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04 April 2018

posted Apr 16, 2018, 4:18 PM by Web Master2


(I thought) Spring was on the way!! : )

Well it is April…Time for “House cleaning” of all kinds!    Enjoy these highlights from the April issue!

If your meeting does not have a subscription, please order a copy of the FORUM for them.  My goal is for each meeting in the State of Maine to have a subscription!  If you are not able to pay for a subscription…. Please message me and we will be giving 22 subscriptions away in the next year !!

APRIL 2018

If we cannot get to a meeting….If we are in a crisis…To look up help on a certain subject…

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has CAL affected your recovery? A little bird told me if you write on the CONCEPTS or TRADITIONS you have a good chance of being published!!  It can be a fun time for your Group to get together! Send comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is 15th of each month!


S-1 District is holding a FORUM writing workshop on Saturday, June 9th from 9:30-12:00 noon

At Holy Cross Lutheran Church in Kennebunk! 3 Lord Street.


APRIL IS ALCOHOLISM AWARENESS MONTH


STEP 4        “Made a  S E A R C H I N G and  FEARLESS moral inventory of ourselves”


This step seems intimidating ….  But with the help of a SPONSOR and the BLUEPRINT for PROGRESS…..It is just another growth opportunity….AND the keys to the kingdom!


TRADITION 4   “Each Group should be autonomous, except in matters affecting another Group or Al=-Anon or AA as a whole”

This speaks about how we all can have our own opinions but still work together as a whole.




CONCEPT 4   “Participation is the key to harmony”

What a wonderful concept! We are “trusted servants” we do not govern.  We encourage all opinions to be heard, for everyone to participate. Our service positions rotate!





Al-Anon’s convention is on July 6-8th 2018 in Baltimore,MD  www.al-anon.org/international


Maine’s Summer Convention Is August 23-26th at Ferry Beach in Sacco!  Check out the Maine

AFG website for all the details!!




02 February 2018

posted Feb 13, 2018, 2:57 AM by Web Master2   [ updated Feb 13, 2018, 2:58 AM ]

The Winter is here!  Happy February!!

Hello!  Enjoy these highlights from the Forum! During these chilly winter months consider writing a piece to submit to the Forum for publication!!  They are always looking for members to share their experience, strength and hope!!  Writing guidelines are online!!

If your meeting does not have a subscription, please order one for them.  My goal is for each meeting in the State of Maine to have a subscription!  If you are not able to pay for a subscription…. Please message me and we will be giving several free subscriptions away in the next month as some wonderful Al-Anon member donated $55 to pay for 5 Forum subscriptions!!

February 2018

If we cannot get to a meeting….If we are in a crisis…To look up help on a certain subject…

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has CAL affected your recovery? A little bird told me if you write on the CONCEPTS or TRADITIONS you have a good chance of being published!!  It can be a fun time for your Group to get together! Send comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is 15th of each month!


This month’s message is “Recovery through Laughter!!” Annie from Florida shares how the laughter in the rooms…despite everyone’s pain…has taught her to lighten up.


Dr. Don from Ohio shares his struggle and agony over his son’s addiction. Realizing that even with all he knew, he could not save his own son’s life.  But Al-Anon saved him.


Teri, from CO, shares about out this year’s conference theme “There is No standing still”

in Al-Anon. She shares about her time in service and how it gave her Al-Anon journey a sense of purpose.


There is a GREAT piece on learning to care for ourselves! Charlotte, from Georgia, shares of her journey and what it took to FINALLY put the focus on herself and heal.




Al-Anon’s convention is on July 6-8th 2018 in Baltimore,MD  www.al-anon.org/international


Remember you can go to www.alanon.org/18membersurvey  to complete the 2018 member survey!  They need YOUR input!


STEP 2    Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

    We “came” then we “came to” then we “came to believe”!!


Tradition 2   Honoring the decisions that the group makes is so important.  Our Group conscience is the way we handle that.


Concept 2  Talks about authority and responsibility….And how many hands make for light work.


Alateen celebrates 60 years!!  Consider being an Alateen sponsor, ordering some Alateen literature for your Al-Anon meetings or dropping some Alateen literature off at your local JR and SR High school!  Remember we WELCOME teens into our Al-Anon meetings and want them to feel welcome!


Here is a subscription for to the Forum!



01 January 2018

posted Jan 7, 2018, 3:13 PM by Web Master2



The New Year  Is here….JANUARY FORUM!

