At midlife, human beings
experience a universal wake-up call. We enter the second half of
life, which Carl Jung described as the time when we are called to
Individuation – to our true purpose and wholeness. We are called
upon to be true to ourselves, which entails finding out who we really
are and what we really believe.
For women, more often than
not, the challenges we face usually center around a loss of a job, of a marriage or of a parent; a significant illness; children
leaving home; and menopause. And sometimes, we feel a loss of
meaning in our lives and we are just called upon to be MORE than we
have been before. We want our life to have MEANING.
Our
psychological and spiritual journey to wholeness has two broad
phases, each with different agendas. The first half of life focuses
on the development of your personality - building a sense of
yourself, which is the ego – as well as differentiating your skills
and abilities. The second half of life involves the integration of all
the disparate parts back together into a unified whole.
The
passageway of midlife joins the first and the second halves of life.
Midlife is the place of transition and transformation that is trying
to aid you in your growth towards someplace positive.
Life needs to have more meaning and focus outside of self. People in
midlife wake up to the fact that they are half-way through their life
and approaching death – which doesn’t really sink into the young
– and they begin to contemplate the deeper meaning of their lives.
They also look forward to the future of their collective world,
seeing the need to bring about change for their children and
grandchildren.
Women in midlife
want to be in control of their own lives. They want to connect to
their own power, and once they do, they want to use it to create a
world – both private and public – that fits their vision of life.
I went through
my midlife transition without the benefit of a mentor, and so I had
to, in many ways, reinvent the wheel. I got through this
transitional time by reconnecting with my Feminine side, allowing
myself to step back from the ‘shoulds’ and ‘oughts’ of who I
was, and listening to the inner voice that taught me how to BE a
whole person.
Midlife and
Individuation Coaching focuses on the shift from where you are to
where you want to go.
Learn how
to step back from DOING things you ‘should’ do.
Understand
what your talents and beliefs are. What are your secret dreams and
desires?
Learn how
to listen within.
Trust in
BEING who you are.
Find a new
way of DOING that fits your personality and your beliefs. Do what
you really want to do.
I can help you.
The most
important step in changing your life is to understand what is no
longer working for you. What is draining your energy? As you begin
to understand that a lot of your DOING comes from others’
expectations, you have an easier time stopping this learned
behavior. I can help you to identify and transform old behavior
patterns that are draining your of life energy.
Through
your Astrological Birth chart or other personality tests, I can help
you articulate who you are and where your talents lie. Then
together we can discover your secret dreams.
Through
Dream Work, accessing the True Imagination, Story Work, meditation
and journaling, you can begin to listen to your own authentic voice.
You discover the archetypal story you are living in – the purpose
of your life.
When you
learn to love and accept yourself, you trust your way of BEING in
the world. Out of this, you can learn to love life again and live
it the way you want to.
Once you
‘belong to yourself’ you will find new ways of DOING things. I
can help you implement your strategy for developing your next steps
in life.
Midlife is a time to look
back and see where you’ve come from and to look ahead to see where
you want to go. Using stories as guides, we can work together to
discover why you made the choices you did – usually unconsciously
following a ‘story script’ not of your own choosing – and where
you want to change the story now that you can make conscious choices
about your life. In my own life, I felt that I had been forced to
accept a role in life I didn’t want. But at midlife, I realized
that I wanted to be the best mother at raising my children.
Out of that commitment, I learned how to really be free and chose the
story and life I wanted to live.
I work with the tools of Archetypal Astrology, Jungian Dreamwork,
Storytelling and the Imagination to open you to the intuitive,
feeling side of life which will inspire your new life. My process
takes you on a journey home to yourself.
