How can a counselor help me?

The counselor's role is to help students Counselors can help monitor academic progress, time management, friendship issues, and a host of other issues. to understand themselves, accept themselves, and to help them to make decisions that affect their lives.  At North Davie Middle School, the counselor is your point person for setting up meetings, accessing resources, and providing support with academic and social/emotional issues. If the counselor cannot take care of the issue at hand, most of the time they can point you to the right person or resource that can.  

Counselors frequently consult with teachers, the school psychologist, administrators, outside therapists, and community resources. Students utilize our offices frequently.  They meet with us individually, in groups, eat lunch with us, or just come by to say hello.  Counselors help students with the transition from 5th to 6th grade and from 8th to 9th grade.  

To help student’s transition to North Davie in 6th grade, counselors run developmental guidance groups with their respective teams, which involve small group meetings throughout the year.  The program continues in the 7th grade, involving such topics as respecting others and relationships. Much of the 8th grade program involves the transition to the high school.

     Making appointments to see the school counselor

Parents can call to make an appointment to see me at anytime during the school day.  Students can make appointments during the school day by talking to their teacher or leaving me a note.  While PROWL time is often the best time to make appointments, counselors can be busy during that time (running groups and having individual appointments).  When students make appointments during class time, counselors usually meet with them for half the period so a full class is not missed. Counselors may pull students from classes if/when needed.

Common Middle School Issues:

     Friendships in Middle school

If you were to ask most middle schoolers, they would say that their friends mean more to them than almost anything else right now.  Middle school is a social        place. Negotiating friendships can be difficult for some children, and can be a major factor with regard to the transition to middle school.   Because there are        two different feeder elementary schools coming together, it is natural that students’ friendships will shift, sometimes dramatically, during this time.  This can be somewhat tumultuous for some children.  Counselors and teachers are aware of this phenomenon, and are willing to help with this.

     Social Media

Some students use websites such as Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat or utilize texting to chat with friends.  While for older adolescents it can be a great way for kids to communicate with each other, there are obvious pitfalls.  It can be a disruption to evening homework, as the phone and television can be.   Conflict between kids can also be magnified online.  Many kids feel more comfortable confronting each other in cyberspace than they do in person or on the phone.  It is important to monitor Internet use as much as possible. There are many ways for kids to avoid talking to kids and people who are not desirable. One way is to “block” others from seeing you online.  Your internet provider can explain your options to you.  Middle school students often don't have the ability to control their impulses and are not cognitively ready for the responsible use of these modes of communication, they need adult guidance in utilizing these tools.


Students have had different experiences with the level of homework that was expected of them.  The amount of homework that is expected in middle school can be an adjustment for some students. Teachers give homework on most nights and most weekends.  It is advisable for families to schedule evenings with a block of “homework time” even before school begins.  Teachers websites are a good resource to check your students agendas.

     Staying Organized

Middle school presents children with many new challenges.  One major challenge is staying organized.  Students have upwards of 7 different teachers and classes. Learning to negotiate keeping up with assignments and teacher personalities is a learning process throughout middle school.  Most 6th graders struggle with organization, especially during the first quarter.  Teachers will frequently run notebook and locker cleanouts.  It is also advisable to do a backpack cleanout periodically as well. (more on backpacks later)

In order to help students keep up with assignments, each child is given an agenda notebook in the beginning of every year in which they are required to write down their daily assignments and map out their long-term assignments.  Parents are strongly encouraged to check the assignment notebook and completed homework nightly to check whether it’s getting done!  Some students may need help making sure completed work and other materials are getting into the correct place in their notebooks.

     Internet Resources:

     Academic Development


Adolescent Depression


Adoption Issues




Divorce and Separation


Eating Disorders & Body Image

 Resources for Parents - Parent Teacher Association Webpage

Great Schools.Org - A middle school parents’ preparation for college guide

Health Insurance Online - A database of health information for kids and adults

Read, Write, Think - Resources to help parents with their child’s literacy

Middle School Web Resources - Valuable information for both parents and teachers

US Dept. of Education - search for student aid resources by state


Students With Disabilities - Attention Deficit Disorder Association - Learning Disability Resources - National Center for Learning Disabilities -Federation for Children with Special Needs


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Jun 29, 2015, 10:04 AM
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