to do is trust and obey. All praise and glory go to the Lord. I never again want to live without Him!

Restored in Florida!

I just moved into our new home with my husband after being separated for one year! I cannot begin to explain all of the wonderful miracles God has given me over the past twelve months. Every single prayer that I brought before God was answered above and beyond what I could ever ask or imagine!

The most current miracles are that my husband asked just yesterday where his Bible was! He has been constantly telling me how beautiful I am and how much he appreciates me! We are expecting our first child and he has shown concern and affection as I have never seen from him. I mean when God answers prayers, He really answers prayers (smile).

I would also like to apologize to you who are still believing for your marriages for not giving my praise report earlier. I know how encouraging it was for me to come to the website and read the praise reports of restored marriages. They always increased my faith in God and gave me hope that one day I would be writing my praise report of a restored marriage.

Keep on praying until you get your breakthrough. To God be ALL the glory!

Another Canada Restoration! Isn't God Amazing!

I must praise my Jesus! He is so faithful! My husband is home now! He has not once mentioned the OW or leaving again!

I know my God is faithful! I am so happy to have my hubby home! Things are not perfect and we have lots to work on, but I know God will help us and get us through!! I am believing for complete healing and restoration of our marriage and home! As I continue to stand on God's promises, I know He will see us through. God bless all of you, and do not give up!!

I am writing to report that God has miraculously restored my marriage!!! All praise, glory and honor to Him! I am working on the whole story and I will send it in very soon.

What would you do if your pastor were counseling your close friend NOT to do all the things you have been taught from the Word? And what would you do if she started to apply the biblical principles anyway and had her marriage restored, and then left the church at her husband's request? What would you do if that man were YOUR husband? Well, I can and will answer all of those questions. I have seen the mighty hand of God, and He has brought two others to me to tutor as I am learning to walk in radical obedience!

I have pored over all the resources and am hearing God's call to minister to incarcerated women. God can do ANYTHING!

Restored in Canada! All Praise, Glory and Honor to Him!

I am writing to report that God has miraculously restored my marriage!!! All praise, glory and honor to Him! I am working on the whole story and I will send it in very soon.

What would you do if your pastor was counseling your close friend to NOT do all the things you have been taught from the Word and that we ARE to do to have God restore our marriages? And what would you do if she started to apply the biblical principles anyway and had her marriage restored, and then left the church at her husband's request?

What would you do if that man was YOUR husband? Well, I can and will answer all of those questions. I have seen the mighty hand of God, and He has brought two others to me to tutor as I am learning to walk in radical obedience!

God can do ANYTHING! I have pored over all the resources, as you know from your records, and am hearing God's call to minister to incarcerated women.

Our God is Amazing! Restored in Ohio!

God truly is amazing! What a journey He has taken me on to show me His love and truth. Briefly, about nine short weeks ago, my husband told me that he was not happy in our marriage, had not loved me for a long time, and needed a change. I discovered that there was another woman.

Initially, that sent me into a spiral of revenge and vindictiveness. Upon hearing the gory details from the OW's husband, I shamed my husband in the worst possible way—I told one of his coworkers, his family, several of my friends, and even the jeweler where my husband had bought jewelry for me over the years! I cleaned out the safety deposit box and savings account, took all financial records, and sought the best lawyer money could buy.

After I came to your website and ordered some materials, God COMPLETELY changed MY heart. I saw how my sins had caused strife in our marriage. God showed me what I had to do—repent and ask forgiveness, starting with my husband.

I asked my husband to forgive me for my contentiousness and for my slandering mouth as well as other sins I had committed to destroy our marriage. I apologized to all parties I had told, emphasizing my sins in dishonoring my husband. I also released my lawyer, gave back all financial records, and then didn't put another thought into how my children and I would manage financially (it is in God's powerful hands, not mine).

I apologized to my husband for slandering the OW to my friends and prayed for blessings for her, for my husband, and for my husband's family and acquaintances. I spent hours in prayer, fasting, and meditation, asking God to change, mold, and shape me according to His will.

My husband still proceeded down the path of separation. He secured an apartment and bought all new furnishings. We even refinanced the house so he could afford his new place. The more cruel and distant he became, the more I clung to God.

Last Friday, my husband moved out. I can only describe what I experienced as the supernatural peace one can receive only from God. At the time in my life that I should have been most despondent, I felt utterly content and joyful because I knew that no matter what happened, God was with me. I have NEVER felt such peace!

My husband called over the weekend; in the course of the conversation, I "released" him, as I gave my future to God. On Monday night, he came to see the children and to put them to bed. In the morning, I found a letter from him apologizing for what he has put me through!

