General Resources by Order of Usefulness, with Comments
There Is No Silver Bullet
The one change I've made that has helped me the most with my chronic pain condition was to give up. I had to quit looking for a cure, quit looking for a way to fix myself, in order to get better. It was the key that opened the door to wellness. The search for the diagnosis, the cure, left me frustrated, dejected, and still in pain. It gradually dawned on me that my condition probably is the result of many contributing factors, many of them related to physical, emotional and mental habits that are not diagnosable or curable in any conventional sense. My case, like every case of chronic pain, is unique, but I'm also pretty sure that I am not entirely atypical. So, it's likely that others who have chronic pain might be able to benefit from my experience. If you suffer from chronic pain, I hope that something that has helped me will also help you. Here, in the order of perceived effectiveness, are the most beneficial resources I've discovered to date.
The Stanford Protocol for treatment of chronic pelvic pain was developed at the
Stanford University Department of Urology. The single most important step I took toward healing was to buy and read the book A Headache in the Pelvis,
by David Wise and Robert Anderson, which outlines the protocol. The
protocol involves self-administered trigger point massage, stretching,
and paradoxical relaxation. The department offers a six-day clinic for
patients who have chronic pelvic pain, where patients are taught the
protocol. In the back of my mind, I kept open the option of going to
the clinic as a treatment of last resort, but I was able to glean
everything I needed from the book.
Trigger Point Massage
Self-administered trigger point massage is the most effective method I've found so far for managing chronic pelvic pain. The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook, by Clair Davies, is the resource for trigger point massage.
The Pressure Positive Company sells the Knobble and the Backnobber, and the Thera Cane Company sells the Thera Cane, all tools I use during my daily trigger point massage routine--along with a tennis ball.
I've built up my massage routine slowly, adding in different
muscles one at a time. Trying to add in too many new massages or
stretches at the same time can lead to confusion if the new routine
seems to be leading toward pain instead of wholeness. The first couple of days
with a new muscle massage can be uncomfortable. But generally, by the
end of the first week, I can tell whether I'm benefiting. If I feel I'm
not benefiting, I discard the new massage.
Body Movement and Use, and Paradoxical Relaxation
I have found that the way I habitually move and sit and stand has contributed to my chronic pain condition. The book Senses Wide Open, by
Johanna Putnoi, first opened my eyes to the interaction between mind and body. A few years ago, I took some introductory lessons in the
Alexander Technique
I've been seeing Rachelle Tsachor,
a local movement therapist, and have had excellent results. For one
thing, Rachelle pointed out that most chairs are too low for me, which
causes my hamstrings to shorten while I sit. I got a new chair at
work, a Safco Highland
mid-range chair. It's made a big difference. Rachelle also helped me
with my stretching routine. Some of the stretches I'd been doing
weren't doing what I thought they were doing. She showed me some new
stretches that are more effective. She also has done Alexander
Technique work with me. Instead of focusing on the "correct" way to
move, I'm now concentrating on ease of movement.
Conscious relaxation seems to me to be related to body movement and use. Consciously relaxing while
experiencing discomfort or pain--paradoxical relaxation--is a central
technique of the Stanford Protocol. People commonly will tense muscles
in response to pain. In paradoxical relaxation, when I become aware of
pain or discomfort, or of the muscular tension resulting from pain, I
consciously invite my muscles to relax. Mindfulness is a component of
paradoxical relaxation; I cannot relax if I'm not aware I'm in pain or
am tense.
Stretching
The best stretches I've found are very
passive, demanding very little muscular activity in any part of my
body. Rachelle Tsachor, my movement therapist, has been the best resource for stretching that I've found. Several stretches I'd been using were not stretching the muscles I thought they were stretching, and I also learned how to stretch in a more passive, let-go kind of way. Bob Anderson's book, Stretching, has also been very helpful, as has Bruce Thomson's EasyVigour web site. I've also found a number of good stretches at ExRx.
Whatever the source of the stretches I use, I've had to be very gentle
with them and have had to do them while listening intently to my whole
body.
As with massage, I've gradually built up my stretching routine,
adding in one new stretch at a time. With each stretch, I back off
whenever I feel tension building anywhere in my body. Sometimes I still
get carried away and overdo, and then I pay the price the next couple
of days. But I know that if I back away and treat my body with respect,
the pain will pass.
Meditation and Mindfulness
Even before my chronic
pelvic pain symptoms appeared, I'd practiced meditation for many years,
and I'd been trying to cultivate mindfulness via the teachings of Pema Chodron. Knowing that mindfulness was also used medically for chronic pain, I took the
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program at
The University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics. The program is modeled after the one created by Jon Kabat-Zinn at the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of Massachusetts Medical School.
Mindfulness helps me deal with pelvic pain when it arises, it helps me
recognize anxiety and stress that contribute to muscle tension, and it
helps me release longtime habits of holding tension in areas of my
body. In the guise of paradoxical relaxation, it plays a big part in
the Stanford Protocol. Meditation goes hand-in-hand with mindfulness,
and in fact, the University of Massachusetts mindfulness program
includes meditation.