Hello!  Enjoy these highlights from the Forum! Please consider ordering yourself a personal copy for only $11 for 12 months!  If your meeting does not have one, order one for them as well!  If you are not able to pay for a subscription…. Please message me and we will be giving several free subscriptions away in the next month as some wonderful Al-Anon member donated $55 to pay for 5 Forum subscriptions!!

January 2018

So many of us have been helped by a piece of Conference Approved Literature! Consider holding a writing workshop before or after one of your meetings!

If we cannot get to a meeting….If we are in a crisis…To look up help on a certain subject…

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has CAL affected your recovery? A little bird told me if you write on the CONCEPTS or TRADITIONS you have a good chance of being published!!  It can be a fun time for your Group to get together! Send comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is 15th of each month!

 

I hope everyone had a healthy and happy holiday season!!  While the rest of the world marks the New Year with resolutions… We in Al -Anon are fortunate enough to know that we can “begin again” any time!!  What a gift!

 

God’s Will and the power to carry it out is a great anonymous story from a woman who was brought to her knees and finally had to hand her life over to her HP and trust that she would be ok.

 

There is a GREAT section on MEN & SPONSORSHIP

 

Janet from Wisconsin shares how she learned to LET GO OF HER alcoholic son….The struggle….the gift.

 

Another anonymous member shares how Al-Anon helped her get through the unthinkable tragedy of her husband of 30 yrs being murdered. An amazing share.

 

 

 

There is a focus on REACHING FOR PERSONAL FREEDOM and how members appreciate really digging deep with the questions on the steps, traditions and concepts.

 

Pat from Oregon shares about her “Toolbox” called Al-Anon!!

 

Al-Anon’s convention is on July 6-8th 2018 in Baltimore,MD  www.al-anon.org/international

 

There is a great piece on WHY we need to work our program!! Paula from Arizona shares about complacency and how valuable her sponsor is!

 

Remember you can go to www.alanon.org/18membersurvey  to complete the 2018 member survey!  They need YOUR input!

 

STEP 1     Helpless or Powerless? Definitely NOT helpless!! Just POWERLESS over people/places/things!!

 

Tradition 1   “Our common welfare” is soooo important. Participating in the UNITY is the key.

 

Concept 1   “My opinion has value”….  This share relates Concept 1 to her own family…With each member having their role.+

 

 

Alateen celebrates 60 years!!  Consider being an Alateen sponsor, ordering some Alateen literature for your Al-Anon meetings or dropping some Alateen literature off at your local JR and SR High school!  Remember we WELCOME teens into our Al-Anon meetings and want them to feel welcome!

 

Wishing everyone a safe and peaceful winter.

08 August 2017

posted Aug 14, 2017, 1:49 AM by Web Master2   [ updated Sep 25, 2017, 6:07 PM ]

Hello!  Enjoy these highlights from the Forum! Please consider ordering yourself a personal copy for only $11 for 12 months!  If your meeting does not have one, order one for them as well!  The best value evah!

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CAL Corner: “Opening our hearts, Transforming our Losses” (B-29) speaks about ALL losses…not just physical…but financial….as well as loss of our Dreams…The book also makes references to other pieces of our CAL.  A wonderful addition to anyone’s recovery library.

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon” (B-6) , “Reaching For Personal Freedom” (P-92), or “Paths to Recovery” (P-93) helped you in your recovery? PLEASE SHARE!! By sending comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is September 15th 2017.

STEP 8: Seeing my Patterns  C L E A R L Y….  Made a list of all persons we have harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all”

Pamela D from Washington shares how she noticed as she worked through Step 8 that she had an over- inflated sense of power. “As I worked through the list, patterns emerged” she shares. She realized that Step 8 is not about punishing herself or apologies, but more about honestly assessing real harm, opposed to “imagined harm.”


TRADITION 8: Finding my True Identity. Every group ought to be fully self –supporting, declining outside contributions.

Lisa R. from Wisconsin shares how tradition 8 gets rid of “labels and expectations.” This tradition gives her the freedom to be just Lisa, the Al-Anon member, instead of “Lisa the Computer tech.” This tradition allowed her to focus on herself and get better.

CONCEPT 8: Letting Go and Trusting Others. Concept 8 is about allowing others to do their part so we will not become resentful. This member, Christine W. from Illinois shares how she relates this to her family.  This gives others the dignity and responsibility of being part of a functioning group. She shares “I delegate and allow them the freedom to get the job done their way.”