Yesterday, he called from work and asked to work things out! He is moving out of his apartment today (a four-day stay was enough!) and will be coming home tonight! God changed his heart—it is true!

God has transformed me and has turned the heart of my husband. It is true that when one hands over one's life to God, life is so much easier and more enjoyable! God has the eyes to see our future. I am so glad that I placed my life in His hands. What an awesome God!

Restored in West Virginia—Never Give Up!

Don't give up on your marriage! No matter how hard things seem, God is working and testing you to see if you are ready. There were a few times I failed the tests, but I always asked for forgiveness and did not give up.

I just praise God for all that He has done in my life and for taking my husband away for a short while. It made me appreciate my husband more and learn more about my Lord and myself.

My husband has been home since December, and we are expecting our first child in two days! Previously, my pregnancies (three of them) ended in miscarriages. I praise the Lord for this child and pray that he is a healthy baby.

How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage was so wonderful. That book is what started changing my life and getting me closer to God. I learned so much. The second book I ordered was the workbook for women, which interested me in the child discipline area. As I said, I am pregnant and due in two days and I never knew how or if I was going to discipline my child. This will be my first child born and I praise God for that. My three miscarriages occurred when my husband and I were just dating. I still wonder sometimes if that was the reason I miscarried. Anyway, the most recent book I ordered was “Workers at Home,” which is helping me in my household. I still have some work to do in that area!

I have seen so many changes in my husband since God began changing me (it took a little while). He is more loving and kind, and we have had no arguments! When I feel that Satan is trying to make me doubt and not trust my husband (which he will), I just pray.

I pray for all of you who come to Restore Ministries, that you not give up, no matter what the circumstances, no matter how poorly you think your husband is treating you, and no matter what everyone else says. PRAISE THE LORD IN EVERYTHING!!!! I am telling you not to give up; it is all worth it in the end!

Thank you for this site and thank God for my husband!

— Chapter 10 —

He Turns the Heart

The king’s heart is like channels of water

in the hand of the Lord;

He turns it wherever He wishes.

—Proverbs 21:1


Has everyone told you that your husband has his own will; therefore, he may “choose” not to return to you?

When trying to restore your marriage, you will be bombarded (as everyone else is who is trying to restore their marriage) by the onslaught of those who will tell you that it is your husband’s choice and his “free will” to choose to leave you or to be with another woman. Praise the Lord, this is not the truth!!

When I searched for the answers to this dilemma of the will of man versus God’s will, I found that the Bible continually referred to “God’s will” without mentioning man’s will.

Let me show you what He showed me:

It’s not man’s will but God’s will!!

“He does His will . . .” (Dan. 4:31).

“He bestows it on whomever He wishes . . .” (Dan. 4:25).

“God is able to deliver . . .” (Dan 3:17).

Consider Nebuchadnezzar. After his pride caused him to crawl like an animal, he said of God, “He does according to His will in the host of heaven and among the inhabitants of earth; and no one can ward off His hand or say to Him, ‘What have You done?’” (Dan. 4:35). Is this not the same God who still does according to His will? Is your husband greater than King Nebuchadnezzar?

Consider also Jonah. Jonah was unwilling to do what God wanted him to do, but God made him willing. “And the Lord appointed a great fish to swallow Jonah, and Jonah was in the stomach of the fish three days and three nights” (Jonah 1:17). God is more than able to make your husband willing!!

Lastly, consider Paul. “Now Saul, [was] still breathing threats and murder against the disciples of the Lord . . . Suddenly a light from heaven flashed around him . . . and Saul got up from the ground, and though his eyes were open, he could see nothing . . . ‘The Lord Jesus . . . has sent me so that you may regain your sight and be filled with the Holy Spirit.’ And immediately there fell from his eyes something like scales, and he regained his sight, and he arose and was baptized” (Acts 9:1–18).

God is more than able to change your husband in an instant!! I have seen it done countless times, with my own husband and with many other husbands!If you say “But you don’t know my husband,” I would say—you don’t know God!! He changed you, didn’t He?


Turning the Heart

You will hear pastors and other Christians say that it is your husband’s will to leave you, divorce you, or be with another woman. We just learned in Scripture that it is not man’s will but God’s will.

It may be your husband’s will to leave you, divorce you, or be with someone else. Nevertheless, God can change his heart!

We don’t need to worry about his will. Instead, we need to pray for our husbands’ heart to be turned. “The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the Lord; He turns it wherever He wishes” (Prov. 21:1).

Pray that God will give him a new heart and replace his heart of stone with a heart of flesh! “Moreover, I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; and I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh” (Ezek. 36:26).

