INTRODUCTION

Chapter Seven The Quality that Inspires Love

In the three foregoing chapters we have discussed the essentials of personal magnetism--healthy physical condition, healthy and wholesome thinking, and never failing pride and self-respect.

But it was established long ago that for a woman to be completely and absorbingly fascinating to a man,
she must emphasize the differences between herself and him, not the similarities.

A man simply cannot derive any joy or satisfaction from cherishing and protecting a woman who can obviously do very well without him. He delights only in cherishing and sheltering the woman who needs his manly care, or who at least appears to need it.

The bigger, manlier, and the more sensible a man is, the more he seems to be attracted by this quality. What happens when the average red-blooded man comes in contact with an obviously able, intellectual, and competent woman, manifestly independent of any help a mere man can give and capable of meeting him or defeating him upon his own ground? He simply doesn't feel like a man any longer. In the presence of such strength and ability in a mere woman, he feels like a futile, ineffectual imitation of a man. It is the most uncomfortable and humiliating sensation a man can experience; so that the woman who arouses it becomes absolutely repugnant to him. Every real man looks upon true women as tender, frail and gentle creatures, who, like beautiful flowers, need all the care and protection a man can offer them; and the most pleasant sensation a real man can experience is his consciousness of the power to give this manly care and protection. Rob him of this sensation of superior strength and ability and you rob him of his manliness.

If she "shrinks from a spider, or hops on a chair at sight of a mouse, how splendidly strong and manly he feels that he can laugh at such trembling," and what a sensation of power and superiority it gives him to calm her fears and rout the offender. Her apparent helplessness arouses every strain of chivalry within him.

The apparent need of the woman for a man’s protection, instead of arousing contempt of her lack of ability, appeals to the very best and noblest feelings within him.

Why Young Girls Attract Men.

This explains why very young girls have so much greater fascination for men than women ten or fifteen
years older. The latter have so much more experience, so much the air of being able to kill their own snakes, that men cannot feel like heroes in their presence. If these women will dispense with their air of strength and ability, of competence and fearlessness, and will acquire instead an air of frail dependence upon man to take care of them, they will often be equally as winsome as younger women are.

Manly men are most attracted where they can best play the part of man and hero. They can only play this part when the women seem to them delicate, fragile, tender, timid, and dependent upon man for care and protection. Imagine his attempting to play the hero before a woman whose ability and independence make his heroism seem ridiculously unnecessary!

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The Attribute That Arouses Love. 

HERE, THEN, YOU HAVE THE FOURTH ESSENTIAL, THE ONE WHICH SERVES TO EMPHASIZE THE FASCINATING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MAN AND WOMAN. WITHOUT THIS AIR OF TENDERNESS, FRAILTY, AND DELIGHTFULLY HUMAN AND CUDDLESOME GIRLISHNESS, YOU CAN HAVE A MAGNETIC PERSONALITY, BUT NOT A FEMININE ONE--AN ADMIRABLE CHARACTER, BUT NOT A LOVABLE ONE. WITHOUT IT YOU CANNOT MAKE ANY APPEAL TO A MAN'S CHIVALRY, THE DESIRE TO ACT THE PART OF MAN AND HERO, AND YOU CANNOT THEREFORE BE DELIGHTFULLY CAPTIVATING. THIS AIR IS WHAT CONSTITUTES FEMININITY. THE CULTIVATION OF THIS AIR WILL MAKE A WOMAN EVERYTHING THAT IS ATTRACTIVE IN MEN'S EYES--CHARMING, APPEALING, GENTLE, TIMID, CUDDLESOME, LOVABLE, DAINTY, EXQUISITE, AND ALTOGETHER TOO TENDERLY BEWITCHING TO BE ALLOWED TO GO THROUGH LIFE WITHOUT HIS GUIDANCE, CARE AND PROTECTION. THIS AIR IS WHAT AROUSES IN HIM THE DESIRE TO CHERISH AND PROTECT THAT IS UNIVERSALLY CALLED LOVE.

How to Acquire It.

Only two things need be done in order to acquire this air. The first is to observe the women who have it, to watch their mannerisms, their actions, their dress, their voices, and their words. You will soon be able to recognize these fluttering little birds at sight-as the men can.

The second thing to do is to practice every trick of manner, voice, dress, and action which you have observed in these cuddlesome creatures, and to practice it incessantly. If you think it beneath your dignity to practice in public, practice only in private until you feel that you can play the part of a winsome little girl with perfect naturalness.

