Remember: Respect is a Two Way Street
Children learn about being respectful when they are treated with respect. To set a respectful example for your child:
- Be Calm. When your chlid talks back, it's tempting to react strongly. Use a calm response instead. "I see that your're upset. Let's wait to discuss this when you can speak respectfully.
- Avoid Labels. Saying, "You're so lazy" will not earn respectful behavior from your child. It might even promote misbehavior.
- Listen to your child. When your child is talking, give her your full attention. Don't let anything else interfere with your conversation.
- Give positive attention. Point out her respectful behavior. Make a point of praising her.
- Be accepting. Respect your child's ideas and feelings--even if you can't relate to them. If she's sad about losing a game, don't say, "It's not that important."