“'For the Lord has called you, Like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit, Even like a wife of one’s youth when she is rejected,' Says your God.
“For your husband is your Maker, whose name is the LORD of hosts; and your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, who is called the God of all the earth. For the LORD has called you, like a wife forsaken and grieved in spirit, even like a wife of one’s youth when she is rejected, says your God”—Isaiah 54:4-6
Though we began calling RF “Restoration Fellowship” a “church without walls” because it was a virtual church without walls, we began to understand that our RF Members ARE His church—the women themselves are His church, His bride, who were tearing down walls in their lives.
Now we have proof, not only in our own lives, but based on each of our members who are living these truths with our whole heart—He can become everything you'll ever want or need too!!
Every single one of our RF Members had been “forsaken,” “grieved” and “rejected” by their earthly husbands. Yet, the more they learned they were His church, His bride, the more they were able to experience His LOVE for themselves— once they let go of everything and everyone else and took Him as their Husband in every sense of the word.
TEMPLE of the Holy Spirit
“...just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless" —Ephesians 5:25-27
As you can see His Church is clearly not a building that Christ loved and gave Himself up for. It is YOU who He wants to sanctify and cleanse from all the pain and shame of your past. Shame that was done to you and shameful things you fell into yourself. Experiencing His love will make you new, holy (which actually means “set apart”) and blameless! How wonderful is that?!?!?
Pastors would agree that when the “church” first began they did NOT meet in a “church” building but instead would meet or “fellowship” in each other’s homes.
It was not until decades later when, like so much else, His people wanted what everyone else had—a building to worship in. Rather than calling it a synagogue (which translates to "assembly") like the Jewish people, they named their building a "church." This meant that, that place, that “church” was where they would primarily worship—no longer worshipping and spending time with Him in their homes or when they met together.
And sadly, this is when the “church” became just another "religion" rather than being the "relationship" He longs to have with each of us.
“Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the LORD is a God of justice; how blessed are all those who long for Him”—Isaiah 30:18.
Christians no longer long for HIM. Instead His bride longs for fellowship within church walls, a couple of days a week, which has become a social club. Sadly, each of His brides is now missing the true relationship that fills each of their needs DAILY and moment by moment—like a true love relationship should have.
Forming a religious “church” also led to believers being restricted to being taught and learning about the Lord to just one or two days a week: Sundays and later, midweek, Wednesdays.
This change ultimately resulted in the church becoming spiritually weak—who of us eats just twice a week? And also when the “church” became a "religion" rather than a relationship with Him—people began to seek after what other "religions" had to offer them. And even worse, fellowshipping was primarily with other church members rather than with the Lord Himself.
For our relationship with the Lord to grow, we cannot and should not be restricted to Sundays and Wednesdays. Nor should we ruin the experience of knowing Him by adding any rules or tasks to check off as a morning "ritual" like reading the Bible. Reading His Word, understanding it is His love letters to us, will make us yearn and thirst for Him. “As the deer pants for the water brooks, so my soul pants for Thee, O God.” Psalm 42:1.
RF focuses instead on learning how to enhance our RELATIONSHIP with the Lord, not just our Savior. And, more importantly, helping you become His Bride, with Him as your Husband.
Our goal is not to attack churches, but to simply allow women to understand that THEY are His church. Thus, WE are His Bride and as such He longs for us to fellowship with Him all day, every day. And when we speak to others, we can’t help but share what He is doing in our lives, which is what "witnessing" really means. And when we do, because of the excitement in our hearts, without even trying, we will be encouraging other women to also become His church, His bride.
“Once I knew the Lord as my Husband, God began doing miracles with my relationships in my family - I’m able to share with my Mom about how we come to know God, as our Lover, Friend, Lord, King, and Husband, and she is enjoying it (at the beginning she was very against it and thought that I’m getting crazy, because nobody knows God in this way in my family). A year ago, when I left my church and began to translate the RYM book and I told my family about it, everyone was condemning, criticizing, and scoffing at me, nobody understood that He called me to be set apart. Now, a year later, the situation is so calm. Nobody laughs, nobody is challenging, even my dad always asks me if I have some work I have to finish. I am happy that I am able to help and passed through a hot furnace, which was very hot, but now I see only His blessings, His peace and joy in my restored relationships with my family.” ~ Amalia in Poland
It’s so true, again, "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst”—Matthew 18:20
That’s another thing that we find happening with our members. Each and every time RF members talk to anyone, no matter where we are, we can't help but bring Him up, speak HIS name, tell others what He's doing in our lives and therefore HE is in our midst—therefore we are experiencing and, in a way, having "church" everywhere!!!!