To show the effect which the practice of such tricks has upon men, we will quote the following from Sir Roger de Coverly's paper on "The Widow": 

“But when I came there, a beautiful Creature in a Widow's Habit sat in Court, to hear the Event of a
Cause concerning her Dower. This commanding Creature (who was born for Destruction of all who behold her) put on such a Resignation in her Countenance, and bore the Whispers of all around the court with such a pretty Uneasiness, I warrant you, and then recovered herself from one Eye to another, till she was perfectly confused by meeting something so wistful in all she encountered, that at last, with a Murrain to her [she seemed bewitched], she cast her bewitching Eye upon me. I no sooner met it, but I bowed like a great surprised Booby; and knowing her cause to be the first which came on, I cried, like a captivated Calf that I was, Make Way for the Defendant's Witnesses. This sudden partiality made all the County immediately see the Sheriff also was become a Slave to the fine Widow. During the Time her Cause was upon Trial, she behaved herself, I warrant you, with such a deep Attention to her Business, took Opportunities to have little billets handed to her Counsel, then would be in such a pretty Confusion, occasioned you must know, by acting before so much Company that not only I, but the whole Court, was prejudiced in her favor; and all that the next Heir to her Husband had to urge, was thought so groundless and frivolous, that when it came to her Counsel to reply, there was not half so much said as every one besides in the Court thought he could have urged to her Advantage."

Make Yourself Somebody's Pet.

In acquiring this air of femininity, it is advisable, in addition to studying exceptionally feminine women and
practicing their tricks of manner, that you make yourself somebody's pet; for the air of expecting to be petted and
humored is one of the most appealing feminine tricks of all. You can make yourself the pet of your father,
your grandfather, your uncle, or your big brother. If you lack such an accommodating relative, then see if you
can't get every man you meet to humor and spoil you. This humoring and spoiling is the natural homage men
owe to womankind; you can insist upon their paying it to you without the loss of an atom of your
self-respect.

We have just observed how the widow accomplished this--the sweet resignation of her countenance, her pretty uneasiness, her confusion at finding herself stared at, her hesitancy at acting before so much company, her arch pretense of absorption in her business.

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The Story About "The Family Pet." 

The best way to learn how to make yourself somebody's pet, how to bring out these contrasts, is to watch the spoiled daughter of an indulgent father. We will now follow one of them through the day, beginning with her appearance at breakfast in a dainty boudoir cap and an adorably cuddlesome dressing gown. Dad is buried behind his newspaper in an easy chair, and for once pays no attention to her, mother is busy superintending the preparation of breakfast, and big brother has not yet made his appearance. She waits a minute or two for her Dad to greet her, then creeps up to him and quickly snatches the paper out of his hands. Dad looks up in astonishment and beholds a pouting daughter looking upon him with rebukeful eyes. Dad knows very well what is the matter, but he asks her just for the sake of hearing her tell him. "I want to be noticed” she informs him in an affectedly hurt tone.

At the breakfast table Our Pet is very archly and obviously attentive to her father's wants. She passes
him this and that, presses him to take another helping of something else, insists upon his having another cup of coffee, and refuses to let him drop his own sugar in it. Big brother, who has meantime appeared, looks at Dad with understanding eyes, and asks him what he thinks she wants now. Mother and Dad both laugh at this sally, for this little play has been enacted time and time again. Our Pet now assumes a deeply injured air, as much as to say "You don't appreciate my kindness to you," making both Big Brother and Dad feel rather brutal for injuring her delicate feelings.

Obey Your Instincts.

We believe we have made it sufficiently clear for you to adapt it to your own everyday life and everyday companions. We believe that with a little patience and perseverance in attempting this method, you will have little trouble in making yourself the humored and spoiled pet of almost any man you select.  You must, however, drop every suggestion in speech, apparel and manner that you are able to kill your own snakes, or to take care of your own affairs, or to disdain the guidance and care of men. Following this method will give you that subtle quality of character, that femininity, which more than anything else attracts men to women. But don't imagine that the mere reading of this chapter, the realization of these facts, will help you any. You must practice incessantly….Practice this method day after day, week after week, and month after month, until you become so irresistibly, cuddlesomely, and adorably feminine that men will fight for the chance to take care of you. This one attribute, femininity, outweighs in importance all the other qualifications of a magnetic woman combined. WITHOUT THIS FEMININITY, YOU MAY BE A GREAT AND POWERFUL CHARACTER, BUT IN A MAN'S EYES YOU WILL NOT BE A WOMAN. A MAN ISN'T INTERESTED IN AND DOESN'T WANT A GREAT AND POWERFUL CHARACTER--HE WANTS A WOMAN.

How Love Is Inspired.

This quality, which we have called femininity, is what inspires love in man. Other qualities may command respect, admiration, esteem, and interest, but only this one can produce affection.

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Chapter Seven The Quality that Inspires Love.

Please email me your answers with your "name" and assignment number to 1Femmy@gmail.com.  Thank you.

Due by midnight, Wednesday, August 19, 2009. 

1.       What happens when “the average red-blooded man comes in contact with an obviously able, intellectual, and competent woman, manifestly independent of any help a mere man can give and capable of meeting him or defeating him upon his own ground?”

2.       List two things older women can do to be equally as winsome as younger women.

3.       Fill in:  “Imagine his attempting to play the ________ before a woman whose ________ and ______________ make his heroism seem _____________  unnecessary!”

4.       What is the “air” that constitutes femininity and arouses in him the desire to cherish and protect?

5.       What two things need to be done to acquire this air?

6.       List the five feminine tricks  “The Widow” used on her male audience.

7.       Try to find up to fourteen steps “The Family Pet” takes to inspire her father to spoil her.

8.       Make yourself somebody’s pet.  List at least two strategies you will imitate from our two feminine examples.