The first step in turning your husband’s heart is to find God’s promises, His truths, and then meet the conditions of those promises. These are the verses that I memorized and used to turn my husband’s heart back to me.

“When man’s ways are pleasing to the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him” (Prov. 16:7).

“Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Ps. 37:4).

“Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him and He will do it” (Ps. 37:5).

“Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you” (Matt. 6:33).

Remember, you need to put God first in your life; He never wants to be second place to anything or anyone. Once He is first, you will begin to be transformed into His image. That is when you will begin to see your husband’s heart turn back to you.

If you struggle with this principle of man’s will versus God’s will, you will need to renew your mind with the verses in this chapter to overcome the doubts of the “man’s will theology” and replace it with God’s focus, which is the heart!

Let’s look at the Scriptures that I found that tell us how God changed the hearts of men and even kings:

“He put this in the king’s heart . . .” (Ezra 7:27–28).

“He hardened the hearts of the Egyptians . . .” (Exod. 14:17).

“The Lord hardened Pharaoh’s heart . . .” (Exod. 10:27).

“The Lord turns the heart wherever He wishes . . .” (Prov. 21:1).


In the book of Proverbs we learn wisdom.

Proverbs 1:2–7 lists the benefits of knowledge:

To know wisdom.

To receive instruction.

To receive instruction in wise behavior.

Also instruction in righteousness, justice, and equity.

Prudence to the naive.

To the youth, knowledge.


Husbands Who Are Unwilling

Not all husbands return home even after God turns their hearts. Many husbands, unfortunately, go against their hearts because their wives are the same women they chose to leave. Once again, God is more than able to turn your husband’s heart back to you. If you are still contentious, kindness is not on your tongue, you do not exhibit a gentle and quiet spirit, then once his heart turns toward you, the old you will cause him to harden his heart and make a mental decision rather than a heart decision!

Make sure you read and reread this book over and over again! Make sure you live in the Word. Make sure you spend hours daily with your face to the ground, seeking His face. You must be a new woman for your husband to want to follow his heart and come home! Remember, the reason your husband has left or has gotten caught by an adulteress is that your home was not built on the rock. It was divided; it was torn down by your words and your attitude—in other words, your contentiousness or arrogance.

Let’s look at Proverbs and some New Testament Scriptures:

Her own hands. “The wise woman builds her house but the foolish tears (or “plucks” in the KJV) it down with her own hands” (Prov. 14:1).

House of the proud. “The Lord will tear down the house of the proud” (Prov. 14:1).

House divided against itself. “Any kingdom or house divided against itself is laid waste: and any city or house divided against itself shall not stand . . .” (Matt. 12:25).

Yet it did not fall. “Therefore, everyone who hears these words of Mine, and acts upon them, may be compared to a wise man, who built his house upon the rock. And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and burst against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded upon the rock” (Matt. 7:24–25).

Built together. “. . . Christ Jesus being the cornerstone, in whom the whole building, being fitted together, is growing into a holy temple in the Lord; in whom you also are being built together into a dwelling of God in the Spirit . . .” (Eph. 2:21).

Let no man separate. “And He answered and said, ‘Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh’? Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate” (Matt. 19:4–6).

God has promised to heal, restore, and create praise on your lips! “’Because of the iniquity of his unjust gain I was angry and struck him; I hid My face and was angry, and he went on turning away, in the way of his heart. I have seen his ways, but I will heal him; I will lead him and restore comfort to him and to his mourners, creating the praise of the lips. Peace, peace to him who is far and to him who is near,’ says the Lord, ‘and I will heal him’” (Isa. 57:17–19).

“For perhaps he was for this reason parted from you for a while, that you should have him back forever, no longer as a slave [of sin], but more than a slave, a beloved brother, especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord” (Phlm. 1:15–16).

Seek the Lord to break and allow the Lord to change and transform you so that when (not if) God turns your husband’s heart, he will see a new you! (See A Wise Woman for help.)


Nothing is impossible for God!

The Lord turns the heart wherever He wishes!


Personal commitment: to ask God to turn my husband’s heart and not to fear the will of man. “Based on what I have learned in Scripture, I commit to trusting the Lord to turn my husband’s heart. I dispel the lie that my husband has a free will and the lie that therefore God will not intervene on my behalf nor answer my prayers. Instead, I believe that my ‘husband’s will’ will follow after God turns his heart back home.”

If you are ready to make this commitment to GOD, by CLICKING HERE you've agreed, and are ready to document this part of your Restoration Journey in your "My Daily Journal" form.

Also, if you want to be paired with a LIKE-MINDED ePartner after your Rebuilding, be SURE to pour out your heart in EACH Journal.