The Center for Mindfulness has a global directory of mindfulness programs. Jon Kabat-Zinn has written the excellent book,
Full Catastrophe Living,
which outlines the basic program he developed at the Center for
Mindfulness. A person could possibly do the whole program on their own,
based on this book. There are many other resources on meditation and
mindfulness, lots of books and tapes and CDs.
Chiropracty
I've been fortunate to have found a good chiropracter,
Dr. Kyle Deden.
Kyle listens to me and has a good knowledge of soft-tissue conditions
and issues along with his expertise in joint problems. His insights and
comments have helped me learn about what's going on with my body and
have pointed me in useful directions for self-treatment.
Qi Gong and Tai Chi
Years ago, a friend gave me the book Opening the Energy Gates of Your Body, by
Bruce Frantzis.
The dissolving qi exercise presented in this book has been extremely
valuable for me. Nights when I am awake with pain and the ibuprofen
doesn't work, dissolving qi always gives me great relief. Whether or
not there's anything to the idea of qi--nonphysical life energy--it
works for me. I've recently been taking Tai Chi lessons from Don Arenz, which also seems to be helping.
Heat, Ultrasound and Medication
Hot baths, hot showers,
and a heating pad all gave temporary relief, and I still often use a
heating pad or a hot shower with a pulse-massage showerhead after I
stretch. The ultrasound treatments I received during physical therapy
were very effective in the short term. I've taken ibuprofen at night,
and it helps to take the edge off of the worst pain. But generally, I
try to avoid nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) as much as
possible. I have also tried baclofen, a muscle relaxer, at night, and
it seems to help. I received two steroid injections, courtesy of Dr.
Timothy Maves, which helped for a couple of weeks. They peeled back
some of the pain, which gave me some insights into exactly which
muscles might be most effectively massaged. All these therapies are
only short-term bandaids, not real remedies, and steroids and NSAIDs
have some serious drawbacks.
Counseling and EMDR
Chronic pain and urinary symptoms
sometimes made me feel anxious, frustrated, angry, depressed, isolated,
and ashamed. Also, it seemed to me that at least some of the bodily
tension that contributed to my chronic pain condition might be due to
patterns of holding or repressing anger or other emotions. And the fact
that my symptoms appeared around the time that my wife and I became
empty nesters also made me wonder whether there was some psychological
component to my condition. So, I saw a counselor for awhile, Susan
Fisher.
In A Headache in the Pelvis, Wise and Anderson recommend eye movement desensitization and reprocessing
(EMDR) as a method to work with the mental and emotional aspects of
chronic pelvic pain. Susan happened to be an EMDR practitioner, so
besides more traditional counseling techniques, we tried EMDR. I know
that EMDR is somewhat controversial, but the therapy did bring up some
issues that seemed related to my condition, and the technique did seem
to defuse or resolve them to some degree.
Inspiration
Pema Chodron is a Buddhist nun who teaches practices to develop mindful compassion. Her books, especially Start Where You Are,When Things Fall Apart, and The Wisdom of No Escape,
help me be present with the pain, anxiety, and hopelessness that can
arise from chronic pelvic pain. Her mindfulness techniques also have
helped me see how the way I react to events in my life can contribute
to muscle tension and pain. But beyond that, her writing helps me
accept myself exactly as I am--the perfect antidote to the feeling of
brokeness that accompanies chronic pelvic pain.
Rachel Naomi Remen is a doctor who has brought spirituality into the practice of medicine. Her books Kitchen Table Wisdom and My Grandfather's Blessings
contain stories of how people can find peace, hope and a type of
healing when confronted with great pain or even death. Simply reading a
story or two now and then has had a deep effect on how I look at my own
condition.
Summary
Books
Anderson, Bob. Stretching
Chodron, Pema. Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living
Chodron, Pema. When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
Chodron, Pema. The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving-Kindness
Davies, Clair. The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook: Your Self-Treatment Guide for Pain Relief
Finando, Donna. Trigger Point Self-Care Manual for Pain-Free Movement
Frantzis, Bruce. Opening the Energy Gates of Your Body: Chi Gung for Lifelong Health
Gelb, Michael J. Body Learning: An Introduction to the Alexander Technique
Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness
Putnoi, Johanna. Senses Wide Open: The Art & Practice of Living in Your Body
Remen, Rachel Naomi. Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories of Strength, Refuge, and Belonging
Remen, Rachel Naomi. My Grandfather's Blessings: Stories That Heal
Vineyard, Missy. How You Stand, How You Move, How You Live: Learning the Alexander Technique to Explore Your Mind-Body Connection and Achieve Self-Mastery
Williamson, Craig. Muscular Retraining for Pain-Free Living
Wise, David, and Rodney Anderson. A Headache in the Pelvis: A New Understanding and Treatment for Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome
Massage Tools
The Pressure Positive Company
Thera Cane Company
Web sites
American Society for the Alexander Technique
Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society
EasyVigour
EMDR International Association
ExRx
Pelvic Pain Help (The Stanford Protocol)