Responding to team members

In times of differing opinions or conflict within your team, how you respond as a leader is important.

  • Pray that the Spirit and not the flesh would lead you in your response.
  • Listen to find out what is happening. Put aside your thoughts and agenda, and actively listen to fully understand everyone's perspectives.
  • Evaluate prayerfully what team members are saying and then make decisions. Is this a legitimate reason for an exception to the guidelines? Would doing this help this person grow spiritually? If so, go for it.
  • Give feedback on the situation and why you are making the decision that you are making. Also, explain the purpose and reason for why the guideline exists. Enter into the situation fully. Do not be quick in dismissing something. Continue to check your attitude.
  • Follow up after the event. Go back to the person and talk about the event. This is a teachable moment to help him or her grow and have heart transformation, rather than just outwardly following a “rule” while having a rebellious heart within.

    Leaders are servant-teachers, not enforcers of law.
  • "One’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."      James 1:20 NLT
  • "Honor one another above yourself."     Romans 12:10
  • "Love is patient, love is kind ... it is not rude, self-seeking, or easily angered."     1 Cor. 13:4-5
  • "The wisdom that comes from heaven is ... peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere."      James 3:17
  • "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs."     Eph. 4:29
Be a servant leader following the model of Christ in order to help others become more fully committed followers of our Lord and Savior.