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Focusing on MY OWN LIFE

Paul from Oregon shares how he notices how much more tolerant he has become of others. He used to think he knew what was best for others and thought he could control their behavior. He now realizes that the only thing he can control is HIMSELF.


Stephanie W. from Ontario shares on WHO AM I? She learned in Al-Anon to ask “What do I want? What do I feel? Who am I?” Al-Anon gave her permission to put herself first!


Al-Anon Saved my Life! Carolyn C. From Florida shares how it only took 3 months in Al-Anon to make the self-loving decision to leave the abusive relationship she was in.


NO one told me what I had to do! Mary Jane from NY says that is why she kept coming back!  There are no “musts” in Al-anon just guidance and others sharing their experience, strength and hope!!







06 June 2017

posted Jun 4, 2017, 4:12 AM by Web Master2   [ updated Sep 25, 2017, 6:09 PM ]

Hello!  Enjoy these highlights from the Forum! Please consider ordering yourself a personal copy for only $11 for 12 months!  If your meeting does not have one, order one for them as well!  The best value evah!

 

FORUM HIGHLIGHTS:

CAL Corner: “A Guide for the Family of the Alcoholic” (P-7) is this month’s focus piece of CAL….It is the 55th Anniversary of this pamphlet!  This piece of literature gives us “dos” and “don’ts” as suggestions of course!  Great as a topic for a newcomers meeting or just as a refresher!! It was written by Reverend Kellerman, Director of the Charlotte Council on Alcoholism. He also wrote “Alcoholism, A Merry-Go-Round called Denial (p-3).

                       

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has Hope for Today (B-27), The Dilemma of an Alcoholic Marriage (B-4) or Opening Our Hearts, Transforming Our Losses (B-29) helped you?  Send your thoughts via e-mail to

wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is July 15th 2017.

STEP 6:  Al-Anon is my repair shop:  “Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.”

This member likens their character defects to a flat tire or a cracked window.  Al-anon has the “tools” to repair these defects…A new window helps us see more clearly and inflated tires make for a smooth ride!

TRADITION 6: Safeguard this special place: This member from Virginia talks about the importance of not letting us get “derailed” by outside issues. She speaks that she needs ONLY to identify that she has been affected by the disease of alcoholism….nothing else!

CONCEPT 6: This Takes Major Letting Go:

 Concept 6 is about accountability and how that affects relationships. This member talks of the struggle she sometimes feels as a parent and grandparent with who, when and how each member of her family has their own areas of responsibilities. Al-Anon has taught her to offer her experience, strength and hope ONLY WHEN ASKED. “I put my family in the loving hands of my higher power” she shares.

 

ZIP 23454

It takes COURAGE

We hear this word throughout our literature, and it is mentioned twice in the Serenity Prayer. Courage is part of every one of the 12 steps!

 

LOVING the person NOT the disease! Paula from Florida shares that Al-Anon taught her about the “isms” of the disease. How she has learned to separate the person from the disease. Working the steps showed her she also had many of these “isms”.



05 May 2018

posted May 21, 2017, 3:56 AM by Web Master2   [ updated May 8, 2018, 2:55 AM ]


Spring ….. Is HERE!!

Happy May…Warmer times are here….Enjoy the “New Beginnings” of the season.

If your meeting does not have a subscription, please order a copy of the FORUM for them.  My goal is for each meeting in the State of Maine to have a subscription!  If you are not able to pay for a subscription…. Please message me and we will be giving 22 subscriptions away in the next year !!

May 2018

If we cannot get to a meeting….If we are in a crisis…To look up help on a certain subject…

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has CAL affected your recovery? A little bird told me if you write on the CONCEPTS or TRADITIONS you have a good chance of being published!!  It can be a fun time for your Group to get together! Send comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is 15th of each month!


S-1 District is holding a FORUM writing workshop on Saturday, June 9th from 9:30-12:00 noon

At Holy Cross Lutheran Church in Kennebunk! 3 Lord Street. Come and share!!


STEP 5  “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. What a gift to share this Step with a trusted Sponsor. Feel the relief. Be FREE


TRADITION 5   This share related tradition 5 to a triangle. One side being the support we give our alcoholic relatives & friends, the other is the comfort we give to our fellow Al-Anon members and the last being the base of the triangle representing ourselves and our step work.


CONCEPT 5   Talks this month about the importance of the “minority voice” when we make group decisions.








Al-Anon’s convention is on July 6-8th 2018 in Baltimore,MD  www.al-anon.org/international


Maine’s Summer Convention Is August 23-26th at Ferry Beach in Sacco!  Check out the Maine

AFG website for all the details!! Must save room by June 16th!!!!



