_ The right kind of man will take you exactly as you are, insecurity and all, without trying to lower your expectations or complicating your life, because he wants to be a part of it. The right kind of man will understand that you have been through stuff too and will want nothing from you if not your trust — the real thing, not one faked for his attention.
__ In short: The right kind of man is probably no better than you are at dating, but would never try to convince anyone else otherwise because he knows what kind of damage that does. He isn’t going to play games with your heart or waste your time while he waits for something better because he doesn’t believe there is anything better out there . He has seen the worst and still believes in second chances , third times a charm , et cetera et cetera.
__ If you want to know if this is your guy, then you will have to date him long enough for things to go wrong . Wait around long enough and the bad times are sure to come — they do for everyone, even those who seem perfect at first glance. He’ll let his guard down eventually; that’s when you’ll start seeing through to his core values and pick up on any serious red flags before it’s too late (because once it is, there is no going back).
__ A real man isn't afraid of a little hard work because he knows how much more fulfilling life becomes after his efforts pay off. He doesn’t see commitment as a bad word or a failure of independence because he knows how great it is to share his life with someone else. And when he says, "You complete me," he means that you make him a better man — not the other way around.
__ Please don't say no one ever told you this before .
A real man won't let insecurity and jealousy keep him from opening up and letting you in on the deeper parts of his character — or at least trying to — because they know that we all have demons we must fight alone. Being there for someone just makes our own journey easier, after all...and more rewarding .