Should I be alarmed if my child says, “I saw my counselor today”?
There is no need to worry. We spend a significant amount of time working with students in their classrooms, cafeteria, hallway and throughout the sch
ool setting. During monthly counseling lessons I partner with teachers to make the school a great place for your child to learn. But remember, sometimes kids like to see the counselor for little things. If a student has a problem they need help solving, has a conflict with another student or wants to share a special accomplishment they might ask to see us. However, we encourage students to go home and share with parents when and why we met. If there is an ongoing issue or major concern, we will call or e-mail parents.

Who refers students to the school counselor?
Parents often ask “Who refers a child to the school counselor?” Sometimes kids self-refer by asking their teacher or by stopping by the Guidance Office and requesting an appointment.  Sometimes parents call the counselors or teachers to let them know of a concern or just that a student needs time to talk.

Here are some reasons a student might talk with the school counselor:
"Someone is bothering me on the bus and I don't know what to do."
"My best friend isn't talking to me and it's making me really sad."
"I want to show you what I just made in art. What do you think of it?."
"I'm new to this school and I'm really nervous!"
"I did some great work and I'm so excited to tell someone!"
"This kid and I had a problem at lunch. Can you help us work it out?"

Here are some reasons a parent might refer to the counselor:
"Sarah doesn't want to go to school in the mornings."
"I'm concerned because Alex keeps telling me that he doesn't have any friends."
"We recently had a death in the family, and I'm not sure how my son/daughter will handle it."
"We’re going through a divorce and think our kids need someone to talk to about it.”
"Jason seems to get really frustrated doing his homework and nothing seems to help."

Here are some reasons a teacher or principal might refer to the school counselor:
"I need some ideas to help Lola develop relationships with peers in our classroom."
"Amos has difficulty focusing on lessons in the classroom."
"Ethan is absent a lot."
"Patrick is new to this school and needs some special attention."
"I've noticed that Amanda seems anxious lately."
"Lindsey is very shy and doesn't seem comfortable building relationships. Can she be in a Friendship Group?"

Links for Families

   learn more about online safety and cyber
*The Children's Place
    help for traumatized children
    all topics related to kids' social, emotional
    health and development
   American School Counselor Association

   parent resources for every age
   child & adolescent psychiatry resources
   resources for learning disabilities and
*Solace House
   local resource for grieving families

*Worry Wise Kids
    resources for anxiety
*KCCAT ore resources for anxiety

    local counseling & mental health resource
    information for Lee's Summit Parent