03 March 2018

posted Mar 25, 2017, 4:30 AM by Web Master2   [ updated Mar 14, 2018, 4:49 AM ]


Hello!  Spring is on the way, a time for new beginnings!!  Why not treat yourself to your own copy of the Forum!! Until then, enjoy these highlights from the March issue! guidelines are online!!

If your meeting does not have a subscription, please order one for them.  My goal is for each meeting in the State of Maine to have a subscription! If you are not able to pay for a subscription…. Please message me and we will be giving several free subscriptions away in the next month as some wonderful Al-Anon member donated $55 to pay for 5 Forum subscriptions!!

March 2018

If we cannot get to a meeting….If we are in a crisis…To look up help on a certain subject…

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has CAL affected your recovery? A little bird told me if you write on the CONCEPTS or TRADITIONS you have a good chance of being published!!  It can be a fun time for your Group to get together! Send comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is 15th of each month!


This month’s cover story is “All the Trying in the World” Mary from Wisconsin shares that no matter what she tried, it was not enough to get the alcoholic to stop drinking.


Listen to a 110 min audio interview with Al-Anon’s co-founders!! Go to

www.al-anon,org/lois-interview to download it for FREE!


Cliff, a NEWCOMER from Minnesota, shares about finding HOPE in Al-Anon. He was heartened by the laughter and kindness he experienced.


Deb from Alberta reminds us of the acronym J.A.D.E.


And Kay from Oklahoma talks about how SERVICE work lead her out of FEAR and into FAITH


There is a great piece from Mac in Florida sharing his ability to say “NO”. He shares how he chooses now NOT TO ALLOW himself to be manipulated.



Al-Anon’s convention is on July 6-8th 2018 in Baltimore,MD  www.al-anon.org/international



STEP 3:  Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.  Linda B. shares how she made the decision to hand her daughter over to the care of God.


Tradition 3:  “The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.” A member from New York shares on this Tradition and how it led him to be gentle with his mother regarding his father’s drinking problem.


Concept 3:     The right decision makes effective leadership possible.

This member shared how “being right” doesn’t matter to her anymore. She uses prayer and meditation to accept the things she cannot change!


Alateen celebrates 60 years!!  Consider being an Alateen sponsor, ordering some Alateen literature for your Al-Anon meetings or dropping some Alateen literature off at your local JR and SR High school!  Remember we WELCOME teens into our Al-Anon meetings and want them to feel welcome!


Here is a subscription for to the Forum!




12 December 2017

posted Jan 6, 2017, 3:02 AM by Web Master2   [ updated Dec 4, 2017, 5:31 PM ]


Hello!  Enjoy these highlights from the Forum! Please consider ordering yourself a personal copy for only $11 for 12 months!  If your meeting does not have one, order one for them as well!  If you are not able to pay for a subscription…. Please message me and we will be giving several free subscriptions away in the next month as some wonderful Al-Anon member donated $55 to pay for 5 Forum subscriptions!!

December 2017

So many of us have been helped by a piece of Conference Approved Literature! Consider holding a writing workshop before or after one of your meetings!

If we cannot get to a meeting….If we are in a crisis…To look up help on a certain subject…

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has CAL affected your recovery? A little bird told me if you write on the CONCEPTS or TRADITIONS you have a good chance of being published!!  It can be a fun time for your Group to get together! Send comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is 15th of each month!

 

This month’s FORUM is filled with so much! Just in time for the HOLIDAYS!

 

“Taking back the Holidays” is the theme…   This month’s share by Christine from Illinois is about caring for ourselves throughout the holiday season, setting boundaries and other gems to stay sane during this next month!

 

There is an anonymous story about keeping ourselves safe. So important as we tend to lose sight of our own safety when dealing with an active situation.

 

Vali F. Exec. Director shared on the powerful affect a newcomer has to all of us and our meetings. Reminding us of how much courage it takes to just walk in the doors, let alone share!

 

“The Spin Cycle”…. A clever member relates to her journey in Al-Anon to the different cycles of the washing machine! Spoil alert… “Deepwater Wash” was her 4th step inventory!

 

Remember you can go to www.alanon.org/18membersurvey  to complete the 2018 member survey!  They need YOUR input!

 

Step 12    “Sharing the message” talks of how opportunities present themselves for us to share our message of recovery.

 

Tradition 12   “Letting Go of our secrets” The 12th Tradition share speaks about  guarding our anonymity and provides a safe place for us to share.