The word "preach" actually translates and means to "proclaim" and the word "gospel" actually translates to the "Good News."
Let me ask you. Wasn't it "Good News" when you heard and later experienced how much the Lord LOVED you—not to mention finding the Abundant Life, and later, when we die how thrilling to know we will be spending eternity with Him?!?!?
"Many will say to Me on that day, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?' And then I will declare to them, 'I NEVER KNEW YOU' depart from Me you who practice lawlessness"—Matthew 7:22-23.
While traveling through Asia I met a woman who couldn’t understand this concept. So I explained, “Before I came here to Singapore, you felt you knew me based on reading my books and watching my videos over and over. So, when I arrived at the airport you recognized me immediately and felt such love for me that you ran up and hugged me.
However, it wasn’t until I was able to spend time with YOU, listening to you, ministering to you personally that I began to know and love you. And now, since our time spent together, our relationship is so much different and why you are so encouraged and at peace—full of joy.
“**This is why it’s not learning more “about” the Lord, but allowing Him to know you personally because you’ll also be able to experience His love for you.”
This is our goal in Restoration Fellowship. Each week on Sundays, Restoration Fellowship sends out Weekly Messages or a book we are reading together and discuss. Each week Erin and other Ministers share more about what He’s taught them personally and what has helped them walk with Him moment by moment, day by day—so their life is joyful and is able to touch other lives.
Though the weekly messages are powerful and thought provoking, the most important part of each message, is that they give us the tools and the encouragement to make a date to discuss these things with the Lord. So, just like women began meeting and knowing Erin personally and her knowing women personally, you will have this opportunity to get to know the Lord—and allow Him to know you!
In May 2005 our Restoration Fellowship became a "Ministry for Women Only." Only a few months later, women from around the world began writing to tell Erin that they considered her as their pastor and that Restoration Fellowship was their true "church" in every sense of the word.
Feeling a bit uncomfortable, when Erin went to Him about this, He reminded her of John 21:17 where He said to Peter: “Do you love me?” so he answered, “Master, you know everything there is to know. You’ve got to know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Feed my sheep.”
That’s when the focus of Restoration Fellowship shifted to making sure women were spiritually fed daily—not just weekly or bi-weekly as most “churches” feed their flock. And it was from being fed DAILY, through our Daily Encourager, which we offer to everyone, not just RF Members when we saw so many women began learning about His love, and learning how His principles really worked. That’s when we saw the enthusiasm changed desiring an even greater and deeper and more personal desire to have a deep relationship with the Lord—understanding that He is calling each of us to be His bride! And that’s when more marriages to earthly husbands were being restored too!
It was through Restoration Fellowship where women, who were like-minded and falling in love with the Lord and His Word, began to help strengthen each other’s commitment and ability to travel along their Restoration Journey. And also— to help each woman learn how to travel with the Lord guiding each of us—thus strengthening our relationship with Him even more!
Very soon our RF members said their friends and their family began to comment on the joy they saw on their faces and positive changes happening in their lives. And in response, our RF members began to share that the change happened when they were spiritually fed the truth and His promises daily, and that through this they understood even more that they were His church—His bride that He is coming back for!
Becoming His Church, His Bride, we believe, will also help us begin to tear down our own walls that we built to protect ourselves, and what has walled everyone else out: family, friends and our husbands. Becoming His bride, experiencing His love, is how we can easily begin tearing down the walls of our heart—so that others around us can feel our love, due to the love we are getting from our Heavenly Husband!
It was through RF that women also learned about tithing to their new storehouse because RF was where each was being wonderfully spiritually fed: nourished and strengthened—usually for the first time in their lives!!! And that is what led to the devourer being rebuked, so the blessings would flow—like more and more marriages being restored.
