Want To Quit Drinking?
So you, or someone you know, wants to quit drinking?
The following guide contains the tips that other recovering alcoholics have found useful to get started.
MAKING A START IN ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS
YOU MAKE A START
You have made a decision. You’ve taken Step One and said to yourself; “Yes, I’m one of those people who is powerless over alcohol.” “My life has become unmanageable.” “I can’t stop drinking and I want help.” You have discovered, as it says in the Big Book, that alcohol is cunning, baffling and powerful.
In order to stop drinking, and stay stopped, there are a few simple principles that you will need to apply to your life. These principles are AA’s program of recovery. They can work for you as effectively as they have worked for countless others. Following are some suggestions, which we feel will be of help to you on your path of recovery.
LIVE ONE DAY AT A TIME
Alcoholics Anonymous is a “one day at a time” way of living. We try to break life into small pieces we can handle. We stay sober one day at a time, or when necessary, one hour at a time. We do our jobs, one task at a time. We clean up our past, one mess at a time. And we conscientiously try to turn our lives and our will over to the care of a Higher Power, as we understand Him.
In learning to apply the AA principles to our lives, we ask for help from other AA members, from our sponsors, and from our Higher Power, whom most of us come to depend upon for our recovery.
GO TO MEETINGS
All over the Maricopa County area, every day of the year – mornings, afternoons and evenings, there is help in the form of meetings for you and for every alcoholic who wants help. Attend in person or online.
Use the handy AFI Meeting list, Valley wide meeting list or the Arizona Area (03) meeting list which you can get at most meeting literature tables or at the Intergroup Office. Every member should have a copy of a meeting list. Then take in as many meetings as you can. As one AA member says, “The Big Book is your road map, the meetings are your filling stations.”
GET A SPONSOR
A few members may tell you that they got sober without the aid of a sponsor, and they may be telling the truth. However, our AA experience tells us that you will have a much better chance with a sponsor than without one. In AA you will probably find that your sponsor is a vital part of your program of recovery.
Your sponsor will listen to you and give you suggestions; tell you what works form them; point out trouble spots and help you decide what to do about them. In other words, your sponsor helps you to understand the AA program and guides you along the path of recovery.
Though sponsors can’t solve all your problems, they help you face up to them with honesty and courage, and find ways to solve them by using the AA program. You can usually count on sponsors to do their part, and to encourage you to do yours.
HAVE A HOME GROUP
When some of us were introduced to AA through a particular group, we thought we had been assigned to that group and should not go to other meetings. Nothing could be further from the truth. Feel free to visit various groups. But sooner or later you should settle down to a regular meeting that you want to consider your “home group”.
However, having a home group should not keep you from going to other meetings. Attend as many meetings as you feel the need for. And then a couple more! There are many different types of groups available. The home group you choose should be one in which you can get sober, stay sober, and feel you are a part of.
Your home group ought to be the place where you are challenged to keep growing and where you feel you have so many friends you can’t afford to stay away!
Home group membership comes with the right to vote upon issues that might affect the group and might also affect AA as a whole – a process that form the very cornerstone of AA service structure. As with all group conscience matters, each AA member has one vote and this, ideally, is voiced through their home group.
READ THE BOOKS
As soon as you can, we suggest that you read these important books, which explain the AA program of recovery, our history and our Twelve Traditions.
“Alcoholics Anonymous” (The Big Book)
“12 Steps and 12 Traditions”
“AA Comes of Age”
“As Bill Sees It” (The AA Way of Life)
“Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers”
These books are AA General Service Conference approved literature. We suggest that you read them…and re-read them. They can be a constant source of inspiration and understanding. Many of us begin our “Quiet Times” by reading a chapter or paragraph from one of them. They are the basic source of our program of recovery.
Other AA literature is available and can be found on the literature table at most AA meetings and at your local Intergroup Office. We feel it can be helpful as you travel the road to happy sobriety.
There are also two excellent periodicals that most of us read. One is the AA Grapevine, which is filled with helpful articles for the alcoholic who wants to get well and stay that way.
The other is the Agua Fria Flyer, our Intergroup’s monthly Newsletter that is read by members all over Maricopa County and Statewide.
You can arrange to have these helpful publications mailed to you regularly. Ask your group secretary or call the Intergroup Office for details.
INCLUDE THE FAMILY
It is said that the average practicing alcoholic affects the lives of at least five other people and that alcoholism is a family illness. We find that the family that gets sick together can often recover together. The best way to do this is to share your program of recovery with them.
Open Meetings: Take your spouse, other members of your family or interested friends to hear the stories of AA speakers and to share in the fellowship of other AA families after the meetings. Open meetings are listed in both the Valley wide and the Area (03) meeting lists.
Social Events: Groups regularly sponsor special suppers, dances, picnics and other social activities for AA members and their families.
AA Conferences: Weekend conferences at resorts and hotels are held throughout the year and offer activities for AA members and their families. Often, Al-Anon and Alateen meetings are held at the same time. “The Agua Fria Flyer” and the “A.A. Grapevine” publish notices of these conferences.
The Al-Anon Family Groups, designed for members of the alcoholic’s family, hold “closed” meetings just as AA groups do. They use AA’s twelve steps of recovery to help them understand the alcoholic and to adjust and improve their own lives. Al-Anon membership is available to the spouse of the alcoholic or other concerned persons. The AlAnon Family Groups have their own organization – separate from AA.
ASK YOUR CENTRAL OR INTERGROUP OFFICE
When you need help and can’t reach your sponsor, call your Intergroup Office. They will try to help, or will find help for you.
You can contact your Intergroup Office to find AA literature or if you are moving or visiting another area and need to find a new AA group. They will help you find meetings and addresses. If you’d like to get your spouse in contact with Al-Anon, the office has a contact number.
Much like your sponsor, group secretaries will most likely help you in every way they can. If you need a Big Book, AA pamphlets or the phone number of a group member ask them. If the secretary is unable to help, or is not available remember you can always call the Intergroup Office.
Number: (623) 937-7770 Hotline or (623) 937-7836 Office Line
WHEN YOU TRAVEL
Just as you found friends in meetings everywhere in the Maricopa County area, you will also find helpful members in almost every city and town in the United States and parts of the free world.
Whenever you travel, take U.S., Canadian or International directories with you. They contain group listings, meeting nights and names of AA’s whom you can phone to keep in touch or help you get to a meeting when you are away from home. Copies of these directories are available at the Intergroup Office. All groups, which register with the General Service Office in New York, automatically receive new directories each year.
Look in the phone book in most cities under “Alcoholics Anonymous” and you will find either an answering service or an AA Central Office that will help you make an AA contact. You are never very far from an AA meeting.
BE A “PART OF”
So now you’ve made a start. If you are like some of us, we think you will find these suggestions will be of help on your journey to a comfortable, happy sobriety.
Remember that you never have to be alone if you use the tools that AA has to offer. Alcoholics Anonymous wants to provide support and guidance to all alcoholics who reach out for help. Our very survival requires that we carry the message to the alcoholic who still suffers. We need you. Join us, participate, and become a part of our program of recovery.
(We wish to thank Chicago Central Office and Ventura County Central Service Office for their contribution to this pamphlet.)