 

Concept 12    “I’m not the Al-Anon Police”   This Concept reminds us that each meeting, each member is on its own spiritual path.

 

Alateen celebrates 60 years!!  Consider being an Alateen sponsor, ordering some Alateen literature for your Al-Anon meetings or dropping some Alateen literature off at your local JR and SR High school!  Remember we WELCOME teens into our Al-Anon meetings and want them to feel welcome!

 

Wishing everyone a safe and peaceful season.

11 November 2017

posted Dec 5, 2016, 3:14 AM by Web Master2   [ updated Nov 19, 2017, 8:22 AM ]

 

 

Hello!  Enjoy these highlights from the Forum! Please consider ordering yourself a personal copy for only $11 for 12 months!  If your meeting does not have one, order one for them as well!  If you are not able to pay for a subscription…. Please message me and we will be giving several free subscriptions away in the next month as some wonderful Al-Anon member donated $55 to pay for 5 Forum subsciptions!!

November 2017

So many of us have been helped by a piece of Conference Approved Literature!Consider holding a writing workshop before or after one of your meetings!

If we cannot get to a meeting….If we are in a crisis…To look up help on a certain subject…

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has CAL affected your recovery? A little bird told me if you write on the CONCEPTS or TRADITIONS you have a good chance of being published!!  It can be a fun time for your Group to get together! Send comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is 15th of each month!

 

This month’s FORUM is jam packed with SO much wonderful info!

 

We are not ALONE   This month’s share by Gary is about moving from a place of Shame to a place of healing. POWERFUL!

 

There is a section “Are you ready for the Holidays?  I sure need to hear all the good program I can during these months! This is such a difficult time for so many.

 

There is a great 2 page share on SPONSORSHIP.  Both about being a SPONSOR and BEING SPONSORED. The gifts that both sides get from this relationship.

 

A member from Minnesota shares how they are no longer living in FEAR….That with Al-Anon’s help they have worked through the steps. Moving from fear to a place of willingness!

 

THINGS TO THINK ABOUT …  STEP 11

This section asks us how we can improve our relationship with our Higher Power, how do we stay in contact during the day? And what do we pray for? Answers or guidance?

 

A member from Nova Scotia shares about Letting GO of our EXPECTATIONS…. 


 

Alateen celebrates 60 years!!  Consider being an Alateen sponsor, ordering some Alateen literature for your Al-Anon meetings or dropping some Alateen literature off at your local JR and SR High school!

 

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10 October 2017

posted Nov 13, 2016, 12:05 PM by Web Master2   [ updated Oct 11, 2017, 2:57 AM ]

Hello! Enjoy these highlights from the Forum! Please consider ordering yourself a personal copy for only $11 for 12 months! If your meeting does not have one, order one for them as well! If you are not able to pay for a subscription….Please message me and we will be giving several free subscriptions away this year!!


So many of us have been helped by a piece of Conference Approved Literature!

If we cannot get to a meeting….If we are in a crisis…To look up help on a certain subject…

SHARE HOW YOU HAVE BEEN HELPED BY CAL! In what ways has “One Day at a Time in Al-Anon” (B-6) , “Many Voices, One Journey” (B-31), or “Paths to Recovery” workbook (P-93) helped you in your recovery? PLEASE SHARE!! By sending comments to: wso@al-anon.org with CAL Corner in the subject line…deadline is October 15 th 2017.

We don’t always have to be right! A member from Wisconsin shares wonderfully on this topic.

We are not ALONE Melissa from CT shares that she finally understands what this phrase means,

TIMING Lynn from MA shares in her story how “God’s clock keeps perfect time”

SPONSORSHIP Pat from New Jersey shares how when she found a SPONSOR…how it made such a difference in her program. When we share our experience, strength and hope with those who ask….we too are so enriched!

Alateen celebrates 60 years!! Consider being an Alateen sponsor, ordering some Alateen literature for your Al-Anon meetings or dropping some Alateen literature off at your local JR and SR High school!

STEP 10: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. Janine from Ohio shares how working Step 10 has improved her relationships. TRADITION 10: The Al-Anon Family Groups have no opinion on outside issues; hence our name ought never be drawn into public controversy. Pam from FL shares how she used Tradition 10 to improve her relationship with her husband.

CONCEPT 10: Service responsibility is balanced by carefully defined service authority and double headed management is avoided. Jody S. shares how Concept 10 applied to her life lets her take responsibility for only her part.

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