"Being part of this internet Fellowship has helped change in the short amount of time that I have known it. My life has changed so much in this past week more than it has in the past few years combined." Author of Erica Kramer.
"I just wanted to let you know that what God has put into Erin to make this fellowship possible has really been a true blessing to my family and I. I have finally found my one real true love and that is my Lord Jesus Christ! I just can't express the joy that I feel right now with everything (I am in awe)" ~ Victoria
During my Restoration Journey, I moved back home to my parents due to financial problems I was suffering from. I soon let go of my church. This caused many conversations with my parents about not going to church. But they were seeing the changes He was making in me. I lived with my parents for about 2 years and during those 2 years, He allowed me to heal more and more AND He also healed my parent’s hearts too. He filled my heart with love and peace and I longed for more and more time with just Him!! ~ Leslie
Though you may still be attending a local church, there is no doubt that your church failed to spiritually feed you the truth, just as our “church” failed us. Our local “church” did NOT give us what would have prevented our marriage crisis, which is why our marriages failed too—and why He led us to find RMIEW. We became spiritually starved and we watched our lives and futures die a slow painful death.
Yet even worse than withholding the truth about marriages, “churches” focus on religion, not the relationship. In other words, religiously doing things and religiously following rules. Instead, what changes us and changes others, is when we experiencing the true love that only HE can give us and when we automatically begin to change and be cleansed from the inside out. So we can instead not just follow Him (instead of following rules) but walk side-by-side with Him.
This is not the focus of today’s “church.” Because of this, the “church” has built denominational walls that separate believers. It’s only when we each tear down our own denominational and religious walls that we will see what He has for each of us. Once we turn our focus to having a loving relationship with Him, He will begin to tear down the walls of our hearts. We simply need to begin to focus on Him and Him alone—thus changing our lives and the lives of everyone around us.
* And this is why God made this startling statement about the organized church in Revelation 2:4: “But I have this against you, that you have left your first love.”
Restore Ministries’ goal has always been to encourage each woman to be spiritually fed and spiritually strengthened with the truth—and to build YOU up spiritually. Then when you are spiritually strong enough, overflowing with the truth and His love, He may ask you to return to your former “church” members who need Him as much as you did and always will.
“My husband let me back and now I have started attending church again. I continue focusing on my relationship with the Lord. It is true what Erin says, that restoration is very difficult :) so having Him is more important now. I thank you all for all your support and encouragement.”
~ Valerie in Illinois Restored
Restore Testimony “He Used YOU to Change My Life!!”
Let me ask a question, do you believe your husband can fully experience your love as long as he is unwilling to let go of the OW? Well, in the very same way, you can’t fully experience His love until you’re willing to let go of where you’re finding comfort—your local “church.”
However, once you’ve let go, then you’ll find you can experience more of Him, more of His love and also more of His truth and promises. By subscribing to our Daily Encourager and taking our free Daily Lessons, AND also through our Weekly Fellowship newsletter—you will begin to be made new!
“Therefore, if anyone is united with the Anointed One, that person is a new creation. The old life is gone—and see—a new life has begun!”—2 Corinthians 5:17
Below are the 3 important resources our Fellowship Ministers use to spiritually feed themselves and women they meet—helping them to heal their hurts and mend their lives—to the point of being spiritually strong and transformed into His glowing Bride.
AND also by letting go of your local “church” and really becoming HIS church, His bride, which the Bible says each of us are called to be—you will be gaining the spiritual wisdom you will need to complete your Restoration Journey easily. Taking His hand and knowing how to follow Him, will make your Restoration Journey not only easier but enjoyable!!
Take a moment to read how many women once struggled to let go of their church, but once they did, soon afterwards, were blessed with a Restored Marriage. Letting go of your Church .
Once you’re able to let go and trust the Lord fully for your spiritual growth, you will then be able to embrace the truth that YOU really are HIS church, His bride, AND that He has given each of us the Ministry of Reconciliation, meaning—helping other women find their Heavenly Husband.
Only then will women experience the Love each deserves and have their wounded hearts healed. Finding My Heavenly Husband.